Should men open doors for women?

[jamuko]

Yeah, I've learned to accept things as they are, and I do comply with my dad's wishes now. ^^ Still, it doesn't change the fact that I feel a bit awkward doing it. Maybe it's just because of the world I've lived in as I grew up, but I feel most comfortable when things are generally equal. It seems silly, but if someone does such gestures for me, I feel a small amount of unnecessary debt or guilt that I'd rather not have. I understand that a guy might enjoy the act showing humility and respect toward a girl, but I also feel that the girl's wishes for keeping humility and respect shouldn't be ignored either, you know?

Nowadays if someone wants to open the door for me, I'm just fine with it, but I certainly don't expect it. I dunno, something seems wrong about that. It seems arrogant, or taking advantage of the poor guys. Sure, some guys may love that stuff as you said, but for those who don't, I would never hold it against them.

I also learned a related thing the hard way... I never wanted a guy to pay for my food or anything like that. I felt guilty for using someone else's money, so I shoved money back in order to keep even. It wasn't until my parents informed me that I realized this could be taken in a rude "I don't like you at all, don't you dare think of paying for me!!" sort of way. ^^; It's a tough line to walk.

Heh, what look like simple customs of society can really be complex under the surface. Ah, the human mind.