Re: Sex ed. in schools
Certainly not by the academic community.
It is demeaning and demoralizing (and a convenient excuse) to men to say that they are "slaves to their genitals". For thousands of years, women were the gatekeepers and men were the seekers. However, there's just no evidence to back this up, particularly in our modern society with birth control.
You may think evolutionarily it makes sense: women would be more reluctant to have sex, and men would be more willing. I've even heard it explained like this: men can keep producing their seed, so it's cheap. It's a quick and easy commodity and isn't prized. However, a woman's egg only comes once a month, and she has only a limited number of them. That makes them prized. As such, women have to be choosy about who they have sex with, and men have to have sex with as many women as possible.
But this is only assuming impregnation is intended or possible!
Women may be more picky in their marital partners. They may desire to have children with only the best of men. But that doesn't mean that their sexual urges are non-existent, or weaker than a man's. In fact they are not.
Society makes it very cruel, and yet easy at the same time, for men. If they do something sexually inappropriate, it is excusable, because their sexual drive is thought to be so strong that they can hardly control it. But this is just not the case. Come on, think reasonably. You can easily control yourself sexually. You don't run around having sex with or humping everything you see, do you? And rapists don't either. It doesn't appear to be a high sexual drive, driving men to commit these acts.
So men have this reputation that they don't deserve - they can't control their sex drive. This makes subjects like male reluctance (when men don't really want to have sex but they are being pressured by their partner) very taboo- and most men who it has occurred to don't talk about it. You never hear about it, nobody talks about it, and people act like it doesn't exist, yet it's relatively common. I forget the actual statistic, but it was something around 65% of sexually active males and 35% of sexually active females have perceived this "male reluctance". Women are bad at recognizing it because they, too, fall victim to the "uncontrollable male" myth. But the reality is, men aren't always up and ready for it. Sometimes they have other things to think about, and sometimes they just aren't in the mood. It makes sense, doesn't it? Men get a lot of work done. They don't just sit around thinking with their penises all the time.
Women are also victims of this myth. Women fall victim to the "controllable sex drive" myth. Not that I am trying to say their sex drives ARE uncontrollable - they are not. But if they are any more controllable than men's, it's by a small margin. Women feel intense sexual feelings and strong urges to have sex. However, because we're considered the "gatekeepers" by society, we're socially expected to reserve ourselves for just one guy, while men are free to romp around. After all, you can't expect more of them - they're only guys. Their penis leads the way.
If you recall to anatomy, the clitoris develops from the same tissue as the penis. The clitoris is a concentrated bundle of nerve endings. It performs the same (sexual pleasure) function as the penis, only in a smaller package.
As well, the female brain forms from the same brain matter that would make a male brain. There is no difference early on in development. Once the developing fetus "responds" to the chromosomes, if nothing goes wrong, those with a Y will develop testes and the sensitive tissue will become a penis with the urethra routed through it. If there is no Y, the fetus has no change, and will continue along its original track - mass of tissue becomes clitoris, ovaries develop, etc.
But there is no "If there's a Y, hit the brain with an enlarged sex drive to the amygdala". That kind of thing has never been found.
You know what HAS been found, though? Higher levels of testosterone are not linked to increased sex drive, but physical aggression. Men, when injected with testosterone, become aroused (not necessarily sexually aroused - the process of the brain and body becoming ready to react) more easily. I don't know if they did it on women, but it might not be all that healthy, since we're not really designed to handle an influx of testosterone.
So there you go. Men do not have an insatiable sex drive, and women do not have a nonexistant one. Men, having more testosterone, are more aggressive than women, and that may drive them to do many of the things they do.
Certainly not by the academic community.
It is demeaning and demoralizing (and a convenient excuse) to men to say that they are "slaves to their genitals". For thousands of years, women were the gatekeepers and men were the seekers. However, there's just no evidence to back this up, particularly in our modern society with birth control.
You may think evolutionarily it makes sense: women would be more reluctant to have sex, and men would be more willing. I've even heard it explained like this: men can keep producing their seed, so it's cheap. It's a quick and easy commodity and isn't prized. However, a woman's egg only comes once a month, and she has only a limited number of them. That makes them prized. As such, women have to be choosy about who they have sex with, and men have to have sex with as many women as possible.
But this is only assuming impregnation is intended or possible!
Women may be more picky in their marital partners. They may desire to have children with only the best of men. But that doesn't mean that their sexual urges are non-existent, or weaker than a man's. In fact they are not.
Society makes it very cruel, and yet easy at the same time, for men. If they do something sexually inappropriate, it is excusable, because their sexual drive is thought to be so strong that they can hardly control it. But this is just not the case. Come on, think reasonably. You can easily control yourself sexually. You don't run around having sex with or humping everything you see, do you? And rapists don't either. It doesn't appear to be a high sexual drive, driving men to commit these acts.
So men have this reputation that they don't deserve - they can't control their sex drive. This makes subjects like male reluctance (when men don't really want to have sex but they are being pressured by their partner) very taboo- and most men who it has occurred to don't talk about it. You never hear about it, nobody talks about it, and people act like it doesn't exist, yet it's relatively common. I forget the actual statistic, but it was something around 65% of sexually active males and 35% of sexually active females have perceived this "male reluctance". Women are bad at recognizing it because they, too, fall victim to the "uncontrollable male" myth. But the reality is, men aren't always up and ready for it. Sometimes they have other things to think about, and sometimes they just aren't in the mood. It makes sense, doesn't it? Men get a lot of work done. They don't just sit around thinking with their penises all the time.
Women are also victims of this myth. Women fall victim to the "controllable sex drive" myth. Not that I am trying to say their sex drives ARE uncontrollable - they are not. But if they are any more controllable than men's, it's by a small margin. Women feel intense sexual feelings and strong urges to have sex. However, because we're considered the "gatekeepers" by society, we're socially expected to reserve ourselves for just one guy, while men are free to romp around. After all, you can't expect more of them - they're only guys. Their penis leads the way.
If you recall to anatomy, the clitoris develops from the same tissue as the penis. The clitoris is a concentrated bundle of nerve endings. It performs the same (sexual pleasure) function as the penis, only in a smaller package.
As well, the female brain forms from the same brain matter that would make a male brain. There is no difference early on in development. Once the developing fetus "responds" to the chromosomes, if nothing goes wrong, those with a Y will develop testes and the sensitive tissue will become a penis with the urethra routed through it. If there is no Y, the fetus has no change, and will continue along its original track - mass of tissue becomes clitoris, ovaries develop, etc.
But there is no "If there's a Y, hit the brain with an enlarged sex drive to the amygdala". That kind of thing has never been found.
You know what HAS been found, though? Higher levels of testosterone are not linked to increased sex drive, but physical aggression. Men, when injected with testosterone, become aroused (not necessarily sexually aroused - the process of the brain and body becoming ready to react) more easily. I don't know if they did it on women, but it might not be all that healthy, since we're not really designed to handle an influx of testosterone.
So there you go. Men do not have an insatiable sex drive, and women do not have a nonexistant one. Men, having more testosterone, are more aggressive than women, and that may drive them to do many of the things they do.
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