I hate parents... Very long...

[Deaths_Melancholy]

This is long... and I am looking for input... and a copy of this is placed in the Psycopath forums cause I posted there a lot. Stop reading now If you don't care about other people's problems... Input of any sort is welcomed, mods do whatever you want with this post/thread.

I know not many of you have even heard of me but I am looking for input on this situation. and I figured that my fellow forum members who have heard of me would like to know why I am gone, for now.

Alright, due to extreme stupidity of my mother I will not be able to talk on the forums for much longer... Apparently out of no-where I've pissed her off so she decided to take a hammer to the back on my main computer. which happened to have costed her a total of........(she was the one that paid for this tower to begin with.) I would like people to keep in mind that I'm am a teenage of 16 years.

~1000 dollars... (~ = About in the math world at least to me. and not counter other random parts and accessories that are on it seeing as they did not have a hmmer near it) total sustained damage... 50$ case repair... and 15$ headphones that the jack broke off on
*Heh... the worse part is the majority of it didn't break... hell nothing really broke. the stupid ***** while smashing it a total of 5 times she hit the power supply switch and though she fried it or something... whatever back on topic*
I will not be able to talk for some time cause after I take the part I need (video cards HD*invaluable information ^_^* And whatever else I feel like taking) I will be placing in better hands to hold onto... Apparently she missed the big white LOUD dell computer right next to it, so I can still access the internet but it's resources are limited, and for it's safety i will be hiding in my wall unit under the drawers (it's got alot of unused space...)that is really well hidden.

So lets see what reasons she had for this...
Her reasons:
1) I do nothing around the house... *heh so the dishes and garbage do themselves... and all the cat hair dissappears on it's own from the carpet?*
2) I lay under covers while watching a movie with my girlfriend. *we've been serious for wuite some time now... and she knows this, she also knows I wouldn't do anything right in front of her.*
3) I didn't mow the grass...*hah.. This is her "Go downstairs and find out which mower works and fill it with gas... I will mow the lawn later." I WOULD LIKE TO HIGHLIGHT A SPECIFIC PHRASE "I will mow the lawn later" wow... that came out of her mouth*
4) my grades are dropping *progress reports are never accurate. and taking away a resource that I use for my researching and typing is definantly going to make those grades go straight back up(if they were going down to begin with.)*
5) last one... I promise the stupidity ends here(not)... My grandparents come over once in a while... everytime they come over they try to give me money... which I cannot refuse... lately they have been lacking funds... so if I go and say hi to them they will try to give me money that they need... So whats wrong with me not going to them?
7) *almost forgot this one* i didn't take the new puppy out for a walk... *heh... alrighty this one is the funniest... Every animal we've ever gotten I never wanted... So I never felt any desire to do anything for them, BUT I still take them out, still feed them when I need to, Still clean up after them. The only animal I ever wanted was a ferret. But the moment my little sister whines that she wants something... Hey look there it is. And I just woke up about 25 mins before she walked into the house bitching about that... I'll give you that it was about 2:00 and I was up a little late(12:ish)But remeber I AM A TEENAGER.*

Now... what confuses me is how does she think this will help... I have the power to turn off her internet(which I just did)... Fry her laptop(costs about 5x's more then the case and most parts inside that she attempted to damage)... and she takes online courses... as in college courses, heh. This definantly doesn't solve any problems at all or even stop me from doing anything out of my normal(seeing as she missed by some sheer stupidity, the LOUD, WHITE, GREEN LIT, Dell next to the tower she attempted to wreak.

She has also threatened me with sending me to my father out in AZ... I'd like to see that happen... hah. This was my threat to her about 6 years ago. But now there is a problem with it... this will tear me from my G/f. which will suck major but thats all that will happen... Sad thing is on her part, now no one will do the dishes or garbage or vaccume unless they decide to do so, and she will have to pay child support untill I'm 18. Heh... and not to sound all powerful or whatnot... but she illegally burns and sells movies... Which mean I could get her in some real amounts of trouble for the 500+ movies she has sold away.

Meh... I wanna see how many people also agree with me or my mother... I know this is from my stance as a 16 year old boy, and will be biased cause thats the way I write... but I would still like to see who can side with who.

After writing this out in full originally I reread it and tried to make it as unbiased as possible EXCEPT for where there are *something here* that is why I did it, or my defence, and the first 2-3 paragraphs.

[xDdRmAnIaCx]

First, don't turn her in for illegal videos, thats just dumb.

Second, don't even contemplate frying her laptop, unless she is abusive, there is really no reason to cause any monetary harm.

Everyone has their problems with their family, and as someone a year older than me, you should already know this. Your mother is your mother, she brought you into this world, and no matter what she does, you have to hold for her some respect, that will stop you from doing anything whatsoever negative to her.

It may hurt, and it may feel awkward, but just be nice to her in every way you can. At first don't go over the top, just do whatever, but then start asking her if she wants you to do anything.

You have got at least 2 years left with her, and you obviously don't want them to be hell, so just make amends, get through the remaining years, and live happily.

NiK

[DarkManticoreX2]

Quite the situation. I have similar problems but my dads a CPA and im about 5 inches taller than him He can yell at me or whatever and for the most part I comply. But if he ever went to the extent of smashing (all this is mine that i paid for in cash) Labtop, Router, Music CD collection, Printer or CPU Games. I would seriously want some mondo revenge. for the Most part some of his Favorite possesions would go missing untill he fixed what he broke. Mostly though we get along pretty good. If you want my advise actually stop taking out the garbage etc....... she'll notice pretty fast how much you actually do if you stop doing it. If she orders you to do it then say something like "Funny how I always did this before without being told and was completley unappreciated". Keep it up and sooner or later she'll apologize. Hopefully.

[talisman]

I'd take the high road and just do chores. A bit of an overreaction there though.

[Thassodar]

I like Manticore's solution. I've used it before. And failed. But I also had BLACK parents, so....Yeah.

I think maniac has a few good points as well. I really have no advice for you, as I've lived a different aspect of life (my father was a foreigner, my mother was raised in New York). I really never had much room to argue against them. It sucked major balls. But good luck!

[evilbutterfly]

My dad does some things for me (like I joked about how he should buy me oreos and so he did it o__O) that he won't do for my sisters because I'm the only one that does chores and doesn't give him a hard time about it. He seems to appreciate me more now that I've been gone to college and then came back, cuz he realized how much I help out around the house (I've been picking up some of my older sisters' chores as they moved out, but my lil sister won't do anything). Now he doesn't tell me to do things, he asks nicely and is always like "if it's not too much trouble!" and such.

So yeah, maybe if you stop doing chores and then when she fusses be like "what, you gonna try and hammer me now? Cuz there's nothing left now!" or something. That would especially hit a nerve if she's very against hurting her kids (which I would assume is the case, if she hammered something instead of beating you senseless).

[Reach]

Oh god no. Fighting back and picking sides is setting yourself and your family up for disaster in this case. It's not about being right or wrong. I actually made a post about this on k2xl, not knowing it was here. Why would you fuel the fight (answer: because it's easier)? Not complying and being a rebel feeds the fire, and slaving to her needs in this situation isn't fixing anything, because there are much deeper rooted problems here. You need to cut the problem right at the throat, right at the heart of your mothers feelings. She doesn't, like many parents, understand the damage they have the ability to inflict. It's pretty bad when a son has to be a bigger man than a full grown woman, but she needs to know, in person or through a letter ect, the gravity of what she's done, and how she's made you feel as a son, in a serious manner. Maybe then she will realize what she has done.

I mean, it's hard to confront someone about something like this, but the fact is, everything else is just fluff. You've got to get to the matter of the problem, even if you have to break her heart and bring her to the floor.

[Bursurk_Lurk]

Me and my parents used to fight alot but they finally stopped caring so I can pretty much do whatever I want now B)

[Snapps]

Your mom overreacted. Don't start a conflict and everything will be fine.

The end

[white_boy]

I have the power to turn off her internet(which I just did)... Fry her laptop(costs about 5x's more then the case and most parts inside that she attempted to damage)...

remember, she pays for that ****. you're gonna dig yourself in one deep hole.

also...it could be alot worse, trust me on that...try having a mom who doesnt give a ****, period.

[superdeduper]

WORST advise dark i would do what talisman said the more you listen too her the better responsabilty's you get and the more things you can have.

[nforcer06164]

DO NOT take revenge. That is the dumbest thing you can do. She will take even worse revenge on you, in ways you can't possibly imagine. Trust me, you'll be screwing yourself over.

My advice: suck up. I know, sounds sappy. But, it works. Do your chores before she asks you to do them. Honor her wishes with your girlfriend. Work harder on your schoolwork. It'll be the little things that count in this regard the most, though. Ask her how she's feeling, if you can get her this or that or do something for her here and there. She'll wonder what's going on at first, but she'll naturally see that you're trying hard to make her happy, and she won't get on you for the same things as much.

It'll work out great for both of you. All it requires is a bit more effort on your part. But, for the love of God, DO NOT take the advice of anyone that says to take revenge. You should NEVER fight fire with fire with your parents. It NEVER works.

[Linkisdoomed]

Here's what I would do.

I'd go around the house looking for things to clean up for a few days, go read a book, and make a meal. Getting angry/revenge will probably only make the situation worse. Trust me, I've been here.

-Link

[Yanah_God]

Get a new mother, your old one is broken.

[Hr2]

She overreacted once so she can overreact twice. I'm with Reach on this one, set aside the anger and hopefully you can do the classic guilt (for parents it would be the dissapointed in you speech, and for you, well I don't know I've never had many family troubles) trip which might make her rethink what she has done. But at least it shouldn't make her angry.

[MCRenaissance]

I think everything that has needed to be said has already been done so. Don't make matters worse by retaliating. I know it can be frustrating sometimes but no matter what you're mom deserves respect. Not only that but if you do retaliate there can be no outcome but to make you're situation worse. And it sounds horrible already...

[mead1]

Topic poster, stop being dumb. She's your mother. She'll do what she like as long as you live in her house, and you have no right to "get revenge" on her for anything. So shut up, get off the internet, and go make her a sandwich.

[MCRenaissance]

If you do make her a sandwich make it a turkey one.

[ckj846]

Well, I have been in a very very similar situation as yours and I actually did seek revenge. What did it get me? My parents are getting a divorce, my sister turned emo, I am probably moving, and my mom doesn't give a **** about my life anymore. Don't let that happen to you.
O_o

[vashthestampede0987]

Stick it in her butt and pee.