pregnancy help...

kentbball · 12-6-2006, 04:50 PM

Ok so I'm in middle school and one of my good friends just got pregnant from a guy 4 years older than she is and who she hardly knows and he is probly going to juvie.She's been going through a tough time and all and a lot of her best girl friends have been talking **** about her and stuff.I'm almost positive that the guy that impregnated her will not help out or anything and will just ditch her. I'm sure if I tell my parents about it they won't let me hang out with her anymore but she's so misserable I can't help but try and cheer her up. I'm probably her best guy friend and I don't know if I should step up to help or just lay back and let things take it's course without getting in the way and without screwing up my own life.

I know it's retarted and stuff and if you guys don't care just delete this just I'm a little confused right now.

Grandiagod · 12-6-2006, 04:55 PM

Get an appointment at planned parenthood. They have therapists and stuff.

**TheRapingDragon** · 12-6-2006, 04:55 PM

www.teenhelp.org

Ya.

EDIT:

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Get an appointment at planned parenthood. They have the rapists and stuff.

Ya.

**Megmo** · 12-6-2006, 04:57 PM

Well, how old is this girl? Does she know if she wants to have this baby?

kentbball · 12-6-2006, 04:59 PM

Ya she said she's going to have it, but she is being retarted and not even listening to people who say she needs to think about what she's going to do after she has it. She thinks her parents are going to take care of it for her, but she hasn't even talked to them since she told them that she was pregnant. She avoids them as much as possible. It also doesn't help that she feels sorry for the guy because he's going to juvie and she doesn't want him to so she's trying to lie herself out...

Tokzic · 12-6-2006, 05:09 PM

Unless your friend is 18+ (and probably still even if she isn't), the guy was probably using her just for sex. =/

Having the child will blow her life, but if she wants it, you can't stop her.

EDIT: Middle school?

uh

she's screwed if she has that kid

Hasn't it occurred to her that raising a kid takes just a bit of money?

**Windscarredfaith** · 12-6-2006, 05:11 PM

You have to respect her decision, but at the same time, talk some reasoning into her. She can put it up for adoption if she does not want to have an abortion. Tell her to think about not only her own fate, but as well as the baby's. It is not fair to the baby that he/she will have to grow up without a father or a well-cared for life.

UberMario · 12-6-2006, 05:14 PM

give her a bit of date rape and use a coathanger.

But seriously, the baby is a bad idea. Accident + no father + young + no support = bad. Talk her into getting an abortion. If she wants it because "it's another living thing", it isn't yet, but it will be if she goes through with it and it will have a terrible life because of her.

Think about it.

GuidoHunter · 12-6-2006, 05:16 PM

Talk to your parents about it. You say that they'll keep you from seeing her, but I don't believe that for a second (she is, after all, a friend in a time of need). They'll probably be able to help you more than we could.

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it will have a terrible life because of her.

Wow, way to jump to an unsubstantiated conclusion.

--Guido

http://andy.mikee385.com

kentbball · 12-6-2006, 05:17 PM

I've tried talking to her... It just doesn't work. She'll only talk to her best friends but they're just turning the other way. I've tried talking to them but the pregnant one used them. They all had a sleep over and she only went there so she could sneak out and have sex with this guy. They feel really betrayed, and I can see why but they can't even talk to her because they're so disgusted.

Coca Cola · 12-6-2006, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by kentbball

They all had a sleep over and she only went there so she could sneak out and have sex with this guy.

That's her fault I guess. The best thing to do would be to put the baby up for adoption. There are organizations that take care of the whole adopting process.

kentbball · 12-6-2006, 05:21 PM

but isn't it possible that she could die if she has the baby? because her body is so young and not ready or something like that?

**Megmo** · 12-6-2006, 05:27 PM

Well, it's a shame that happened so young.

But yeah, I grew up not knowing my father at all because he passed away when I was very young. I can tell you right now, the baby will be the one who suffers most in this situation-more so than the girl. I'm not saying she should or should not have an abortion, but you have to imagine what this kid would have to go through.

GuidoHunter · 12-6-2006, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by kentbball

but isn't it possible that she could die if she has the baby? because her body is so young and not ready or something like that?

Sure, it's possible, but that risk also exists for grown women. If she's a normal, healthy girl she probably doesn't have much of a risk for what you're describing.

Her body says it's ready to get pregnant, which means it's also ready to have a baby.

--Guido

http://andy.mikee385.com

Grandiagod · 12-6-2006, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by kentbball

but isn't it possible that she could die if she has the baby? because her body is so young and not ready or something like that?

No way, she's old enough.

In fact, in a lot of countries a long time ago, she would be about birthing age.

EDIT Guido ninja'd

FluorescentArmy · 12-6-2006, 05:28 PM

1. Why would a 12-14 year old be ****ing around with **** like that? Jesus christ ****ing retards.

2. Let her do wtf she wants with it. It's pretty much her because that guy sounds like an older guy that girls around your and my age love; They have a car, can get drugs easy, and have $$$.

I don't think that semi-colon was appropriate. I linked two independent clauses and I was explaining why the love them. I think it works there...

**Tasselfoot** · 12-6-2006, 05:29 PM

doesn't anyone remember ABOUT those little protective ****socks called CONDOMS anymore?

Throw in if she's in MIDDLE SCHOOL... she's 13 or 14... oh yea. 4 year older guy... juvie... parents not supportive... friends not supportive... her unwilling to speak to someone who does this for a living... almost certainly no job... clearly not educated....

Do you live in Missisissippi?

Grandiagod · 12-6-2006, 05:31 PM

Yeah, she isn't age of consent yet.

Get the guys ass arrested on statutory rape.

Coca Cola · 12-6-2006, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Grandiagod

Get the guys ass arrested on statutory rape.

She ditched her friends' slumber party to go have sex with this guy.

Grandiagod · 12-6-2006, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Coca Cola

She ditched her friends' slumber party to go have sex with this guy.

And your point is?

12-6-2006, 04:50 PM	#1
kentbball FFR Player Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New Brunswick, Canada... yes, in snow. Age: 31 Posts: 675	pregnancy help... Ok so I'm in middle school and one of my good friends just got pregnant from a guy 4 years older than she is and who she hardly knows and he is probly going to juvie.She's been going through a tough time and all and a lot of her best girl friends have been talking **** about her and stuff.I'm almost positive that the guy that impregnated her will not help out or anything and will just ditch her. I'm sure if I tell my parents about it they won't let me hang out with her anymore but she's so misserable I can't help but try and cheer her up. I'm probably her best guy friend and I don't know if I should step up to help or just lay back and let things take it's course without getting in the way and without screwing up my own life. I know it's retarted and stuff and if you guys don't care just delete this just I'm a little confused right now. __________________

12-6-2006, 04:55 PM	#2
Grandiagod FFR Player Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Feaefaw Age: 35 Posts: 6,122	Re: pregnancy help... Get an appointment at planned parenthood. They have therapists and stuff.

12-6-2006, 04:57 PM	#4
Megmo FFR Veteran Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 250	Re: pregnancy help... Well, how old is this girl? Does she know if she wants to have this baby? __________________

12-6-2006, 04:59 PM	#5
kentbball FFR Player Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New Brunswick, Canada... yes, in snow. Age: 31 Posts: 675	Re: pregnancy help... Ya she said she's going to have it, but she is being retarted and not even listening to people who say she needs to think about what she's going to do after she has it. She thinks her parents are going to take care of it for her, but she hasn't even talked to them since she told them that she was pregnant. She avoids them as much as possible. It also doesn't help that she feels sorry for the guy because he's going to juvie and she doesn't want him to so she's trying to lie herself out... __________________

12-6-2006, 05:09 PM	#6
Tokzic FFR Player Join Date: May 2005 Location: TGB Age: 34 Posts: 6,878	Re: pregnancy help... Unless your friend is 18+ (and probably still even if she isn't), the guy was probably using her just for sex. =/ Having the child will blow her life, but if she wants it, you can't stop her. EDIT: Middle school? uh she's screwed if she has that kid Hasn't it occurred to her that raising a kid takes just a bit of money? __________________ ~very popular guitar streamer~ Last edited by Tokzic: Today at 11:59 PM. Reason: wait what

12-6-2006, 05:11 PM	#7
Windscarredfaith (づ￣ ³￣)づ watermelon Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: New Jersey Age: 34 Posts: 2,612	Re: pregnancy help... You have to respect her decision, but at the same time, talk some reasoning into her. She can put it up for adoption if she does not want to have an abortion. Tell her to think about not only her own fate, but as well as the baby's. It is not fair to the baby that he/she will have to grow up without a father or a well-cared for life. __________________

12-6-2006, 05:14 PM	#8
UberMario FFR Player Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Plus I'm hungry for ****. Age: 23 Posts: 1,777	Re: pregnancy help... give her a bit of date rape and use a coathanger. But seriously, the baby is a bad idea. Accident + no father + young + no support = bad. Talk her into getting an abortion. If she wants it because "it's another living thing", it isn't yet, but it will be if she goes through with it and it will have a terrible life because of her. Think about it. __________________ That's cool Mario, but how come whenever you eat mushrooms, everything gets bigger but your dick?

12-6-2006, 05:17 PM	#10
kentbball FFR Player Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New Brunswick, Canada... yes, in snow. Age: 31 Posts: 675	Re: pregnancy help... I've tried talking to her... It just doesn't work. She'll only talk to her best friends but they're just turning the other way. I've tried talking to them but the pregnant one used them. They all had a sleep over and she only went there so she could sneak out and have sex with this guy. They feel really betrayed, and I can see why but they can't even talk to her because they're so disgusted. __________________

12-6-2006, 05:21 PM	#12
kentbball FFR Player Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New Brunswick, Canada... yes, in snow. Age: 31 Posts: 675	Re: pregnancy help... but isn't it possible that she could die if she has the baby? because her body is so young and not ready or something like that? __________________

12-6-2006, 05:27 PM	#13
Megmo FFR Veteran Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 250	Re: pregnancy help... Well, it's a shame that happened so young. But yeah, I grew up not knowing my father at all because he passed away when I was very young. I can tell you right now, the baby will be the one who suffers most in this situation-more so than the girl. I'm not saying she should or should not have an abortion, but you have to imagine what this kid would have to go through. __________________

12-6-2006, 05:28 PM	#16
FluorescentArmy Forum User Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Gattrobe, Pistolvania Age: 32 Posts: 1,754	Re: pregnancy help... 1. Why would a 12-14 year old be **ing around with like that? Jesus christ **ing retards. 2. Let her do wtf she wants with it. It's pretty much her because that guy sounds like an older guy that girls around your and my age love; They have a car, can get drugs easy, and have $$$. I don't think that semi-colon was appropriate. I linked two independent clauses and I was explaining why the love them. I think it works there... __________________

12-6-2006, 05:29 PM	#17
Tasselfoot Retired BOSS Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Widget Heaven Age: 40 Posts: 25,184	Re: pregnancy help... doesn't anyone remember ABOUT those little protective ****socks called CONDOMS anymore? Throw in if she's in MIDDLE SCHOOL... she's 13 or 14... oh yea. 4 year older guy... juvie... parents not supportive... friends not supportive... her unwilling to speak to someone who does this for a living... almost certainly no job... clearly not educated.... Do you live in Missisissippi? __________________ RIP

12-6-2006, 05:31 PM	#18
Grandiagod FFR Player Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Feaefaw Age: 35 Posts: 6,122	Re: pregnancy help... Yeah, she isn't age of consent yet. Get the guys ass arrested on statutory rape.

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