Need some help here guys

[sonic-fast-fingers]

So after having some unspeakable actions with my girlfriend she started to cry. I was worried and asked what the problem could be. She insisted on telling me that there was nothing wrong and she doesn't know why she was crying. I have no idea what to think about this...is it bad, is it good. Is there something she isn't telling me. I really need some help and please no stupid posts.

Thanks in advance.

[AOD_ELEMENT]

dude tell her you love her over and over no joke

[fido123]

Originally Posted by AOD_ELEMENT

dude tell her you love her over and over no joke

I have to agree. She could be pregnant or maybe it's just an emotional issue. Tell her you love her and you want to know why she's upset and it won't change anything between you assuming you won't break up with her over a pregnancy.

[infinity.]

was this the first time?

if so, she might have just been ashamed of what she did.

[sonic-fast-fingers]

Originally Posted by Infinity.

was this the first time?

if so, she might have just been ashamed of what she did.

no no, i have been dating her for over a year...actually a year and 6 months and I am in love with her, so this incident really scared me.

[AOD_ELEMENT]

ask her if you did something that upset her

[sonic-fast-fingers]

Originally Posted by AOD_ELEMENT

ask her if you did something that upset her

I did, I asked her to just tell me because (i thought) she could tell me anything, and I, of course, could tell her anything. So I have no idea what it is.

[DawnInfinity]

She obviously wants something from you either it attention or sympathy. Something along those lines.

[sonic-fast-fingers]

people viewing but not helping >.<

you dont understand im super confused

[fido123]

Tell her the truth that it bothers you that she's upset. She'll probably tell you because it shows you care about her and are concerned about her at the same time.

[DawnInfinity]

Maybe try just comforting her till she spills what's wrong. You could always just leave her alone, that might screw things up though.

[Gibson63]

she want secks.. lol but seriously. just tell her that you really want to know whats happening.. and that you want her to be happy :3

[arrekusuof93]

I would say don't be so insecure. If she has personal problems and doesn't want to discuss them then you should back off.

[tupacodaman]

"I did, I asked her to just tell me because (i thought) she could tell me anything, and I, of course, could tell her anything. So I have no idea what it is."

I was gonna suggest emphasizing that point, but you already made it. I don't think there's anything else you can really do since it sounds like it really was just some bad thought that she had, or she may just have been anxious/feeling down about something. I think you should just try doing whatever stuff would really cheer her up over the next few days and if this happens again then re-emphasize what i quoted and figure out what is bothering her.

[sonic-fast-fingers]

well i searched on google and apparently women (and I was really hoping a girl could have posted a reply so i could get a girl's perspective) can just have a overflow of emotions when they reach their climax.

[Xx{Midday}xX]

kinda like the "marriage blues" except this isn't marriage. she'll be fine. your job is to worry.

ps: VC=Vertex Cephalon

[sonic-fast-fingers]

well thank you so much everyone for understanding i really appreciate all of your help. i especially appreciate everyone being mature and not posting something stupid.

so once again thank you all.

[TheRapingDragon]

You've been with this girl for 18 months and yet when she cries you come to an internet online rhythm website to ask for advice. No offense but shouldn't you know your girlfriend better than the rest of us? Logically how can we tell what is going through her mind when we don't know the girl, whereas on the other hand you do know her and may have knowledge of reasons why she may be upset.

I mean from what you've given me all I can presume is that:

1) She has done something and is upset about it and it suddenly took over her after you did that.
2) She has just got emotional and had to let it out. It happens.
3) You have done something wrong but she doesn't want to tell you and that brought it out.

But that's all they are, presumptions. I (and nobody else here) knows your girlfriend. You do. Your problems are between yourselves and honestly you should respect her when she tells you that she doesn't want to talk about it. Only press the issue if it honestly seems important.

But ya. See if something like this happens and she says the equivalent of "just drop it" I would advise you to just drop it and let her tell you when she wants to. I wouldn't come to the internet and tell a few hundred people about it, that's not really respecting her privacy. I doubt she would be happy you told the internet that she cried after sex.

[sonic-fast-fingers]

Originally Posted by TheRapingDragon

You've been with this girl for 18 months and yet when she cries you come to an internet online rhythm website to ask for advice. No offense but shouldn't you know your girlfriend better than the rest of us? Logically how can we tell what is going through her mind when we don't know the girl, whereas on the other hand you do know her and may have knowledge of reasons why she may be upset.

I mean from what you've given me all I can presume is that:

1) She has done something and is upset about it and it suddenly took over her after you did that.
2) She has just got emotional and had to let it out. It happens.
3) You have done something wrong but she doesn't want to tell you and that brought it out.

But that's all they are, presumptions. I (and nobody else here) knows your girlfriend. You do. Your problems are between yourselves and honestly you should respect her when she tells you that she doesn't want to talk about it. Only press the issue if it honestly seems important.

But ya. See if something like this happens and she says the equivalent of "just drop it" I would advise you to just drop it and let her tell you when she wants to. I wouldn't come to the internet and tell a few hundred people about it, that's not really respecting her privacy. I doubt she would be happy you told the internet that she cried after sex.

I wasn't asking for a psychic to come onto FFR and tell me exactly whats going one; there were many possibilities of what could have happened. I do know my girlfriend extremely well but sometimes there are things that happen that people can't understand even when they try really hard. So yes I came to the FFR community because generally everyone is nice and very helpful. So obviously you didn't read the previous replies and figure out what kind of advice I was looking for. So next time you are going to jump to conclusions try educating yourself.

[TheRapingDragon]

Originally Posted by sonic-fast-fingers

I wasn't asking for a psychic to come onto FFR and tell me exactly whats going one; there were many possibilities of what could have happened. I do know my girlfriend extremely well but sometimes there are things that happen that people can't understand even when they try really hard. So yes I came to the FFR community because generally everyone is nice and very helpful. So obviously you didn't read the previous replies and figure out what kind of advice I was looking for. So next time you are going to jump to conclusions try educating yourself.

I continue to fail to be surprised by my precognitive abilities. When I hit the post reply button I said to myself "wonder if his post will be all defensive with attacks thrown at me for my post being incorrect in some way".

Anyway, I'll start by asking two simple questions:

1) How am I uneducated?
2) How have I jumped to conclusions?

Let me actually just say those are rhetorical so don't bother answering just yet. You see I'm not uneducated, I just choose to state the truth as I see it. None of what I wrote was wrote in malice or without thought, it was based on logical conclusions and also included actual thoughts of what the problem could have been. If you ask me I answered your queries. Just because I'm not doing it in a "oh god poor you please let me help you come to my bosom child" way does not mean I am uneducated. You yourself would learn not to jump to such conclusions.

Secondly, I didn't even offer a conclusion let alone jump to one. I gave you ideas of what I thought it could be and also said that overall you should know your girlfriend better than us. I also merely stated that I don't think your girlfriend would appreciate you telling the world she cried after having sex. By all means if you want to say "I asked her could I tell the internet about this and she was ok with it" then that would be a viable response, but to just attack me proves nothing.

Finally, to go further:

I wasn't asking for a psychic to come onto FFR and tell me exactly whats going one; there were many possibilities of what could have happened.

Ya, and we are guessing just as much as you then. Pretty sure I said that in my original post.

I do know my girlfriend extremely well but sometimes there are things that happen that people can't understand even when they try really hard.

Ya, so how do you expect a screen to understand written words any better than physical expressions that you yourself can interpret better than we can.

So yes I came to the FFR community because generally everyone is nice and very helpful.

Oh I see, you were just looking for sympathy and "poor you" sentiments. Here I was thinking you wanted an answer, which again I'm pretty sure I gave (examples of) in my original post.

So obviously you didn't read the previous replies and figure out what kind of advice I was looking for.

Again, this statement is more of a "jump to conclusion" than anything I wrote. Hey, let me show you:

I have no idea what to think about this...is it bad, is it good. Is there something she isn't telling me. I really need some help

I mean from what you've given me all I can presume is that:

1) She has done something and is upset about it and it suddenly took over her after you did that.
2) She has just got emotional and had to let it out. It happens.
3) You have done something wrong but she doesn't want to tell you and that brought it out.

Pretty sure I answered the main crux of your post.

Really, next time you're about to needlessly attack me try to get your points correct.