07-6-2009, 01:50 PM | #1 |
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Why is it that if you have a good self-esteem, you are considered arrogant, but if you have low self-esteem, you are insecure. Shouldn't there be a middle ground? What is it about someone with high self-esteem that makes us so insecure? Could it be that people who are arrogant actually have low self-esteem.
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07-6-2009, 02:04 PM | #2 |
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Generalizations between self esteem and arrogance probably won't get you anywhere fast logically.
Could you please simply restate your question or argument if you want this thread to be taken seriously.
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07-13-2009, 02:51 PM | #3 |
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I agree with windsurfer.
although, In my mind i have a clear idea in the difference between Good Self Esteem, Arrogance, Cocky, Low Self Esteem, depression. etc. When you meet more people I think you will get a better definition for yourself of what these individual things are. |
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08-9-2009, 10:15 AM | #5 | |
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Another thing, there are only 2 self-esteems there is no third because we either have a low self-esteem or we have a high self-esteem. Like right now I feel like I have a high self-esteem it just depends on how people act..... People.... Although that is merely my thoughts of this matter. -Lord Tyriel-
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08-9-2009, 10:23 AM | #6 |
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I disagree completely. There is absolutely a middle-ground between a 'high' sense of self-esteem (IE. You esteem yourself very highly) and a 'low' sense of self-esteem (IE. You esteem yourself very lowly) All kinds of people, I would go so far as to say the majority of people, have a perfectly reasonable and realistic opinion of themselves. They know they have some fine qualities, they know they have some poor qualities, and understand the problems inherant in trying to compare one's "quality" to someone else's.
Those people have, as opposed to high or low, GOOD self-esteem. |
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08-9-2009, 09:51 PM | #8 |
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So what you're saying is that because you personally don't believe there's such a thing, it simply doesn't exist?
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08-9-2009, 10:02 PM | #9 |
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Guys, I don't believe in gravity.
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08-10-2009, 08:11 AM | #10 |
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Indeed, the same with believing if a religion is real or if the world is round they all have reasons as to WHY and HOW. Someone can't tell me "Oh theirs something over there that's super cool!" and then its some sort of person doing a jig, people have there ideals although on this one I believe its the matter of the mind and what the person believes. Since its self-esteem its not someone else's thoughts that matter only that persons, in saying that I mean that this answer for this thread is a 2-way answer. Interesting...
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08-11-2009, 06:56 PM | #11 |
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Arrogance and insecurity are just words used to express a public judgment upon someone else, usually in a negative manner...
...the "happy in between" is ignoring the judgments of others and being happy with who you are. |
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08-31-2009, 08:11 AM | #13 |
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You could call people using quantum mechanics in things like computing applications of schrodinger's cat.
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08-31-2009, 10:22 AM | #15 |
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As an aside, I counted a full baker's dozen grammatical or spelling errors in your reponse. Going forward can we all try to make an effort to obey the rules of the forum and maintain a reasonable standard of english use?
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08-31-2009, 10:56 AM | #16 |
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i think youre just insecure.
seriously though, there is a middle ground. not everyone with "high" self-esteem is deemed arrogant by their peers. i feel pretty comfortable with myself and yet i dont go around tooting my horn about how amazing a guy i am, looking down on others who are less fortunate than i (aka everyone), or doing anything that would lead others to find me arrogant. ps what devonin said
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09-1-2009, 02:37 PM | #17 |
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Firstly, I'm annoyed at the people who say that people with depression have low self-esteem. Having been a teenager at a junior high, I certainly understand how having low self-esteem makes you unhappy. But as being someone who experiences depression which is totally different from whatever unhappiness I had in grade 8, my self-esteem is really not a factor. It can be high or it can be low, but either way, it has little bearing over whether I'm happy and motivated or not.
Secondly, to the person who said that happiness is being happy with who you are and not caring about what others think, that's a very juvenile mindset. If you didn't care what anyone thought of you, you'd have no friends because you'd be the biggest dick ever, and having no friends usually makes people unhappy. Even someone who's power hungry and who would do anything to get what they want, they want power over something or someone, and that relates to how other people think of you and how they treat you. You probably care what you parents think of you, what your friends think of you, and probably especially what your love interest thinks of you. And that's a good thing. |
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09-1-2009, 03:47 PM | #19 |
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Your post said less of use than his did. Pot meet kettle. How about you just review the rules for this forum instead of trying to moderate it for me.
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09-28-2009, 02:43 PM | #20 |
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Someone who has low self esteem generally thinks less of themselves, dosen't believe people when they complement their traits, and is somewhat anti-social because they believe their opinion does not matter.
You can basically flip everything around to describe a person with high self esteem ; thinks highly of themselves, over boasts about when complemented, and believes they are always right. So in order for a middle ground to be achieved, I believe one has to experience both faults (I call them faults because you shouldn't live one way or the other, you should have a balanced perspective) in order to understand what is wrong with the way they perceive things. Some people will learn early in life, others will always be the same. I personally think having a low self esteem is worse, rather than a high one, because you are basically putting yourself and your life on hold simply based on your insecurities. So for anyone out there holding back, just let go. Be yourself and not everyone is going to like that. You will find people though, trust me.
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