02-20-2013, 09:19 AM | #1 |
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as somebody who spent much of elementary and part of middle school marginalized and hurt, I teared up watching this. incredibly visceral video: even if you're not interested in seeing a PSA about bullying and cruelty, I'd suggest watching this just because it's absolutely beautifully made--think slam poetry crossed with Tim Burton's style. just thought I'd share this with everybody and get some thoughts. has anybody here ever been part of an effort to combat bullying? where do we even begin with a problem this big? does this video resonate with you? |
02-20-2013, 09:31 AM | #2 |
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you never really know how bad it was till you look back at it.
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02-20-2013, 09:36 AM | #3 |
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Pretty damn intense..
the only way I made it past the bullying imo was by luck. I did have a strong determination to be something great, and I guess that's what kept me going, but there was such a thin line to becoming insane.
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I went through mid-school with some struggle like everyone else in his or her own little way. Got over the bullying and name-calling. But it doesn't matter how far in life you are, something else will always compensate for what is no longer a problem.
Bullying becomes stress, name-calling becomes your superior or being the superior yourself. You analyze and become aware of all your flaws and try to correct them one by one, in the end trying to become a "civilized" person; someone to fit in with the masses. Aren't we ever how we want us to be? Are we cycling through a loop in which we try to adapt ourselves to our environment? Or are we doing this to ourselves? Perhaps... perhaps we all want to be equally unique. P.S: Olol I love making these posts at times
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02-20-2013, 10:25 AM | #5 |
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I cried... holy fuck.
I went from being the bullied kid in elementary school to the popular kid in high-school. I've seen it all. I've lost friends due to sticking up for those being picked on. Only because I know how it feels... (Moches ~ Great great find. Thank you)
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02-20-2013, 12:30 PM | #6 |
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Given the replies, I don't think I want to watch this video. All I'll say is that I've long been a victim and only got out as I rolled into university, and that bullying as a whole is one of those traits of the human race that I simply don't understand, and don't even want to understand. Anyone who is going through being bullied (regardless of its severity) has my support.
Unfortuntately it's more or less impossible to combat the issue.
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02-20-2013, 12:37 PM | #7 |
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For some reason I couldn't get emotional about this. I thought it was going to be a funny story and it kind of amused me at first and then it got boring with what I assume was supposed to be empathetic tragedy.
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02-20-2013, 12:42 PM | #8 |
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I was lucky to have been sent to a small private school by my parents. the worst cases of bullying I witnessed were akin to picking on a little brother or sister. physical altercations were essentially nonexistent.
in the (distant) future, I would like to teach at a high school. I hope that I could impart some wisdom on a group of kids and make them think twice about preying upon their peers. will watch the video and edit in my response when I get the chance. |
02-20-2013, 12:57 PM | #9 |
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I was never bullied in school, but I did fight a kid because I saw him bullying someone (I didn't know the kid getting bullied, either)
I guess I'm lucky for always being "popular", but I will never be a bystander. |
02-20-2013, 04:51 PM | #10 | |
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I thought this was very good, put together extremely well, and the speaker has chosen vivid imagery with his words. Excellent and motivating as well.
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Not like depression/bullying/judgement/etc is a new thing haha Respect the good intentions of the vid producer though
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02-20-2013, 05:47 PM | #12 |
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This was very moving... I remember in school I wasn't picked on directly, but kids were always whispering things about me being weird or too quiet, it got to the point where I hated going to class or made up some excuse to miss school all the time. When I did go however, I use to help out other kids that might have been picked on and tried to help make them feel better knowing what they were going through. They were all really nice too. Its a shame some people have to act so harsh, whether it be mental or physical abuse, in the end its all the same :/
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What this video briefly brought up was parental bullying as well. The "get over it" bullshit and abuse from parents makes the situation even worse.
I'm able to get along with others, but relating to this video's title: to this day, I have a deep anger towards my family that made me lie to myself and destroy my self esteem. And nobody in my family is going to apologize, and any "compliments" mean essentially nothing at this point considering the damage that's already been done.
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I will say this video was deep and I enjoyed watching through it. I don't wish to fully share my life story on here though but it wasn't easy going through school, I'll put it that way.
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I got my fair share of name-calling and whatever else from the kids I grew up with in my neighborhood because I was the little nerd who would rather read a book than go outside and play, but it never really ate me up in all honesty. I would always choose to talk to the adults in the neighborhood rather than the kids and a lot of the shit that was said to me/about me rolled off of me for the most part. I was a confident kid. As it turns out, I was the only one among all those kids I grew up with that even amounted to anything. They've all become losers. Got pregnant or had kids in their late teens, are drug users, work menial and unsatisfying jobs, never left home, etc. Usually the ones who do the bullying and seem like the big shots when we're growing up turn out to be the societal scum when they're older. I don't think it's a coincidence. |
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02-20-2013, 11:35 PM | #17 |
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I never got picked on because I was always the class clown/funny one. s:
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02-20-2013, 11:40 PM | #18 |
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Being bullied just made me feel even more strongly about myself and actually boost my self-esteem rather than the opposite. I'm older now and none of that childish stuff has happened in a long time, and I guess I've kinda forgotten all about it. There's just so much more in the world than being a victim and holding on to it... Instead, it's best to help others. We can't rewind, but we also can't just be mad our whole lives just because what happened was unfair. There just comes a time when you have to be like "Wow wtf this is stupid as hell but I really need to just concentrate on myself and focus on my future and making the best out of the cards I've been dealt" I mean, sure it's easier said than done, but a right mindset helps a lot in the path. I've noticed since I'm older that a lot of the bullying that goes on is really just out of jealousy, out of someone who isn't happy who wants to drag everyone else down with them. For you to become depressed yourself is only telling them that they've won. Don't be the loser, don't be the victim... Just keep on doing whatever the hell you want to do. I'd much rather respect the one person being themselves than the thousand people acting like they aren't human and have no personalities because they don't want to be vulnerable... But anyways, I'm sure I'm just rambling now. Hopefully someone out there got some hope out of this.
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02-21-2013, 11:38 AM | #19 |
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Very cool, Dorby. Your thoughts are highly relevant to the video and the topic.
That video was produced really well. It's not my favorite kind of anti-bullying message, though. The symptoms of bullying can be serious, and helping past victims cope would be helpful, for sure. However, I think we might be better served by trying to prevent bullying from the get-go. A lot of what the narrator mentions might be unrelatable to those who haven't had similar experiences. Kids who do the bullying need to be told explicitly and convincingly why making fun of "weird" behavior can permanently damage a victim's psyche. (Just my opinion, of course.) Anywho, props to all of you who suffered through this type of nonsense and were able to move on. I'd wager that all of you are stronger people than I. |
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