Need help...

TAKING_BACK_MONDAY · 03-31-2006, 01:21 PM

maybe i'm crazy, but shouldn't something like your parents getting divorced cause some emotional damage?Shouldn't having your father cheating on your mother with another woman ande getting her pregnant effect you?
Shouldn't having an alcholic dad since before i was born faze me in any way?
for some reason it hasn't yet, i mean all the years have taken their toll....
But i don't....i don't know.Maybe it's my way of dealing with things
blocking them out cmpletely, but it scares me to have all of this bottled up inside because i'm afraid that one day i'll just blow up and let it all out....and do something that i'll deeply regret.
Is it right to keep all of my emotion bottled inside?or should i tell someone?

esupin · 03-31-2006, 03:12 PM

You should definitely talk to a guidance counselor or something. Maybe a friend also, but I don't know your friends, so I don't know if they will care or not.

Edit- So, yeah. I just read your poems in Literature.

Definitely tell somebody. If there's one thing you can take from this, it's to not follow your dad's path. Don't do anything stupid.

Grandiagod · 03-31-2006, 03:23 PM

It obviously has affected you more than you think if your asking for help. Go to a counselor.

GuidoHunter · 03-31-2006, 03:39 PM

Well, those certainly aren't things that are easy to accept, but you have to.

You're afraid something will happen if you don't tell someone, so go get help. There are plenty of people to talk to and, since you're in a not-so-uncommon situation, get help from.

--Guido

http://andy.mikee385.com

TAKING_BACK_MONDAY · 03-31-2006, 05:26 PM

um,thanks you guys....but for now i think i'll stick to myself.
my writing helps me,some.But not not greatly.I'll get through for now.

**Squeek** · 03-31-2006, 05:31 PM

Also, you've made like a lot of threads for the same thing. Why not keep it all in one topic?

Also, when people are trying to help answer your question, don't blow off their suggestions (the CT thread). We're trying to help, so listen.

~Squeek

PS - Moved this into the CT discussion as that's where it belongs even though it's really CC-material.

esupin · 03-31-2006, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by TAKING_BACK_MONDAY

um,thanks you guys....but for now i think i'll stick to myself.
my writing helps me,some.But not not greatly.I'll get through for now.

You asked us if you should bottle this up, and we told you no. You should really listen. If you're going to stick to yourself, though, go online and find some info about what you should do to get out of a funk.

I don't want you saying you'll just "get through for now".

**Moogy** · 03-31-2006, 06:17 PM

TAKING_BACK_MONDAY · 03-31-2006, 06:48 PM

Sorry about that last post.I didn't write it.I wouldn't blow off some one else's opinion like that.My sister got on here and was looking at my stuff and i guess she thought that would be funny.Obviously,not.....

Prince_Myshkin · 03-31-2006, 06:57 PM

Yeah parents getting divorced does mess you up a little. It all depends on the situation afterward and how young you were when all this happened. Like me, I was seven and really didn't know what the hell was going, luckily iwas so damn spacy i got away without lasting effects, or so I thought. It turns out the effects I got were from the aftermath, having to live at two different houses with two different sets of rules really gets confusing. But, the longer it went on the better and more stable it got. So pretty much give it time and DON'T bottle up. Bottling up is the reason I wasn't able to keep myself in check. I would get pissed at anything intolerable. Hell, i didn't know, I thought I was fine. So either write about it in a journal or talk to a counseler.
That's the best thing to do.

Also, sometimes the effects go deeper than you can see at the moment. The older you ge, the more drastically they will affect you if you keep them inside.

Steel

mead1 · 04-2-2006, 07:49 PM

Life happens. Suck it up Nancy Boy.

Lightknight924 · 04-2-2006, 09:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TAKING_BACK_MONDAY

maybe i'm crazy, but shouldn't something like your parents getting divorced cause some emotional damage?Shouldn't having your father cheating on your mother with another woman ande getting her pregnant effect you?
Shouldn't having an alcholic dad since before i was born faze me in any way?
for some reason it hasn't yet, i mean all the years have taken their toll....
But i don't....i don't know.Maybe it's my way of dealing with things
blocking them out cmpletely, but it scares me to have all of this bottled up inside because i'm afraid that one day i'll just blow up and let it all out....and do something that i'll deeply regret.
Is it right to keep all of my emotion bottled inside?or should i tell someone?

You should definintly tell someone. Anyone you think cares about you. Don't keep your feelings bottled up inside. That will give you severe mental stress and cause an ulcer which is a nasty thing involving tons of pain. Ulcer's come from stress which will build up inside of you if you don't express yourself. Try writing a story of your life. That may help. It has helped me, though I have different passions than you so I don't know how well it will help you.
You probably don't want to get help because you don't want to think of yourself as someone who isn't sane or someone who isn't normal. Don't think that because your definintly not abnormal or insane. Your perfectly normal and your situation isn't uncommon. So there's probably a lot of people who can relate to you. The stress will get more dramatic as you get older. Trust me it does. You don't want that because the tiniest change can bring your whole world down and you could become mentally depressed. That's a dark path to take. So get help and find a light path that will make you rise up from what could become an emotional mess. Good luck!

-Lightknight

mattyohh · 04-3-2006, 12:51 AM

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Originally Posted by mead1

Life happens. Suck it up Nancy Boy.

I agree. i don't think i can actually take anything you say seriously after all those other stupid threads you posted. you proberly just went into another forum and plagerized some one elses problems. Also i dont really think this has much to do with Critical Thinking.

-Izzy- · 04-4-2006, 07:07 PM

Its the same thought ive been having. Like i havnt cried in who knows how long. Ive never really cared about things for along time. Cant be good for me.
Also like when your grandparents die, am i supose to cry? cause it really doesnt sadden me all to much. Im not sure if i would cry over one of my parents death. Although i think that might hit the right button to trigger that.

mattyohh · 04-5-2006, 01:42 AM

My grandma died not that long ago. i didn't really cry untill some one else did or i saw a picture of her. Im fine now though you move on after a while

SethSquall · 04-16-2006, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by mead1

Life happens. Suck it up Nancy Boy.

Legend. You. Legend

Harsh i'll say but narrow it down and thats the only thing you can do really.

Welcome to earth.

Skikamukazi · 04-20-2006, 01:26 AM

It's true, all you can do is cope.

Or do what I did and take up drugs and violence, which I don't recommend.

mattyohh · 04-20-2006, 06:55 AM

I recommend high dossages of Caffine. Oh, my sweet, sweet Caffine. How could i ever live without you.

03-31-2006, 01:21 PM	#1
TAKING_BACK_MONDAY FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 15	Need help maybe i'm crazy, but shouldn't something like your parents getting divorced cause some emotional damage?Shouldn't having your father cheating on your mother with another woman ande getting her pregnant effect you? Shouldn't having an alcholic dad since before i was born faze me in any way? for some reason it hasn't yet, i mean all the years have taken their toll.... But i don't....i don't know.Maybe it's my way of dealing with things blocking them out cmpletely, but it scares me to have all of this bottled up inside because i'm afraid that one day i'll just blow up and let it all out....and do something that i'll deeply regret. Is it right to keep all of my emotion bottled inside?or should i tell someone?

03-31-2006, 03:12 PM	#2
esupin FFR Player Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Alphabet City, Manhattan Age: 35 Posts: 1,756	Re: Need help... You should definitely talk to a guidance counselor or something. Maybe a friend also, but I don't know your friends, so I don't know if they will care or not. Edit- So, yeah. I just read your poems in Literature. Definitely tell somebody. If there's one thing you can take from this, it's to not follow your dad's path. Don't do anything stupid. __________________ http://www.youtube.com/esupin Last edited by esupin; 03-31-2006 at 03:18 PM..

03-31-2006, 03:23 PM	#3
Grandiagod FFR Player Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Feaefaw Age: 35 Posts: 6,122	Re: Need help... It obviously has affected you more than you think if your asking for help. Go to a counselor. __________________ He who angers you conquers you. ~Elizabeth Kenny

03-31-2006, 05:26 PM	#5
TAKING_BACK_MONDAY FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 15	Re: Need help... um,thanks you guys....but for now i think i'll stick to myself. my writing helps me,some.But not not greatly.I'll get through for now.

03-31-2006, 05:31 PM	#6
Squeek let it snow~ Join Date: Jan 2004 Age: 37 Posts: 14,444	Re: Need help Also, you've made like a lot of threads for the same thing. Why not keep it all in one topic? Also, when people are trying to help answer your question, don't blow off their suggestions (the CT thread). We're trying to help, so listen. ~Squeek PS - Moved this into the CT discussion as that's where it belongs even though it's really CC-material. Last edited by Squeek; 03-31-2006 at 05:38 PM..

03-31-2006, 06:17 PM	#8
Moogy 嗚呼 Join Date: Aug 2003 Age: 34 Posts: 10,303	Re: Need help... lol __________________ Plz visit my blog ^^^ vintage signature from like 2006 preserved

03-31-2006, 06:48 PM	#9
TAKING_BACK_MONDAY FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 15	Re: Need help... Sorry about that last post.I didn't write it.I wouldn't blow off some one else's opinion like that.My sister got on here and was looking at my stuff and i guess she thought that would be funny.Obviously,not.....

03-31-2006, 06:57 PM	#10
Prince_Myshkin FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 5	Re: Need help... Yeah parents getting divorced does mess you up a little. It all depends on the situation afterward and how young you were when all this happened. Like me, I was seven and really didn't know what the hell was going, luckily iwas so damn spacy i got away without lasting effects, or so I thought. It turns out the effects I got were from the aftermath, having to live at two different houses with two different sets of rules really gets confusing. But, the longer it went on the better and more stable it got. So pretty much give it time and DON'T bottle up. Bottling up is the reason I wasn't able to keep myself in check. I would get pissed at anything intolerable. Hell, i didn't know, I thought I was fine. So either write about it in a journal or talk to a counseler. That's the best thing to do. Also, sometimes the effects go deeper than you can see at the moment. The older you ge, the more drastically they will affect you if you keep them inside. Steel

04-2-2006, 07:49 PM	#11
mead1 Cerebellumberjack Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: On a boat Age: 33 Posts: 3,960	Re: Need help... Life happens. Suck it up Nancy Boy.

04-4-2006, 07:07 PM	#14
-Izzy- Banned Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 1,629	Re: Need help... Its the same thought ive been having. Like i havnt cried in who knows how long. Ive never really cared about things for along time. Cant be good for me. Also like when your grandparents die, am i supose to cry? cause it really doesnt sadden me all to much. Im not sure if i would cry over one of my parents death. Although i think that might hit the right button to trigger that.

04-20-2006, 01:26 AM	#17
Skikamukazi FFR Player Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Fairfax, VA Age: 34 Posts: 1,394	Re: Need help... It's true, all you can do is cope. Or do what I did and take up drugs and violence, which I don't recommend. __________________

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