Marriage

[1961casey]

Originally Posted by Cavernio

Well, if you feel like you're not as happy as you could be in a marriage, particularly if there's someone else that you'd rather be married to, and you forsee it as being better, I definitely understand why some people would break up the marriage. 'Settling' would be to stay with your spouse even though you perceive it as not being as good as something else you think you can obtain.

I think also that 'settling' is dwelling on the past or on what could have been. I think most people would concede that this would be a waste of time, because it just won't be. The real question is what can I do to move on? I am not going to waste time feeling sorry for what I won't get so what can I do to look forward. The best that can be done is to learn from what happened, why it happened and what can I do to keep it from happening again so that I won't have to 'settle' for anything else. "Settling' is for people who only feel sorry for themselves and, thus, are of no worth to anyone who wants a mature relationship.