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Old 08-3-2004, 11:58 AM   #1
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Default Love and frienship: the fine line

How does one tell the difference between a strong friendship and loving feelings?

I am a woman of many male friends, and they are all close to me in a way. I made the mistake of dating one of them, but that seemed to work out okay....the feelings between us are gone, but truthfully, he and I are actually closer friends now than we were before; it is great.

As previously mentioned, I have many male friends....and I am seen as the "good friend" the "close friend" the "best friend" and (a lot more now than ever before) that person you can talk to about "anything." Which is true, I pride myself on being a close friend and being there for my friends when they need me...not because I am necessarily a nice person, (I would like to think so, however...) but because I would want someone to be there for me through times that suck. The drawback of having male friends, though....and doing male things (i.e. video games, wrestlling...the occasional porn flick...) makes the dating thing a lot harder than if you are a giggling sorority chick. (nothing against sororities..but I am from Waco...and Baylor sorority chicks slay me.)

I cannot help but think about where the line is crossed between a close friendship and a loving relationship. On most wedding invitations I have seen, there is a quote that starts "Today I will marry my best friend..." (My sister had it EVERYWHERE...oh man, did THAT get annoying.) And I cannot help but wonder if that is what we are supposed to do, get together with a good friend. I disagree to an extent, because the last time that happened, it ended rather.....oddly. Not bad, just odd. Even uncomforable at times.

Anyway, I am done....lemme know what y'all think.
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Old 08-3-2004, 12:37 PM   #2
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i think that u love ur closest friends almost as much as a boyfriend/girlfriend or maybe even more

anyways i dont really know what ur asking, it sounded like u were just stating a fact
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Old 08-3-2004, 01:02 PM   #3
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I was just looking for other opinions on the subject...not really asking anyting per se...but thanks for your input...=)
Btw....NICe avitar. Me likey.......a lot.
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Old 08-3-2004, 04:44 PM   #4
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I've dated my best friend and we have broken up, but we are closer than ever. It sucks though, since it seems like you can't date any of the girls that are your "friend" because they think it would be odd or something. That's just what I have noticed.
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Old 08-3-2004, 04:46 PM   #5
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I think true friendship is akin to love at a later age, but love is one level higher on how strong the bond is. However, when you are younger and the hormones are there, I think lust is what makes friendship and dating different, but love is still the same throughout.
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Old 08-4-2004, 10:15 AM   #6
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it depends on how you look at it, at least for me. I have my girlfriend, and im sure i love her, but i love all my friends as well, up to the point there if given the choice i'd gladly give my life for theirs. But the love i have for my girl is different than the one i house for my closest friends, VERY different, i dont spend all day thinking about my closest friends, even though i do love them, yet i do so for my girl to give an example. for me, there reallly isint a line between best friend and love, because for me in order for them to be my best friends i have to feel a close bond with that person, and that includes loving them ( including the males in a weird platonic way lol)
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Old 08-5-2004, 11:14 PM   #7
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Long time listener, first time caller! Love the show by the way!

My friends are prodominently female and I have noticed that when it comes to love, it sort of sneaks up on me. Im like, "You know, that girl is pretty cool. Pretty too. Pretty... Mmmm" then as we hang out more and become better friends, she slowly takes over my mind. Next thing I know Im thinking about her when I wake up, and she's the last person I think about when I fall asleep. She appears in my dreams a lot and I care about her far more than I do any other being. Yes, even more than my dog but I love my dog and if I love you more than my dog well then im practically married. (normal dog lover no grossness)
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