Something I've been thinking about
Posted on: January 9, 2011, at 10:34:53am

I am under the impression that marriage and any form of unconditional love is unconventional. I have said this to some peers at school and I have been regarded as extremely shallow, but hear me out. I'm not talking about hooking up with girls, thats a complete understatement, and not only that there is nothing to gain from those experiences other you're out $200 bucks, a girl who you don't remember could be in your bed, and you have a wicked migrane. I'm talking about relationships. People enter relationships quite frequently (myself included as being in a relationship), but what actually constitutes two people staying together. As a more independant individual I have many problems with trusting another individual that much to expose myself qualities that I don't necessarily want people seeing. The problem is with getting close to someone is that your world can shatter in a single moment. I'm not trying to randomly babble, this has some merit to how we view relationships. Western society postulates that we (people) must be in a homogomous relationship, to get married have children and be faithful to one particular person for the rest of your life. I'm not trying to argue cheating is okay, I'm very against that, however I will maintain that it's rather silly to say you'll be in love with someone for the rest of your life. A friend of mine and myself had a discussion one night, and she actually felt bad for me that I feel this way.

This is what I think about relationships, they need to be in constant change. Not just drop one person after a night or a week, but marriage should not be existant. We have seen in western society that marriage do in fact not survive 7 years, and almost half of the families that do end up in marriage fail before those 7 years are up. I'm not trying to demote marriage it's a style in which people may be very comfortable with, however I am under the impression that marriage and long-term relationships steer away from potential meetings with people. Using the example of guys not going out because their girlfriends might think they're going to cheat. First of all this has many problems, if a girl is going to think the boy might cheat then we have an initial trust problem and the relationship should stop because trust as the most supportive element to the relationship has already been tarnished. Guys will be apprehenisve to go out and converse with a group of females primarily because he doesn't want to upset the girlfriend. Relationships shouldn't be about that, which is why I have so many problems with how my girlfriend and I interact with the opposite sex at specific gatherings. I talk to women, not necessarily to flirt with them (sorry I'm a male, I'm still attracted to females regardless of if I'm in a relationship or not) but to engage in conversation.
I'm under the impression that conversations are the initial experiences we have in order to find out who we really care about in life, and those initial meetings rectify how I will interact with said person in future encounters.
This makes me think about my current relationship and now upsetting this would be if my girlfriend read this (she understands at a fundemental level that I don't believe in staying with her forever, or the idea of marriage/children), but at the same time it's hard to back away from relationships because it hurts people. I beat myself up over this a lot, but it's something I wholeheartedly believe in because who knows when you're going to meet someone special. The reason why I've been thinking about this so much is that I think I have, which boils down to:
1. I could be exceptionally incorrect
2. This person doesn't recpriocate it back
3. This person does not know
4. I don't know what I want
However, I still maintain that relationships are good, you learn from them... not only about the other but primarilly about yourself. I have learned to be very independant in relationships, to be honest, and straightforward.
This is kinda starting to go nowhere now, but I feel relieved I got to say this because it has been bothering me for some time.

1. 1: _Chels_
   Posted at 12:52pm on January 9th, 2011

   shall discuss with you later hhahhaha
   *dun dun dunnn*