I'm not having kids.

[AutotelicBrown]

I intend to have children myself, although it should take upwards of 10 years for me to reach the conditions I'd be satisfied with to actually get them. Not sure I'll be in a heterosexual relationship by then but I'll rely on surrogacy need it be.

Originally Posted by Izzy

I wouldn't do that only because I don't believe it is fair to the child to not be raised as well as they can be compared to 2 parents.

Are you basing that only on your common sense? From what you can get on the research front, other factors (like money that you already mentioned in the other post) are way more important than the difference of 1 to 2 parents to how well off the child will be, and even then that's only if the 2 parents have a healthy relationship to start with.

Aside from that, the biological link isn't nearly as important as actually having someone to care for the child, you can always live with someone else (not necessarily in a romantic relationship or maybe in a non-binary one) who is willing to help raise the children.

Originally Posted by Izzy

I should just pay the women to also be my wife and help raise them.

Not sure how it goes there, but in Brazil you'd pretty much need the trust of an actual wife to try that out as it's almost trivial for the mother to bring legal action and take custody of the children while the father has to pay alimony.