Is it best to say "yes" all the time? To comply? To appease ppl?

[LordCarlos]

I'm known to be argumentative. I like to play devil's advocate. The problem is that not everyone likes to play devil's advocate, especially most people, including most of my family. So basically, even though I agree with someone, I end up making enemies because they are emotionally heated. The word "No" just doesn't sit well with a lot of people, and it just seems to somehow ruin a lot of otherwise amazing relationships. I like to play devils advocate and see all the possibilities, see all sides and perspectives. But people seem to be so biased, they can't even look at the opposite side for a second!

I recently started lying and just said "yes" "mhmm" and "oh, of course! you are certainly right about that!" And it has definitely earned me some improvement in a lot of relationships.

So what do you think? Is a "yes" policy almost always better than a "no" policy? Some of you might think, "You should stand up for what you believe in! Don't always say yes! That's being a coward!" But you know what, saying "Yes" solves *a lottt!!* of problems! I have avoided entire arguments just by saying yes and giving compliments. I've made love instead of war. "Yes" and "I'm listening" seem to be magic words that rub people in a very very nice way.

What are your thoughts? I consider this a personal recipe for success. The YES! strategy.