Anyone else live with an alcoholic?

[-Skooter-]

I don't understand why people look for any available thread, that are aimed towards general conversation and use it to start verbally bashing each other.
Get a ****ing hobby. Collect rocks. Make macaroni art, for ****s sake.

As for Leonine, I can relate, if not explain why your situation is actually fairly lucky.

My dad was hit by a car while riding a bike when I was 12. He was in a "vegetative" state, until I was 16, at which point we actually had to put him on "Hospice" and sign a "DNR" to ensure that once he was gone, they wouldn't try to save him, so that he could pass on.
My mom took this HORRIBLY, and the end result, was a few washed up abusive men, a LOT of alcohol, and she even went as far as to start using drugs.
I was in high school, and tried to stay home as little as possible, because my mom was a mean, sloppy, needy drunk and drug abuser who I couldn't stand to be around.
I had a brother that was 6 years younger than me, and my mom actually became pregnant from one of these ridiculous men that she was seeing, so I got a baby brother while she was still pretty out of it. She used while she was pregnant, but the baby came out healthy fortunately, but it wasn't at all an opportune time to add a baby to the mix of the already bad situation.

Between school and work, and trying to avoid home, it was hard for me to take care of myself, and the two kids. I got them ready every morning, and as for the baby, I had to leave him at my grandmas. I did this commonly by driving illegaly with no license, to and from wherever I had to be. My income was the only thing feeding us, so missing work wasn't an option either.

Time went by, and the more she drank, the more violent it would get. Staying at home always resulted in little to no sleep, seeing as she would attempt to burn the house down, stab my step dad, etc. The police did little to nothing, because they said that she was in the house and even though inebriated had no evidence that she actually stabbed my step dad. (Apparently wounds aren't evidence?) She pushed the refrigerator over on my foot once and broke it relatively badly, which was also ignored by the police..

Anyways, it was like this EVERY night, for a LONG time. My brothers went to live with my grandmother, and I was fortunate enough to be dating a guy (whom you all know as 87x, or Trey) and his mom allowed me to move in with them so that I could continue going to school and so on.
Those were the absolute BEST solutions I could possibly have asked for, and I recommend the same to you.
You're fortunate in the sense that he's not an irate person when he drinks, yet it doesn't mean that it won't change at any given point if he's provoked in the wrong manner.
You're mom I'm sure is a good woman, and has the best of intentions, but she's not doing the right thing by not ridding herself of the situation, especially because you have young kids in the house, and maybe the better solution than discussing it with him, is for you to discuss it with her.

It's not an easy thing to do, because I'm sure it already stresses her out and you don't want to hurt her feelings seeing as she's your mom so you should approach that carefully.

I'm 22 now, and my mom is a fully recovered person. She no longer uses drugs, nor drinks. She won't even have wine or champagne in celebratory settings to avoid that chance.
My mom was recovered and with the man that she had the baby with when he slipped up while the baby was in his care, and my mom was at work, and they filed him for endangerment of a child, and because of this, my mom lost custody of my youngest brother to the state of Massachusettes (who are impossible to please) and he was adopted.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, that if your mom doesn't do something soon, regardless of how harmless you may see the situation, his behavior could risk her losing your siblings, or getting herself in trouble for his actions, so something needs to be done.

Wow, this got long pretty fast, so I'm going to end it here... if you need anything you're more than welcome to PM me, Good luck dude.

[WolfXhunter]

my brother is an alcoholic but he knocks out like nothing. we draw on his face with perm maker.

[Kibblre]

Originally Posted by WolfXhunter

my brother is an alcoholic but he knocks out like nothing. we draw on his face with perm maker.

Write "Penus" on his chin.

[WolfXhunter]

Originally Posted by Kibblre

Write "Penus" on his chin.

lawl ill be sure to next time. Drew a nazi sign on his forehead last time.

[~HentaiXXX~]

My mom is a huge alcoholic.

That's all I'll say because I don't think I should go into my personal life too much.

/wrist UUUGGGHHH OH GOD THE BLOOD GOD YEEESSS

[~HentaiXXX~]

Hooray she just ripped my ass about nothing while on the phone with somebody while he laughed and then she started crying for no reason!

God my life sucks so bad! =D

[Quigly]

This thread is so ****ing weird haha.

[foilman8805]

Originally Posted by -Skooter-

shortened to not be obnoxious

Actually read it all, so I have to give you credit for making the best of your situation.

Moving on...as I said earlier in the thread (and you echoed) that Leonine is pretty lucky that his dad remains a docile alcoholic. I agree with you though that in spite of his docility, it's still a problem and Leo's mom and family need to purge the poison from the house.

It's by no means easy either, but I really hope you can figure something out, Leo. In the meantime, I guess all you can do is do what you've been doing. Keep your distance, and just make sure your siblings are taken care of and okay.

[~HentaiXXX~]

grah, now she's saying, "AFTER I LEFT I TOLD YOU TO GO UP TO GRANDMA'S AND SHE WOULD TELL YOU WHAT TO DO!!!"
"What? You never even said that..."
"YES I DID DON'T EVEN START WITH ME"
"What the hell? You probably said this when I was in the shower, WHERE I COULDN'T EVEN HEAR YOU."

She left while I was in the shower. I heard her yelling stuff at me, but I couldn't understand her for sh*t, BECAUSE I WAS IN THE SHOWER. She was gone all day, so I had no idea what I was supposed to do. (was supposed to do yard work and stuff, BUT I DIDN'T KNOW THIS UNTIL NOW)

My backpack was in the car too, so I couldn't get any homework done.


whew, sorry for posting this, because none of you probably care, just had to post it.

[korny]

My parents are mormon. I wonder which is worse...

[justaguy]

tell your mom to stop being a dumb ****** and divorce your step dad

[-Skooter-]

Originally Posted by korny

My parents are mormon. I wonder which is worse...

LOL I was baptized Mormon.
Pretty tough decision there

[Flaming_Dingleberry]

My dad is alcoholic.

He argues with my mother.

At 5am, he walked into his room and they started arguing. My mom whispered something (inaudible) and he said, "Yeah, keep yelling, wake everyone up that'll make things better"
She closed the door, and he eventually started yelling. I couldn't get to bed even though I was up until 5am and had school in the morning xD

[korny]

Originally Posted by Flaming_Dingleberry

My dad is alcoholic.

He argues with my mother.

My dad is workaholic.

He supports my mother.

[rqm]

dude g isnt even that close to n u cant type homie

[who_cares973]

oh you

[DAD1]

vivo con chubs

[Flaming_Dingleberry]

Originally Posted by korny

My dad is workaholic.

He supports my mother.

Is this a challenge? I think your dad won.

Then again, my family is the same, just my mom is playing your dad's part. Does your dad support your mom, or does your mom work too?

[PhaeL v2]

Originally Posted by Cj_leonine

His drunken behavior is giving me more reason to knock him out.

THIS!

[Syhto]

My mother was an alcoholic, it's really rough. We went through CPS, jailing, probation meetings, AA, AlAnon, rehab, everything. She wouldn't stop drinking, and she was a very, very mean and abusive drunk.

She once slapped me in the head when I was 8, slammed me into a door frame, and my skull was fractured. I had staples put in my head, etc. Went through a lot of counseling. She was also bipolar and had several other personality disorders, which made the alcoholism a lot worse. She had something called BPD, boderline personality disorder, which is a very serious mental illness. Plus she had mild dementia, a few others...

All in all, I just did what I could when I could. I at least didn't have others to take care of. But then again, I was completely alone with her most of the time. Growing up I walked to and from school, and my father worked late. My mother was always passed out or up, calling her ten or whatever year old daughter a bitch and getting her to light her cigarettes, fill her glass, get her ashtray, fix her dinner. I basically took care of her.

So... yeah. I don't really have any advice. To be honest I handled it in a really ****ty way, and I turned out not so great. I inherited a lot of things from her. It's just really, really rough. Hopefully it helps just to know you definitely are not alone.