So I finally came clean to my parents.

[welsh_girl]

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Glad to see you felt it was the right time bro. Hope they properly come around soon and see there' nothing wrong with having different sexualities.

[samurai7694]

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big congrats and props for having the guts to tell your parents (y)


and hmmm this looks good

*sip*

[Cavernio]

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Well, sounds like your dad already knows it's not a choice to me...'gays get married to women', implying they're still gay and therefore, don't have the choice of not being gay even though their actions are straight. Maybe your dad's gay himself...

Well, you can be happy knowing that at least society accepts gays as they are.
Honestly, in your shoes I'd probably not talk to my parents for years if they told me I was choosing 'wrong'. You're a better person than me.

[flipsta_lombax]

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@Cavernio: How my dad "curses" and make such implications, I actually wouldn't be surprised. It crossed my mind during the first talk, even though I doubt it. But he claims to "hate" gay people.

I didn't want to bump this back up, but after only two days of coming out the closet to my parents, the relationship has whirled into lower hell, and am willing to vent it here since I can.. and I trust that the community will continue to take the situation in a sane manner:

Getting out of work last night I get a text from my dad saying we need to talk. Hmm, de ja vu, I wondered. So I got home and we did. The talk: he and my mom does not want to see me anymore. They are not going to accept the fact I am the way I am and are STILL convince I can change it. Until I change my ways, get a wife and kids, I am no longer welcomed in the house nor am I considered their son. Every word verbatim. The folks' solution: Live a lie. It's better than going to hell for being gay. Perfect logic makes perfect sense..

Disowned? Pretty much. Didn't say a word again because actually expected all this. Nor do I have

They throw out how I am selfish, always thinking of myself, when in reality I came back for them to be a family again and help out with mortgage. Apparently, it didn't work out and being gay aggravated the already shaky relationship. I got called dirty. And in this discussion, more religious banter came out and that's where it got irritating to even listen. Sodom and Gomorrah here, your fate is going to hell there. In my head I kept laughing.

They want me to move out as soon as possible. I told them I'm moving out on the 10th. They said can you make it any sooner?

But anyway, I'm actually am very glad I told these folks of mine my true self, because I in turn got to see their true colors. I don't know who is the bigger hypocrite here, please tell me. And to be honest, I am the slightest phased by the situation, though I'm just a bit shocked they would go this far. I can only imagine what they had done to me if I came out any younger or sooner. To add to their insecurity, they said if any other family member finds out, they claim they're going to be looked at as failures.

I'm letting family members know very soon.

[Aldentron]

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To add to their insecurity, they said if any other family member finds out, they claim they're going to be looked at as failures.

I'm letting family members know very soon.

you are a badass

if that's the way they treat you, good riddance. did your parents expect you to be the key to heaven? lol.

[All_That_Chaz]

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While it might feel good to tell family members to get some measure of vengeance on your parents for being incredible bigots, if they're anything like your parents you aren't going to get the response you want. I also think you're bigger than that. I can't imagine what it's like cutting ties with your parents, much less having them doing the cutting. I'm sorry it turned out like this, but it sounds like you prepared yourself for this response. It's good that you gauged how bad it could be before you told them, because this is ridiculous. Oh well. You're your own man now. You can and do take care of yourself. We're here if you need help.

[Emo_Saur_]

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Things have taken a pretty bad turn, I hope all goes well. Just remember this though, flipsta is an independent homosexual, and doesn't afraid of anything.

[flipsta_lombax]

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While it might feel good to tell family members to get some measure of vengeance on your parents for being incredible bigots, if they're anything like your parents you aren't going to get the response you want. I also think you're bigger than that. I can't imagine what it's like cutting ties with your parents, much less having them doing the cutting. I'm sorry it turned out like this, but it sounds like you prepared yourself for this response. It's good that you gauged how bad it could be before you told them, because this is ridiculous. Oh well. You're your own man now. You can and do take care of yourself. We're here if you need help.

I never expected to be the one whose parents can't accept their own blood for what he is. Though telling family members may seem like a vengeful act, my reason for telling them would be the same when I told my parents: just to exploit the truth.

Whatever happens from there is their own discretion. If the whole family disowns me, they can go ahead, idgaf. I can start my own family in a non-conception kind of way, really.

[Cavernio]

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Glad to hear you can make it without them at least. You haven't done anything wrong, and you shouldn't have to explain yourself to them. You did your best. Don't feel like you should live a fake life because of them. Anyone who says they're christian but will treat you like that is being hypocritical, (even if believing homosexuality's a sin its still not christian). It's not your problem if other family members view them as failures, they've chosen to not take your help and support. There's only so much you can do. Maybe in time things will change for them.
I often think I'd be a much happier person without my parents in my life...it's much easier to not feel like you've done something wrong if you constantly aren't reminded by it. Let me know if you ever figure out how to stop giving a shit about what your parents think of you.

[Xx{Midnight}xX]

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It's people like them, that make Christians look so horribly bad.

A shame it took a turn that way.

[reptile3141]

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Holy sh*t, that's disgusting. :'( Best of luck to you, dude. <333

[All_That_Chaz]

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What do you mean by, "just to exploit the truth?" Did you mean "expose?"

And it's easy to say that you don't care what they do. If that's true, then you're thicker-skinned than I am. Just be sure you reach out to those who care about you if you need help. Having your family fall apart isn't fun.

[flipsta_lombax]

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What do you mean by, "just to exploit the truth?" Did you mean "expose?"

And it's easy to say that you don't care what they do. If that's true, then you're thicker-skinned than I am. Just be sure you reach out to those who care about you if you need help. Having your family fall apart isn't fun.

Yes, I got fancy with words there. But as long it does not harm me in any way and keep me from living my life, I really don't care. I'll be moving in with a roommate, and have friends to reach out to. I don't think me out of the family is a problem here, I'm not too close with most of them anyways.

[DustyFart]

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Wow I'm sorry to hear all this.

[All_That_Chaz]

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Ken I've known you for 5 years (wow I have totally known you for 5 years - I was just a little 22 year old Chaz finishing college back then :3). You've basically been away from your blood family the whole time I've known you. I don't doubt that you're capable of finding your way on your own. It's just the psychological stress of knowing that they aren't there anymore that has changed. I know you've felt on your own for a long time, but this is a significant change and I just want to make sure that you don't get too lonely.

Cuz my milkshake brings them all to the yard. And you're welcome to my yard.