Ok guys I need a little help

**hayatewillown** · 01-25-2008, 10:13 PM

OK There was this girl that I like but I have a small problem, my mother doesn't believe in the entire interracial junk.

I'm white,
She's Half-black/Half-white

My mother (being back in the day) was raised to treat, and yes, it may seem racist, but not go out with people of African decent.

Now I told her that I had really liked her and that she had really liked me, we have only been dating for about two weeks.

She's amazing, and personally, I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world.
But because my mom doesn't believe in the IR relationships, I have restricted rights.

She can't come over, I hardly see her, and when I do it's at school, and PDA is very overwhelming.

I wish I could spend more time, but it seems like I can't.
How could I somehow tell my mom that I wanted to go to her house?
I mean, it's fine with her parents, but my mother does not totally agree.

[Yes I had taken in affect that it was "my moms" house and that she has a right to choose who she wants, but it doesn't seem right for that reason. AKA Affirmative action crap]

My father is out of this, he says I am free to date whoever I want but he... is in Iraq so I really can't do anything.

**Xception704** · 01-25-2008, 10:25 PM

Just keep whittling away at your mother's resolves I suppose.

Not much else you can do if you really like this girl.

Relambrien · 01-25-2008, 10:25 PM

In before this

Anyway, doesn't look like there's much you can do. You could try telling your mom that it's your right to date whoever you want, and she really has no place restricting your rights because she's of a different race, but beyond that, you're kind of stuck.

You could try having your mother talk to her parents, but from what you've said, I don't know if she'll agree.

**hayatewillown** · 01-25-2008, 10:30 PM

Yeah, the girls mother is white, so maybe she'll reason..
Whittling sounds long and boring, but I've done it before.

Thanks for the replies I appreciate it.
And thanks for the forum link Relambrien

**SoultakerNFH** · 01-25-2008, 10:51 PM

What he should do is steal the family minivan, and run away with the girl. Don't forget your christmas savings, your xbox, and your dog. Afterwards, try to make it all the way to California.

**Specforces** · 01-26-2008, 12:07 AM

How old are you?

**DayMan951** · 01-26-2008, 12:14 AM

The only logical thing to do is lie to your mom. Tell her you're going to a friend's house to study or something. Then have a friend back you up on it.

**Redorigami** · 01-26-2008, 12:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SoultakerNFH

What he should do is steal the family minivan, and run away with the girl. Don't forget your christmas savings, your xbox, and your dog. Afterwards, try to make it all the way to California.

End of thread. Seriously, lie. Lie your ****ing ass off. Problem solved. By the time she finds out you'll have dumped her or married her, as long as you lied the right way.

**DrugstoreCowboy** · 01-26-2008, 01:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SoultakerNFH

What he should do is steal the family minivan, and run away with the girl. Don't forget your christmas savings, your xbox, and your dog. Afterwards, try to make it all the way to California.

this made me LOL.

anyways, who cares? just do your thing man. thats why you dont let your parents in on your personal life.

its like, if you had a myspace page.. would you want your parents to be friends with you? probably not.

**PsYcHoZeRoSk8eR** · 01-26-2008, 02:38 AM

Spec beat me to my first thought. Second thought is why not spend time together somewhere outside of school that isn't at your house or her house.

pntballa18 · 01-26-2008, 10:46 AM

Have your mother meet her at a school basketball game, etc, and if your girlfriend is nice, she may change her mind.

**Adamaja456** · 01-26-2008, 10:49 AM

id probably lie to my mom and just tell her im going to a friends house. call the friend and tell him if my mom calls, cover for me

then just hang out with the girl

Or just tell your mom your going out for a walk, and meet her somewhere
walks with girls you like are fun =]

Rubin0 · 01-26-2008, 11:14 AM

I don't believe a parent has the right to decide who their child can date unless the person is in some way a physical or psychological danger to their child. Your mother has a right to her opinions, but this is also your life. Don't bring the girl home if it is going to cause issues, but otherwise I can't imagine how she can keep you from seeing your girlfriend....unless she locks you in your room.

It's important to have approval from a parent in regards to who you are dating, but when that approval is based on a person's race then I think it is completely irrelevant.

**hayatewillown** · 01-28-2008, 06:05 PM

I really appreciate it guys, I am entitled to my own life, this girl is really special to me in every way and I'm hoping to see her sometime this week, away from school.

**Coolboyrulez0** · 01-28-2008, 06:10 PM

Tell your mom she's a racist, slap her in the face and make a run for it.
Seriously though, your mom shouldn't base who you date on skin color.
My parents wouldn't care if I date someone black or Asian or any skin color or race for that matter.
Just do your own thing.

**hayatewillown** · 06-6-2022, 02:32 PM

So, I've been off and on the site for a long time. I looked at my post history and kinda see how deranged and stuff I was growing up, I was extremely unstable and my family was really hard on me and I had the worldview of a shrimp. I just wanna say sorry to all the people I annoyed and hurt in the past (even they even exist here still lol)

I was going through my old posts to see if I could delete them because I was ashamed, and I found this and wanted to give an update!!!

Me and this girl are married now! I'm kinda estranged from my family for sticking with her hardcore, I didn't even invite my mom to my wedding because although I was ultra conservative (due to my parents literally brainwashing me and stuff, you can see it in my early posts), I am now the furthest left person in my family.

I was in... 9th grade when I originally posted it I think, and we've been together since! Made it through college (even went to separate colleges) and eventually moved in together and last year we got married (we were living together for years to make sure it could work and kinda forgot X'D).

I'm now 29, turning 30 soon-

A lot has changed, my own identity, my family, this site, I'm just glad there's something to come back to when I want to pound some arrows and if I get banned for resurrecting a thread I wanna go ahead and apologize in advance! Just let me log in and play please

Just wanted to let the people in the thread know that they were absolutely right. She was the best possible person for me on this planet and soulmate!

**Ghost_Medley** · 06-6-2022, 03:13 PM

Thread may be closed for some serious necroposting, but I think this update is a fantastic one to see! It's cool to see that you stuck to your guns with the one you love, and you're making a new family that is unlike the one you grew up in.

Plus, over 14 years that you've stuck together is a sort of commitment that deserves respect from the old buds of yours that may still be around here.

**Pizza69** · 06-6-2022, 03:54 PM

i joined 5 years after this thread was first posted, but it's awesome to hear you stuck with it and found happiness, congrats!!!

sff_writer_dan · 06-6-2022, 04:33 PM

Nothing to apologize for, this bump is amazing and exactly the kind of thing that bumping threads from 14 years ago is meant for.

Congratulations!

**gold stinger** · 06-6-2022, 04:37 PM

This is the best necrobump I have ever seen in my life

Congratulations on the marriage, and what an incredible development of life and events! Extremely happy to hear that you were able to pull away from your parents, and hope that the both of you continue to have a prosperous life together!

01-25-2008, 10:13 PM	#1
hayatewillown FFR Veteran Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 413	Ok guys I need a little help OK There was this girl that I like but I have a small problem, my mother doesn't believe in the entire interracial junk. I'm white, She's Half-black/Half-white My mother (being back in the day) was raised to treat, and yes, it may seem racist, but not go out with people of African decent. Now I told her that I had really liked her and that she had really liked me, we have only been dating for about two weeks. She's amazing, and personally, I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. But because my mom doesn't believe in the IR relationships, I have restricted rights. She can't come over, I hardly see her, and when I do it's at school, and PDA is very overwhelming. I wish I could spend more time, but it seems like I can't. How could I somehow tell my mom that I wanted to go to her house? I mean, it's fine with her parents, but my mother does not totally agree. [Yes I had taken in affect that it was "my moms" house and that she has a right to choose who she wants, but it doesn't seem right for that reason. AKA Affirmative action crap] My father is out of this, he says I am free to date whoever I want but he... is in Iraq so I really can't do anything. __________________ Last edited by hayatewillown; 01-25-2008 at 10:21 PM..

01-25-2008, 10:25 PM	#2
Xception704 FFR Veteran Join Date: Jul 2006 Age: 32 Posts: 3,984	Re: Ok guys I need a little help Just keep whittling away at your mother's resolves I suppose. Not much else you can do if you really like this girl.

01-25-2008, 10:25 PM	#3
Relambrien FFR Player Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Age: 32 Posts: 1,644	Re: Ok guys I need a little help In before this Anyway, doesn't look like there's much you can do. You could try telling your mom that it's your right to date whoever you want, and she really has no place restricting your rights because she's of a different race, but beyond that, you're kind of stuck. You could try having your mother talk to her parents, but from what you've said, I don't know if she'll agree.

01-25-2008, 10:30 PM	#4
hayatewillown FFR Veteran Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 413	Re: Ok guys I need a little help Yeah, the girls mother is white, so maybe she'll reason.. Whittling sounds long and boring, but I've done it before. Thanks for the replies I appreciate it. And thanks for the forum link Relambrien __________________

01-25-2008, 10:51 PM	#5
SoultakerNFH FFR Veteran Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Seattle, WA Age: 35 Posts: 329	Re: Ok guys I need a little help What he should do is steal the family minivan, and run away with the girl. Don't forget your christmas savings, your xbox, and your dog. Afterwards, try to make it all the way to California. __________________ *Indeed...*Etc. Best Non-AAA Ranks (Before AvMiss Was Fixed): Choprite, Rank 6 [3-0-0-0]; TGWP Part 1, Rank 11 [5-0-0-0]; Otaku Speedvibe Heavy, Rank 13 [1-0-0-0]; Blue Army, Rank 5 [1-0-0-0]

01-26-2008, 12:07 AM	#6
Specforces Yes Join Date: Jan 2004 Age: 37 Posts: 5,028	Re: Ok guys I need a little help How old are you?

01-26-2008, 12:14 AM	#7
DayMan951 yfwdbwdsb Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 2,255	Re: Ok guys I need a little help The only logical thing to do is lie to your mom. Tell her you're going to a friend's house to study or something. Then have a friend back you up on it. __________________

01-26-2008, 10:46 AM	#11
pntballa18 FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Hossin Age: 32 Posts: 3,357	Re: Ok guys I need a little help Have your mother meet her at a school basketball game, etc, and if your girlfriend is nice, she may change her mind.

01-26-2008, 10:49 AM	#12
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01-26-2008, 11:14 AM	#13
Rubin0 FFR Player Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: New York Age: 35 Posts: 1,276	Re: Ok guys I need a little help I don't believe a parent has the right to decide who their child can date unless the person is in some way a physical or psychological danger to their child. Your mother has a right to her opinions, but this is also your life. Don't bring the girl home if it is going to cause issues, but otherwise I can't imagine how she can keep you from seeing your girlfriend....unless she locks you in your room. It's important to have approval from a parent in regards to who you are dating, but when that approval is based on a person's race then I think it is completely irrelevant. __________________ The weight of what I say depends on how you feel. Last edited by Rubin0; 01-26-2008 at 11:16 AM..

01-28-2008, 06:05 PM	#14
hayatewillown FFR Veteran Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 413	Re: Ok guys I need a little help I really appreciate it guys, I am entitled to my own life, this girl is really special to me in every way and I'm hoping to see her sometime this week, away from school. __________________

01-28-2008, 06:10 PM	#15
Coolboyrulez0 VICES Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Germany Age: 30 Posts: 10,031	Re: Ok guys I need a little help Tell your mom she's a racist, slap her in the face and make a run for it. Seriously though, your mom shouldn't base who you date on skin color. My parents wouldn't care if I date someone black or Asian or any skin color or race for that matter. Just do your own thing.

06-6-2022, 02:32 PM	#16
hayatewillown FFR Veteran Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 413	Re: Ok guys I need a little help So, I've been off and on the site for a long time. I looked at my post history and kinda see how deranged and stuff I was growing up, I was extremely unstable and my family was really hard on me and I had the worldview of a shrimp. I just wanna say sorry to all the people I annoyed and hurt in the past (even they even exist here still lol) I was going through my old posts to see if I could delete them because I was ashamed, and I found this and wanted to give an update!!! Me and this girl are married now! I'm kinda estranged from my family for sticking with her hardcore, I didn't even invite my mom to my wedding because although I was ultra conservative (due to my parents literally brainwashing me and stuff, you can see it in my early posts), I am now the furthest left person in my family. I was in... 9th grade when I originally posted it I think, and we've been together since! Made it through college (even went to separate colleges) and eventually moved in together and last year we got married (we were living together for years to make sure it could work and kinda forgot X'D). I'm now 29, turning 30 soon- A lot has changed, my own identity, my family, this site, I'm just glad there's something to come back to when I want to pound some arrows and if I get banned for resurrecting a thread I wanna go ahead and apologize in advance! Just let me log in and play please Just wanted to let the people in the thread know that they were absolutely right. She was the best possible person for me on this planet and soulmate! __________________ Last edited by hayatewillown; 06-6-2022 at 03:07 PM..

06-6-2022, 03:13 PM	#17
Ghost_Medley D6.9 Prime Buttonhitter Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Antarctica Age: 24 Posts: 703	Re: Ok guys I need a little help Thread may be closed for some serious necroposting, but I think this update is a fantastic one to see! It's cool to see that you stuck to your guns with the one you love, and you're making a new family that is unlike the one you grew up in. Plus, over 14 years that you've stuck together is a sort of commitment that deserves respect from the old buds of yours that may still be around here.

06-6-2022, 03:54 PM	#18
Pizza69 Simfile Judge Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 689	Re: Ok guys I need a little help i joined 5 years after this thread was first posted, but it's awesome to hear you stuck with it and found happiness, congrats!!! __________________

06-6-2022, 04:33 PM	#19
sff_writer_dan FFR Player Join Date: Aug 2020 Posts: 135	Re: Ok guys I need a little help Nothing to apologize for, this bump is amazing and exactly the kind of thing that bumping threads from 14 years ago is meant for. Congratulations!

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