Topic concerning all teenagers

Excellent post, Shox. Resisting the urges is incredibly tough, but it pays off.

--Guido

Excellent post, many points stated. Particularlily like how you point out Abstinence is the only foolproof birth control. Im not anti sex, but this does make me think about everything past the moment revolving around it.

Agreed.

More boys like you should exist, Shox.

I gave my word to stop at third. -- Teen Absitnence Motto

(Does that make me immature?)

Anyways, I fail to realize how you are afraid she might be pregnant while you didn't actually have sex. But It's probably better that I don't get bogged down in the details.


For the record, I make no plan of losing my virginity for a while. Especially since that requires a girlfriend, something that I do not have. XD

If there is a lack of clothes and a presence of seminal fluid, it is possible (very unlikely, but possible) to get pregnant. It's best to be on the safe side no matter what.

I don't believe on waiting until I am married but I do want to share my first time with someone special to me. I have not had a girlfriend to this day, so even now whereas im a little more comfortable with myself just going out and socializing it'll still be a little while before I meet someone.

Basically if we ( the girl I may be with at the time ) can both decide it's ok and have a mutual agreement to accept whatever consequences that may arise then and only then will I do it really. Like you said, you have to understand that shit does happen and if you are not ready for it..well you have a problem there.

Proud of you though Shox, it's the responsible thing to do.

EDIT: 18 year old virgin here incase anyone wonders =\

Go Shox.

I'm proud to be a 19-year-old virgin, and it will probably be years more until I finally get married and have sex.

Going into it with such naivete (having never masturbated, being a virgin, and not really knowing a whole bunch about the specifics) should be fun. I look forward to it.

i think the best thing is to hold off, the only girl i have had sex with is my current gf and we have be together for a long while, though since about 3months ago we said no more until were ready for a more commited relationship(getting married), until anything else happens

Just gotta say.... its times like these that I'm ashamed for all of you.

On a lighter note, I'll share (again?) the story of how I lost my virginity. Because it is funny.

I was dating a girl seriously, for about 16 months at this point, and we had been very active in sticking fingers into holes or onto poles for about a year, although only rarely were mouthes involved. At this wondrous 16th month comes my 17th birthday. We had been together naked many many times, and so I decide that losing our virginities would be a good idea and a great present (she is a few months shy of her 19th b-day at the time).

She has this "no sex til marriage" belief at the time, which is why we'd never had sex before this. I negotiate and barter with her for a bit, and convince her that if I just "stick it in" then it would be ok. I promised not to do any thrusting, but just to let the bread bake in the oven.

So she gets on top of me and sits down. Needless to say, as a ripe 17 year old virgin, who is extremely excited at all of this activity, the age old expression holds true. I really was 2 pumps and ready to blow. Not 3 or 4 seconds after I put the biscuit in the basket (with a few "adjustments" to work my way in), I get that feeling. You know the one I'm talking about. The next time thing I know I'm trying to pull out of the sh*t faster than a grunt in 'Nam. Cannoli filling starts flying everywhere like my penis is a wild garden hose.

She starts freaking, concerned to holy hell that there will be a 2nd coming of me (we're all scared of that, I know). And, somehow, although she is jewish, is against abortions.... that is another topic. So, my mother has a bidet... she goes and douches herself til she's red in the clam. This still isn't enough for her. Clearly we can't tell our parents... so we call my best friend (who lives in Atlanta) to talk to his mother who is an RN. Not sure the point of this, but it calms her down, and life goes on.... I found the whole thing rather funny, and still do.


Either way... I also don't get how you can get pregnant without sex. Oral sex will not lead to pregnancy.

PS - Sex is much better with Whorli. Love you hun.

Shox, you rox.

I personally agree. There's no way I'm going to have sex before marriage and I seriously doubt I'm doing anything on the wedding night, either. See, I really don't think I'm ready for kids at all. I doubt I'll be ready ten years from now. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if I died a virgin.

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I don't even know if I'll get married. Supposing I do, I have no idea if my partner would even want to have kids. And I aint doing anything simply for procreation.

No point in telling anybody in this thread that intends to stick to abstinence that they are stupid either. You also don't need to tell us that we'll come to our senses later in life. I am later in life. I've been the legal age for almost a year now. I've had plenty of opportunities to be in a relationship, I just don't want to.

Like I said before and like I will say many times, it doesn't seem like something I want to do. It doesn't seem like a fun thing to do either. Playing video games with my wife? That would own.

~Squeek

Well, I haven't had a girlfriend either. I had a small experience with a fooling around with a girl older than me, and I even regret that, even with how little went on. I'm sticking to marriage first. So I know that that will be at least 3 years if I found someone today, and more like 5 years minimum.

Even when married, I'm not sure I would be aiming for kids in the beginning anyway. 1 or 2 kids isn't fair to them. It makes them a little more spoiled and unable to share, and later when they hit the real world, it is a little harder for them. If I and my partner were having kids, it would be 3 to 4, or none. Kids need that extra companionship, having to share, yet still having house rules where you are fair to each and every one of them individually. Just that one thing makes a big difference, I believe.

When it comes to kids, Natural Family Planning for the win.

Though in my ideal marriage, if we were able to support a(nother) kid, we wouldn't take any steps to avoid conception. Act on what you feel, when you feel it, and let things happen the way nature intended.

Then again, I like kids, and want multiple kids.

God, all this anti-sex talk hurts my ears. If you can be responsible about the sex you have, which is not hard, then go for it. It's so worth it.

By the way, no penetration and she might be pregnant? What the hell was going on there? Remember, sperm dies very quickly when exposed to the environment outside of that comfortable body of yours.

It just depends on your values. I think waiting until marriage to have sex is WAY more worth it than having as much sex as I can handle (responsibly or no).

Okay, people, getting pregnant without penetration is possible, though unlikely. Accept it. I sincerely hope that discussion of that will end here.

--Guido