Relationship Poll

[Mollocephalus]

So many people said yes, but i highly doubt these people have any idea of how a relationship works. A romantic involvement INCLUDES a sexual involvement. If you refrain to express it, you're gonna have serious issues. Asexual people are people who have mental blocks about sexuality. It's a disease, not a choice.

[Dynam0]

Originally Posted by Mollocephalus

So many people said yes, but i highly doubt these people have any idea of how a relationship works. A romantic involvement INCLUDES a sexual involvement. If you refrain to express it, you're gonna have serious issues. Asexual people are people who have mental blocks about sexuality. It's a disease, not a choice.

Going into a relationship knowing that there will be no physical intimacy expressed is a value both partners must share in order to be happy imo, and it's entirely possible for this to happen and be a healthy functioning relationship. Obviously though if one or both partners value physical intimacy and it is no longer being expressed, that's an issue that has to be resolved.

Once again this discussion comes down to values over all else and there really is no wrong answer, only disputable claims as to why someone might choose said answer

[dAnceguy117]

Originally Posted by Mollocephalus

Asexual people are people who have mental blocks about sexuality.

[citation needed]

Originally Posted by Mollocephalus

It's a disease, not a choice.

that's a false dichotomy btw

[justaguy]

wow 15 people said yes thats just completely and utterly incorrect

[XelNya]

Originally Posted by justaguy

Wow 15 people said yes that's just completely and utterly incorrect.

No it's not. If you're so hung up on the fact you can't have sex you are the one that is completely and unfathomably wrong. You're merely treating that person as a blow up doll. Not as a person you actually care for. Sex is not something that should hold together the relationship. It should only excel it. It isn't a "disease" to not have a sexual desire. Treating it as such is fucking pathetic on your end. Realistically sex is a disgusting activity anyways.

Also before someone brings up "casual sex" please remember both parties are/should be aware of this status of treating each other as an object of sexual desire. If you're alright with consenting to it, shit that's your thing. Power to you.

That said:

Originally Posted by ohsosilly

But really, at the end of the day, I feel like a relationship's a two-way street, and she should be opening up to you about this stuff. Hopefully she'll come around and you guys can have an open and frank convo about it. It doesn't have to be a dealbreaker, but if it's something that's bothering you, I'd definitely address it sooner rather than later.

Is a pretty good way to sum it up.

[Poison-]

Originally Posted by XelNya

Realistically sex is a disgusting activity anyways..

Reproducing confirmed disgusting

[JurseyRider734]

Originally Posted by XelNya

Realistically sex is a disgusting activity anyways.

the fuck?

[Pseudo Enigma]

Originally Posted by XelNya

No it's not. If you're so hung up on the fact you can't have sex you are the one that is completely and unfathomably wrong. You're merely treating that person as a blow up doll. Not as a person you actually care for. Sex is not something that should hold together the relationship. It should only excel it. It isn't a "disease" to not have a sexual desire. Treating it as such is fucking pathetic on your end. Realistically sex is a disgusting activity anyways.

What about carnal desire? Everyone has it, well except for the asexual person in this case. Would this idea that it's possible change if your partner told you that you couldn't have sex at all because she doesn't want sex? If you went and slept with another person to feed the desire, what then?

INB4 "I can suppress it." No you can't rofl.

Also I don't know about this, but I assume asexual people can still commit the acts, they just don't get pleasure from it right? What about the pleasure of pleasing?

[DarknessXoXLight]

No way man, too good.

[shenjoku]

Does intimacy really immediately mean sex for everyone? I've never really thought that. Cuddles fo life <3

[Poison-]

A relationship where you can't even cuddle...rip

[Toxophilis]

I would say yes because I am asexual so I would be uncomfortable if it were anything more than kissing.

Originally Posted by Poison-

Has anyone that said yes been in an intimate relationship? Just curious.

Both 3-year relationships I have been in were intimate. Though I can elaborate if needed.

Originally Posted by Pseudo Enigma

Also I don't know about this, but I assume asexual people can still commit the acts, they just don't get pleasure from it right? What about the pleasure of pleasing?

That's not what it means. Most are still fully capable of feeling pleasure, they just have no desire or need to do said acts.

[korny]

Why do I highly doubt almost any asexual claim? It's more than likely just having a very low sex drive. True asexuality IMO is extremely extremely rare.

[Toxophilis]

Originally Posted by korny

Why do I highly doubt almost any asexual claim? It's more than likely just having a very low sex drive. True asexuality IMO is extremely extremely rare.

It is extremely rare. That's the point. It's only like, what, 1% of people or less than that probably? I think I read that somewhere. If more people came forward then it probably wouldn't be such a big deal.

[choof]

Originally Posted by korny

Why do I highly doubt almost any asexual claim? It's more than likely just having a very low sex drive. True asexuality IMO is extremely extremely rare.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality
low/zero sex drive is exactly what asexuality is rofl

and what mollo said about romantic relationships requiring sex is absolutely wrong
I'd definitely be in a romantic relationship before a sexual one

edit: kinda ninjad but w/e

[korny]

I'm talking .1% rare or rarer. I don't think you're asexual bro or the many who claim to be and not because I simply can't wrap my head around it. If you felt more comfortable with physical interaction and were given a good throat job or had sex with a woman who was near vaginismus calibre I think you'd have a change of heart.

EDIT: then wouldn't that just be a low sex drive as opposed to no sex drive? That's what I've come to understand about what asexuality is.

[Toxophilis]

Originally Posted by korny

I'm talking .1% rare or rarer. I don't think you're asexual bro or the many who claim to be and not because I simply can't wrap my head around it. If you felt more comfortable with physical interaction and were given a good throat job or had sex with a woman who was near vaginismus calibre I think you'd have a change of heart.

1. im a girl
2. been there, done that
3. wow you're an idiot

edit: wont respond to any more ignorant bs like this in future because i don't want to start a full scale argument about how wrong people are

[choof]

the official figure is 1% so maybe you don't know how to convert decimal to percentage or something

pleasure is not the issue
asexuals have zero sex drive: we just don't want to have sex rofl

tox can you stop ninjaing me pls

[korny]

I know what the proclaimed percentage is and I know you like to make a habit out of trying to question my intelligence because you're a spiteful little bitch lol, but I still question the validity of even 1% aka I think it's just a lack of experience thing.

[choof]

well i mean you're korny so yeah i don't put too much into what you say on flashflasrevolution.com