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Old 11-7-2004, 07:00 PM   #1
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I am Bi, and i want to come out to my parents, but i am afraid of their response, and the response of the cids at my school.......... Please somebody, talk to me about this.... i really need some help with this dillemma
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Old 11-7-2004, 07:03 PM   #2
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I'm going to move this to critical thinking, because I don't think you want some of the meaner people on this forum answering it.
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Old 11-7-2004, 07:05 PM   #3
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I'm sure your parents will understand your situation, hey, they love you.

And whats the worst that could happen? What are they going to do? Nothing, just tell you that it's fine. It's just another lifestyle, and they should learn to deal with it.
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Old 11-7-2004, 07:12 PM   #4
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there your parents, they wouldn't care
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Old 11-7-2004, 07:14 PM   #5
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I wouldn't be so gung-ho about it. Sure, your parents will love you regardless, but still.

I know my parents (mom, mainly) would be very shocked/disappointed at first, and I wouldn't want to put her through that. You're still young (I presume high school?), and that could make things a little weirder in the house. Plus, you may very well grow out of it, so why bother anyone like that if you could just come out in a while, so that nobody's gonna worry?

Of course, some parents and some kids might have very hostile reactions. If you're afraid of that, wait until college, when everyone comes out and almost everyone will accept that.

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Old 11-7-2004, 07:49 PM   #6
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You're parents shouldnt care, and only tell your good friends at school. The other people will find out on their own.
It's just like when i died my hair green. My mom was shocked at first, then she got used to it.
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Old 11-7-2004, 08:12 PM   #7
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Kind of like how my French class full of Juniors found out I was a freshman after about a month.

Basically, don't tell anyone unless its really necessary--it isn't. And certainly do not flaunt it.
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Old 11-7-2004, 08:18 PM   #8
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Are you male or female? It makes a large difference.
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Old 11-7-2004, 08:43 PM   #9
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No offense with this question. Seriously.

Are you certain?

If you're not and you say it as if you are, then come back some time later and have to say that you were wrong, you get placed in an even more difficult position.

But, if you're certain and you believe it is the right thing to do to let your parents know, I would tell you to do so.

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Old 11-8-2004, 07:26 AM   #10
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Not really. I would know.

I would just explode. It's much easier. EDIT: Don't pay any attention to this line I forgot to drink coffee this morning

Or you could try the whole "accidentally on purpose" route.
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Old 11-8-2004, 08:06 AM   #11
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I wouldn't say anything about it. It's not the fact that you're bi that will upset your parents, they will be frightened to hear that you are starting to think about sex. I know my mom practically disowned me at first finding out I had sex (Oh yeah, thas right) and I was already 17 vs the 12 year olds commonly fuckin around these days. If you're thinking about sex, your parents just don't want to know. The only people you have any reason to tell these things to are your future partners, otherwise it's no one's business and declaring it for no particular reason is just asking for attention.
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#1) Make sure. How young are you? If you're 12/13 you're probably not sure at all, you might just be having an hormonal reaction to puberty or something like that. If so, honestly wait until you're about 15 before thinking about this anymore.

#2) Think about it for a month. Don't act like you know yet - look into yourself and try to figure things out. Would you be 100% comfortable having sex with a woman? 100% comfortable having sex with a man? Equally comfortable with both? (I don't know your sex, sorry)

#3) Then decide what the best thing to do is.
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Old 11-8-2004, 10:18 AM   #13
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Chardish is right on his 3-step guide right there, but if you happen to be older then everyone is putting you on, what you should do is either
A) if this is a relatively new thing, theer's no need to mention anything yet in the same way that you don't happen to just go ahead and tell everyone everything, if its really just part of who you are, then there's no need to bring attention to it
or B) if this has been the case for years and you feel that you ened tro come out, then of course do it, because its worth any risk their might be to be able to try and get the support that everyone needs from their loved ones
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Hopefully your parents are undertanding, unlike mine I know my dad would disown me for about 8 months and my mom wouldn't understand. But they're closed minded people that grew up in small cities. I think they're enough right answers here, but I think it depends on your parents when you should tell them.
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Old 11-8-2004, 10:33 AM   #15
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i wonder if this person is even listening to any of these solutions that you people have posted.....its pretty good advice
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Why the hell would parents be angry if they knew you were "thinking" about sex? It's completely natural. What the biff? What are you on, Alain? It's impossible NOT to think/learn/whatever about it.
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It is completely natural, but most parents don't want to think that their kid is having sex or even thinking about it. That often applies especially to sex with the same gender.

I know I practically flipped out when I found out (so I thought, but whatever) that a couple of my fouteen and fifteen year old TAG kids weren't virgins, and it really disappoints me to know that others really want to or are trying to. I shudder to think that my PEP kids, whom I've known since they were eight, nine, and ten, are now pushing high school and doing the same things.

I know thinking about sex is totally natural; I thought about it all the freakin' time, and I often still do, but it's completely different when you're in a parent's position.

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It is completely natural, but most parents don't want to think that their kid is having sex or even thinking about it.
Similarly, most kids don't want to think that their parents are having sex or even thinking about it.
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thanks guido, and it's not my opinion that parents should be apalled that their kids are thinking about sex, I'm just saying what my parents thought about it, and I'd say they are pretty steriotypical parents. Mind you, my dad was more understanding than my mom.
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Old 02-3-2005, 11:39 PM   #20
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ok.. thank you everyone.... i lost track of this post for a little while, but i found it again.. lol (stupid me)......
Anyways... i am now a 16 year old male.. to answer some of your quandries... and yes, this has been for quite a while.... (is it 3 or 4 years now?)... and yes, i would be equally comfortable having sex with either partner, or, for that matter, both at the same ttime..... lol, but seriously.. My parents are cool about sex.. they just say "Have safe sex, and we don't wanna know anything else." so ya.... and since i put this up, i did tell one of my really close friends... a girl a year older than me... i figure it'll be better to have the support of my friends before confronting my parents..... i am probably wrong there too, but hey, who knows? Asta Luego all.... my measily attempt at Spanish......
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