11-23-2013, 02:39 PM | #21 | ||
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literally just shut the hell up otherwise you sound retarded and incompetent trying to fill in those absences of sound with hesitant language of "uh, uhm, well.., etc.," or using overly generalized tropes when you're trying to keep talking for no reason at all
pausing for too long should be the last of your worries: it can be seen as a specific prosodic style of conversing and indicates that you are careful with what you say. you shouldn't worry that others might think you take too long on your responses. it's natural to speak quickly as possible because that's just the normal rate of conversation in the states, but it often leads to misspoken accidents, a clear indication of idiocy, or a sign of impatience. there's a delicate balance of being able to make your words mean something as well as being heard. suck my dick choof yeaaaaaaaaaaa
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When people don't use the "ummm" set of words it makes them seem more composed and confident. I'm more likely to trust what they are saying. I think one thing to keep things interesting in conversations is to tell your little critic demon on your shoulder to step off. If you say what comes to mind and don't let what-ifs/repercussions get in the way, sometimes you learn something new about yourself and the person you're talking to. Sometimes it might even lead to an awesome conversation! |
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I would love to talk with people daily, but right now I live in a college dorm where my roommates usually don't talk with me other then saying short greetings. My best friend went to another college, so right now I don't have anyone I talk with regularly. Hopefully I'll be able to make at least one good friend soon. Quote:
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In terms of small talk, I would like to offer more to say than I think the weather is nice or I'm feeling well, but I'm not sure what I would say to elaborate. When I mentioned pausing in a conversation, I meant pausing during my turn to speak after I listen to my conversation partner. Maybe during pauses I could say "please give me a little awhile to think of a response", but I really would like to have an idea of what I would like to say more often so I can develop my personality. Thank you for your advice. Quote:
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*edit* I hope I don't sound harsh when addressing everyone's advice; thank you for your advice, everyone. I appreciate what everyone is telling me.
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11-23-2013, 03:46 PM | #24 | ||
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no, i've understood your concern about knowing 'what to say' but i was primarily addressing your concern about prosody. you know how to learn what to say in given situations? Read more. Rofl
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11-23-2013, 04:45 PM | #26 |
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I can read as much as I would like but I would rather not copy someone else's manner of speaking; I would like to develop my own.
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11-23-2013, 04:51 PM | #27 |
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11-23-2013, 04:55 PM | #28 |
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Yes, but it's one thing to copy different manners of speech to create one original way of speaking, and it's another to completely copy a single person's manner of speech.
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I don't see much shame in it. Granted, I don't do it on purpose ever. I guess it would be like if I started making my profiles to look exactly like Evnoir's or WolfXHunter's. lol |
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11-23-2013, 06:39 PM | #31 |
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Hmm, well then don't actively do it. Try putting yourself around different people (yeah I said make some new friends! Awesome!) and see if you change in a good way. You might be able to start acting more spontaneous if you put yourself around people who accept that in you more so than your current friends (since it sounds like you might be having a problem with it.)
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11-23-2013, 06:59 PM | #32 | |
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However, I don't think that'll help develop my own personality very much. D:
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11-23-2013, 08:12 PM | #33 |
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So what is the best way to fill dead air?
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11-23-2013, 08:59 PM | #34 | ||
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11-24-2013, 02:15 AM | #36 |
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do anything anyhow you want
talk to people, don't, be silent and stare, at them, the floor, say umm, do whatever, it doesn't matter you're cool and fine the way you are, and you can change yourself or not, just roll with what life gives you |
11-24-2013, 03:07 AM | #37 |
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Thank you, I agree. I'll try to be myself. ^.^
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The internet while not a permanent substitute is a great place to do this, assuming you can find the right people. I'd be so socially withdrawn if the internet was not here. Even then though I'm still extremely confused myself about a lot of social norms and such. And I understand you might feel it's not the same, with video feeds and microphones it doesn't change the main way you can communicate. It's pretty much like interactions with people in a game with a handicap of sorts? hard to explain this without sounding like a douche. |
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11-24-2013, 05:26 AM | #40 | |
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What you said is shallow nonsense because small talk is just a pretence in which you destroy your personality. It only aids in conversation on a practical level. It's not something to be given as advice to someone struggling in conversation. I don't want to go in-depth about what makes a personality. But if you want to, you can think deeply about that yourself and then look at your post. You should quickly see what's wrong with it. |
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