How is your social life right now?

[justin_ator]

I'm kind of in a pretty interesting situation. I've never been good being truly on my own, it really gets to me. But at the same time I thoroughly enjoy having time to do my own thing by myself on things I enjoy (FFR, programming, etc).

Lately I've been finding myself wanting more and more interaction with other people where I'm at but I can't bring myself to do so because every time I do I wind up regretting the decision. I'm finding I really don't like many of the people around me anymore (these aren't long-time friends, I moved here in June last year). Too much drama and stupid stuff, and I don't really feel anywhere near as welcome anymore either.

It's kind of forcing me back to where I was when I moved here, pretty lonely and wanting social interaction. Just hard to get myself into it when it always leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

(not even going to go into the relationship aspect of socializing)

[Vendetta21]

Originally Posted by Tps222

I only socialize for as much time as it takes to justify the amount of time I'd prefer to spend alone doing things I solely enjoy. It isn't an obligation as much as a feeling of balance; I don't enjoy either if neglecting one area for the other.

lol this is such a you way of looking at it

[lurker]

i have ascended to a level beyond social interaction



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[Coolboyrulez0]

[tosh]

Originally Posted by reuben_tate

(Also, random note, doesn't have much to do with this topic but it occurred to me as I was typing this post. Does anyone else have the issue of people you can't remember saying "hi" to you? Whenever I walk around school, there are people that are like "Hey Reuben!" and I exchange a "hey" back but I don't even know who they there (although they may seem familiar).)

Opposite for me. I'll see someone who I had one class with three years ago and recognize them immediately. I never say anything though because I know they won't remember me (has happened before and is kinda awkward).

[DossarLX ODI]

Originally Posted by reuben_tate

(Also, random note, doesn't have much to do with this topic but it occurred to me as I was typing this post. Does anyone else have the issue of people you can't remember saying "hi" to you? Whenever I walk around school, there are people that are like "Hey Reuben!" and I exchange a "hey" back but I don't even know who they there (although they may seem familiar).)

For me it's the other way around. I say hello to someone I recognize from another class or whatever and that person just gives me a weird look, stays quiet, or goes "hey" and turns around.

"Going outside" is overrated. Some users in this thread mentioned that they do regret the decision of "going out" several times, and it's generally not a good decision if it is with people that do not have much in common with interests. I can't talk about rhythm games to people around me because it won't make sense. I'd rather interact with people that have an idea of what I'm saying, not just those dry boring topics like "hey how are classes going" or "cold outside, isn't it?" etc.

Either way I personally prefer non-verbal communication. If there is an interesting discussion going on but someone keeps mispronouncing words or saying other things etc. I don't like that. In front of a screen and with a keyboard there's more time to reasonably think things out rather than be somewhere in the flesh and around people that are willing to interrupt you and ignore just to "win". It also solves the problem of people who have strong foreign accents and talk too fast; they can normally type words and be understandable.

[Izzy]

I think way faster than I can put words into coherent sentences so I often pause randomly to think about how to say something in a way that makes sense to other people.

I'm sure plenty of people at some point have thought I was an idiot.

A lot of people people will fill pauses with random noises like "um", but I just don't talk like that. That's ok though. I somewhat enjoy awkward situations and I hope to someday meet an incredibly awkward girl because it is far more interesting to me.

[Wafles]

My social life is probably pretty average aside from the fact that I don't really date much. Haven't been in a stable relationship my entire life basically.

I do hang out with people often enough to keep me occupied. I'm fortunate to have found groups of people locally who share the same interests in things, if I ever wanted to play Smash Bros. I could call someone and go do it that day, if I want to play board games I have people to call as well, or if I just want to drink with people I have a group for that as well. Things just kind of work out.

On top of all of that its good to know that there are people from this site and people from SMO who I've been able to hang out with that share this common interest. The internet is awesome.

I kind of don't know if I even want to start dealing with girls, on a whim I tried some online dating stuff because I simply didn't know anyone I was interested in IRL, and nothing came of that. Something tells me that introducing a lady-friend in my life would smother everyone else out and I have too much fun in general right now to be okay with that.

Really neat idea for a topic, I've enjoyed reading all of your responses and this is kind of a cool way to vent about some things. I don't really need any advice on anything since I think I'm basically 100% happy with my life but its cool to see others get a little advice here and there.

[I like it]

ive got a really close friend who i can trust with pretty much everything and know that he will always be there and lots of other friends that i can hang out with pretty much anytime im free but with work and school its hard to have any free time to do stuff, i do hang out a lot though i guess you could say

and theres this one girl that ive been talking to for a few months now, but i hate that i like her so much cause shes all i ever think about anymore

[XelNya]

Originally Posted by reuben_tate

(Also, random note, doesn't have much to do with this topic but it occurred to me as I was typing this post. Does anyone else have the issue of people you can't remember saying "hi" to you? Whenever I walk around school, there are people that are like "Hey Reuben!" and I exchange a "hey" back but I don't even know who they there (although they may seem familiar).)

I had this problem in high school. A lot of the people knew who I was but I couldn't be fucked to learn who they where. They only knew who I was because I went on the morning announcements once because we needed a fill in and I was kinda the guy on the crew who'd do everything. Apparently I was funny or something. I actually asked one of them "why the fuck are you talking to me." Pretty funny stuff.

[Izzy]

Do we have a skype usernames thread? I'd like it if more people messaged me on skype for whatever nonsense. I don't really care what it is about because I'm generally free to talk.

[Hateandhatred]

I'm not much of someone who likes to hang out with people. As weird as it may sounds for those of you who have met me. I have a large circle of friends I mostly maintain a relationship with through the internet, though. Both local friends and distant ones.

However, when I do meet people, I do it full force with the fun stuff. It can translate to a lot of things, but with most people, it translates to being fucking retarded, and it works well. I consider myself sort of skilled socially, as well as a natural leader with friends (most of the time). Sometimes I fuck up, but hey.

I'm trying to improve my social life. I met sanzath from ffr last week (we meet every now and then), and I'm going to a CoB show next Friday. And I hit the gym every day.

So to answer the main question: I'm not exactly super active socially, but I try to improve that. I'm not antisocial, I can definitely adapt to most people, even though sometimes it takes time, but I'm always doing better alone.

[j-rodd123]

Originally Posted by One Winged Angel

I'll understand if you get offers from both schools and ultimately choose SFU over Waterloo, but I'll still be pretty rattled.

I heard tons of people at Waterloo have gambling addictions and are willing to play almost any game for money. We could easily hustle iSketch.

hahah I wish, I never see people gambling here :P

although the social life atmosphere at UWaterloo for ppl who like to party and stuff is really shitty, but luckily Laurier is literally right down the street and the people who go there are a million times better to party with.

but yea come to waterloo both of you and ill show you the good bars

[andy-o24]

Originally Posted by Izzy

Do we have a skype usernames thread? I'd like it if more people messaged me on skype for whatever nonsense. I don't really care what it is about because I'm generally free to talk.

I just searched through 20 pages of threads searching for keywords "skype thread" and got nothing of the sort. I figure we could make one.

-o24

[choof]

I know two people in Colorado.

[justin_ator]

Originally Posted by Izzy

Do we have a skype usernames thread? I'd like it if more people messaged me on skype for whatever nonsense. I don't really care what it is about because I'm generally free to talk.

Originally Posted by andy-o24

I just searched through 20 pages of threads searching for keywords "skype thread" and got nothing of the sort. I figure we could make one.

-o24

Threw something together in Google Docs with a form, I'll make a thread~
edit: made

[Destroy2777]

From what I recall, it feels like I only often connect with people if I do something with them; it feels like this works to facilitate communication, and in this strange way, I get to understand others through this.

The parallel of just speaking to a person often doesn't do much for me, as I don't know what to talk about to strike up a conversation, partially because I don't know the other person's interests.

[TheSaxRunner05]

I had a modest group of friends in high school, but when I went to college, it felt like everyone held me at arms length. As someone slow to socialize and not a drinker, I didn't really fit the crowd at what was primarily a state funded party school. Most people were too wrapped up indulging their own whims to give a shit about each other. There were hundreds of acquaintances but only one or two friends in the whole lot. Now that I'm graduated and married, I still have a few old high school friends in the area, but we all work 40+ hour weeks and have little time to meet.

[awein999]

Originally Posted by DossarLX ODI

For me it's the other way around. I say hello to someone I recognize from another class or whatever and that person just gives me a weird look, stays quiet, or goes "hey" and turns around.

"Going outside" is overrated. Some users in this thread mentioned that they do regret the decision of "going out" several times, and it's generally not a good decision if it is with people that do not have much in common with interests. I can't talk about rhythm games to people around me because it won't make sense. I'd rather interact with people that have an idea of what I'm saying, not just those dry boring topics like "hey how are classes going" or "cold outside, isn't it?" etc.

Either way I personally prefer non-verbal communication. If there is an interesting discussion going on but someone keeps mispronouncing words or saying other things etc. I don't like that. In front of a screen and with a keyboard there's more time to reasonably think things out rather than be somewhere in the flesh and around people that are willing to interrupt you and ignore just to "win". It also solves the problem of people who have strong foreign accents and talk too fast; they can normally type words and be understandable.

Yeah it's similar here. From my personal experience with the majority of people in my irl area, I have to make everything I do/say extra clear as to what I mean/why or else there will be misconceptions and drama in the long run. I'm more sensitive and perceptive than most people so I hate it. I also care about strangers around me until they give me a reason to stop while not everyone feels that same way. My goal is to make connections in the form of people that I don't have to walk on eggshells for. I have a couple close friends but more would be nice.

I don't really focus on "going out" but rather making personal fulfilling connections with dapper people. That's priceless. I don't use the word "friend" lightly

[smartdude1212]

I'm dapper. Let's do this.