Girls are so complicated...

[Tantric]

I am totally getting frustrated....Me and my ex g/f broke up last week because i'm going to hawaii and she says we can talk and see eachother and just be normal and stuff...but everytime after i see her she always says she doesnt want to b/c it will make her want to be with me...and she is starting to see this other guy already! and she doesnt want him to think that we're still together yet she comes and see's me but then doesnt want to!! wtf ahh...cant she just make up her mind...dont talk to her or talk to her...i try and give her space but then she comes to me saying she misses me and when i talk to her she says not to talk to her...wierd huh...

[N0BAWDY]

Girls will do that kind of stuff until there maybe 16 or so. She just needs time to figure out what she wants. Until then just leave her alone she's not worth the confusion/heart-break.

[Tantric]

that's what i want to do...she's 18 btw...and im 17...18 in august we were together for 10 months...so yeah..

[N0BAWDY]

Sorry, I kinda figured she was younger cuz (no offense) she sounds a little immature, but then again i don't know her so i have no room to judge... 10 months is a long time, my gf and I have been together for 2.5 months and we're trying everything to make it work between us. If she keeps on coming back to you just ask her to make up her mind and stick with it.

[aperson]

No they aren't.

[Tps222]

Went out with a girl for a year and a half. she broke up with me, to go out with some other guy, who is worse then me. She knows I'm better, she has told me, she also says that she wants to go back out with me, but not now.

[Neonatrias]

Sadly, those kinds of things have happened to me on a few occasions. Honestly, there's always some kind of logic applied to it. It's just a little hard to figure it out sometimes.

What you need to do is just talk to her. Ask her straight-up, "Who are you sticking with?" Seriously. Once you get rid of that uncertainty, I think things will get a little better.

[N0BAWDY]

Originally Posted by Neonatrias

Sadly, those kinds of things have happened to me on a few occasions. Honestly, there

Couldn't have said it better myself

[aperson]

Originally Posted by Tps222

Went out with a girl for a year and a half. she broke up with me, to go out with some other guy, who is worse then me. She knows I'm better, she has told me, she also says that she wants to go back out with me, but not now.

You're being played, ignore this chick.

[JurseyRider734]

Haha.


Guys are stupid. No, really.

She doesn't like you anymore, but she's still dependant on you which explains why she says she "misses you". This other guy isn't fulfilling her needs, and she knows that you'll be there for her to rely on, but she doesn't really like you as much as she used to. My advice: Forget about her and move on. If she tries to get back together, reject her, and show her that you won't be taken for a fool.

[blahblah18]

or take her back because deep down inside you know you're weak and woudl rather be with her EVEN if she is playing you (which she is)

[aperson]

Originally Posted by JurseyRider734

Haha.


Guys are stupid. No, really.

She doesn't like you anymore, but she's still dependant on you which explains why she says she "misses you". This other guy isn't fulfilling her needs, and she knows that you'll be there for her to rely on, but she doesn't really like you as much as she used to. My advice: Forget about her and move on. If she tries to get back together, reject her, and show her that you won't be taken for a fool.

Correct correct correct. Except replace 'doesn't really like you as much as she used to' with 'you make a good doormat.'

[angel-d]

Maybe she is confused becuase you are leaving. She wants it to be easy for you to go as she cares about your future and doesn't want to hold you back (hence the breaking up and going out with someone else so quickly) but deep down she still wants to be with you.
She is wrong for messing you around but maybe she is just confused and upset. I'd say make your own mind up, if you see long term plans with her, fight for it and work through having a long distance relationship, if it was just a bit of fun let her go and tell her that together you have made a decision to stay seperate and that is how it has to be.
If you were going to stay where you are for a while, i would give her some space and eventually you could have a really strong friendship. However as you are leaving, i would just try to forget about it.
Althernatively she could just be a bit of a *&!* who is messing people around in which case you should keep your distance and be glad you got out while you could.
But then what do i, or any one else know about it. Relationships are complicated and you can't really judge unless you know all the people involved.
Deep inside you will always know what you have to do better than anyone else can tell you. So all i can say is stay true to your self and do what you think is right.

[Tasselfoot]

Jursey + Blah = Truth.

But, at the same time, if all you really want is some cheap lovin' and she is still willing to put out, then keep it. I had that going for about a year. Then again, I knew exactly what I wanted out of it... and I had dumped her, and she had kept trying to get back with me.

[mead1]

I am going to avoid all this for another couple of years, just too much stress for this poor freshman.

It also helps that I am boring and ugly...

[LatinGman]

What i belive is that wemon have this communication circle. it has a dot inside of it. If some thing happenes that circle gets bigger lines come out and every girl in that town and or city know something about it .
In other words dont scruw up when it comes wit girls becouse it will F**k up your whole rep wit the others

[mihok019]

you know...you think girls are complicated, but to me guys are a complete mystery. anyway, regardless of what's going on in her head right now, i think that the best course of action is to just keep distance between you and her.

[Tantric]

but we love eachother...we fell in love! and thats why i think she cant get me away...i have no idea..i asked her straight up in an email...still waiting for a reply...

[fusi0n]

Man...you are so desperate.

[eVILPeeR]

Listen dude, I'm going through the almost same thing.
I broke up with my girlfriend after a 3 month relationship. I fell in love with her, but she had no feelings for me.
I had to break up with her. Believe me, this is one of the hardest things I've gone through. When I try to talk to her, she pushes me away. She's avoiding me. Seriously, it's just making it harder, considering I still have feelings for her and I need her to some degree. I just can't convince myself that I don't need her, and that I need to be away from her. It's really hard. To be honest with you, ask her straight up like everyone has said (in person works MUCH better than e-mail..). Whatever answer she gives you, is up to you to move on with.

Anyways.. yes, girls can be complicated sometimes, because some of the things they do just do not make any sense to guys. Most of it makes perfect sense to me, though the reason behind it is usually bollocks.