So I finally came clean to my parents.

[All_That_Chaz]

While it might feel good to tell family members to get some measure of vengeance on your parents for being incredible bigots, if they're anything like your parents you aren't going to get the response you want. I also think you're bigger than that. I can't imagine what it's like cutting ties with your parents, much less having them doing the cutting. I'm sorry it turned out like this, but it sounds like you prepared yourself for this response. It's good that you gauged how bad it could be before you told them, because this is ridiculous. Oh well. You're your own man now. You can and do take care of yourself. We're here if you need help.

[Emo_Saur_]

Things have taken a pretty bad turn, I hope all goes well. Just remember this though, flipsta is an independent homosexual, and doesn't afraid of anything.

[flipsta_lombax]

Originally Posted by All_That_Chaz

While it might feel good to tell family members to get some measure of vengeance on your parents for being incredible bigots, if they're anything like your parents you aren't going to get the response you want. I also think you're bigger than that. I can't imagine what it's like cutting ties with your parents, much less having them doing the cutting. I'm sorry it turned out like this, but it sounds like you prepared yourself for this response. It's good that you gauged how bad it could be before you told them, because this is ridiculous. Oh well. You're your own man now. You can and do take care of yourself. We're here if you need help.

I never expected to be the one whose parents can't accept their own blood for what he is. Though telling family members may seem like a vengeful act, my reason for telling them would be the same when I told my parents: just to exploit the truth.

Whatever happens from there is their own discretion. If the whole family disowns me, they can go ahead, idgaf. I can start my own family in a non-conception kind of way, really.

[Cavernio]

Glad to hear you can make it without them at least. You haven't done anything wrong, and you shouldn't have to explain yourself to them. You did your best. Don't feel like you should live a fake life because of them. Anyone who says they're christian but will treat you like that is being hypocritical, (even if believing homosexuality's a sin its still not christian). It's not your problem if other family members view them as failures, they've chosen to not take your help and support. There's only so much you can do. Maybe in time things will change for them.
I often think I'd be a much happier person without my parents in my life...it's much easier to not feel like you've done something wrong if you constantly aren't reminded by it. Let me know if you ever figure out how to stop giving a shit about what your parents think of you.

[Xx{Midnight}xX]

It's people like them, that make Christians look so horribly bad.

A shame it took a turn that way.

[reptile3141]

Holy sh*t, that's disgusting. :'( Best of luck to you, dude. <333

[All_That_Chaz]

What do you mean by, "just to exploit the truth?" Did you mean "expose?"

And it's easy to say that you don't care what they do. If that's true, then you're thicker-skinned than I am. Just be sure you reach out to those who care about you if you need help. Having your family fall apart isn't fun.

[flipsta_lombax]

Originally Posted by All_That_Chaz

What do you mean by, "just to exploit the truth?" Did you mean "expose?"

And it's easy to say that you don't care what they do. If that's true, then you're thicker-skinned than I am. Just be sure you reach out to those who care about you if you need help. Having your family fall apart isn't fun.

Yes, I got fancy with words there. But as long it does not harm me in any way and keep me from living my life, I really don't care. I'll be moving in with a roommate, and have friends to reach out to. I don't think me out of the family is a problem here, I'm not too close with most of them anyways.

[DustyFart]

Wow I'm sorry to hear all this.

[All_That_Chaz]

Ken I've known you for 5 years (wow I have totally known you for 5 years - I was just a little 22 year old Chaz finishing college back then :3). You've basically been away from your blood family the whole time I've known you. I don't doubt that you're capable of finding your way on your own. It's just the psychological stress of knowing that they aren't there anymore that has changed. I know you've felt on your own for a long time, but this is a significant change and I just want to make sure that you don't get too lonely.

Cuz my milkshake brings them all to the yard. And you're welcome to my yard.

[hi19hi19]

Originally Posted by flipsta_lombax

To add to their insecurity, they said if any other family member finds out, they claim they're going to be looked at as failures.

I'm letting family members know very soon.

This is either going to feel like sweet, sweet revenge, or ruin your relationship with your family even farther.
Even if there is not much of a visible, tangible relationship there to ruin, you can still hurt yourself and others in more subtle psychological ways.
Tread carefully, and best of luck.

[MaxGhost]

This thread went from being so happy to so sad

I've literally just been sitting here for an hour just thinking because of this thread. I really hope things turn out well and that you can move on.

[flipsta_lombax]

Originally Posted by All_That_Chaz

Ken I've known you for 5 years (wow I have totally known you for 5 years - I was just a little 22 year old Chaz finishing college back then :3). You've basically been away from your blood family the whole time I've known you. I don't doubt that you're capable of finding your way on your own. It's just the psychological stress of knowing that they aren't there anymore that has changed. I know you've felt on your own for a long time, but this is a significant change and I just want to make sure that you don't get too lonely.

Cuz my milkshake brings them all to the yard. And you're welcome to my yard.

Chazzykins. Man, it has been that long has it now? And look at that, I'm now turning 23 soon. Over the years I've learned so much from people that cared for me, especially those who only can put a word of thought. Anything that people did for me I greatly appreciate. My life from here on out is changing for the better.

I've learned not to put so much weight on my shoulders, that I can't please everyone and that people are out there who are willing to help, get it when you can. No one else isn't going to change me but me; I've learned to manage stress on my own because friends. And in turn, I'm going to care about you. But don't expect me to care too much anymore.

The only thing I really wanted was closure with my parents. And now that I know for a fact, I'm ready to go out in the world and live my life the way I intended.

I love your yard, even though I've yet to see it. And I love you all. Thanks.

[Sky Kitten]

Sorry it had to turn out that way, man. :/ If none of your family members accepted you in the real world, the FFR family sure has.

It may be hard at first to go out without parental support, but we know you're strong enough to. Now go out there and make us proud.

[awein999]

Nice job handling the situation as well as you can Ken. I'm proud of you and you should be proud of yourself.

[Reincarnate]

Sucks that your parents had to react that way, flipsta.

I've been living on my own for a long, long, long time now, as a result of family circumstances (albeit different ones)... so hopefully I can offer some words of solace from my own experience: It gets better. A lot better.

It's hard to be disconnected from your family (both emotionally and financially), but sometimes it's the only viable solution. You now have the opportunity to make more friends and craft your own family and thus your own home -- surrounded by people who care for and accept you without petty bigotry and irrational judgment.

Like Chaz said, though, we're all here if you need help -- I'm sorry things turned out this way but I just want you to know that you definitely did the right thing and chose an ideal time.

[Netjet!]

Damn, flipsta. So sorry to hear how they reacted. You're a great person and I know you will do so much better on your own. I'm extremely disappointed that your parents would do such a thing to you - they should really be ashamed, because after all it's YOUR life.

[flipsta_lombax]

I really appreciate the support and comments from everyone here, one of the many reasons I can't leave this community: you all are like family to me, over the Internet. It doesn't seem like anyone disagrees with my position so I'll just let fate take its course. My parents are still my parents and in the end, I will be there if they need me. We won't be as close as a family anymore though... I'm over that for sure.

But I refuse for my life to go downhill for petty and closed-minded words. Life moves on.

[dragonmegaXX]

Should have let her find your computer full of gayness like my mom did on mine.

More fun reactions that way. ^_^

[UserNameGoesHere]

Originally Posted by dragonmegaXX

Should have let her find your computer full of gayness like my mom did on mine.

More fun reactions that way. ^_^

Do tell. We need the full story.