08-20-2007, 09:42 AM | #201 |
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Chardish: In response to evolutionary aspects of orgasm, you say it makes sense for a woman to be able to climax during intercourse. However, not climaxing during intercourse could also be evolutionarily adaptive. 1 stint of intercourse doesn't always result in pregnancy, and so it would be adaptive for a woman to remain aroused so she'll have more intercourse, with either the same partner or another one.
Of course, all this could simply be a by-product of the placement of the primary pleasure point on women being outside the body, where it is NOT stimulated much during intercourse, or it could be the other way 'round. Evolutionarily speaking, you can hypothesize things like saying genocide is evolutionarily adaptive. I think we've found that that depends on the person. Last edited by Cavernio; 08-20-2007 at 09:45 AM.. |
08-20-2007, 09:47 AM | #202 |
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You can tell the truth 100% of the time and still not have perfect communication if you're saying what you mean but saying it in a way that the other person can't understand, or you're (unintentionally) not saying all of what you mean, etc. You don't even have great communication if you feel like there's things you can't talk about. But I don't think that's really what's being debated here - or really what should be debated in here.
It is absurd and indefensible to say "Oh, we have great communication, we just routinely deceive one another in our most intimate moments." It's silly that you (and others) are obsessing over this point instead of actually dealing with the ramifications of what people like myself and Guido have said in earlier points. |
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08-20-2007, 01:32 PM | #204 |
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Waiting to have sex until you're married, although incredibly and undeniably romantic and utopian, seems silly because love, marriage, and sexual desire don't necessarily co-exist, despite the best of efforts sometimes. It seems like you're waiting for perfection, yet perfection, when you wait and expect it in such a precise way, never exists.
As an aside, Chrissi, I think you and I are very similar in that it's incredibly hard for someone else to get me to orgasm. I can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation, however, I've had what I could call largely vaginal orgasms, but they're just not the same purely clitoral ones. There's release, but they're not as good, not as over-the-top pleasurable, and, I'm easily turned-on again with immediate vaginal stimulation. It's good because if I masturbate while having sex, and miraculously orgasm before my partner does, I still want to continue intercourse. Last edited by Cavernio; 08-20-2007 at 01:43 PM.. |
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08-20-2007, 02:09 PM | #206 | |
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i found this interesting artical on wikipedia but i've heard things like it before that support my arguement of people cheating because they are bored sexually of each other:
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08-20-2007, 02:15 PM | #207 |
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As an additional aside, Chardish and Guido... Is your particular brand of abstinance simply that you will retain your virginity until you are married, or do you subscribe to the more orthodox and formal belief that in addition to waiting until marriage to start having sex, you will only engage in intercourse when you have the explicit plan and desire to concieve?
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If you mean, "only when you have the explicit plan and desire to conceive" like my great grandmother, who "had sex four times and had four kids", then no. I plan on having a whole lot more sex than that. If I do not want to conceive immediately, I'll be taking steps toward avoiding it (natural family planning), but refuse to engage in contraception. So, to answer the literal question, no. To answer what I think you were trying to ask, yes. The act of intercourse is a reproductive one, and the chance of conception should always be recognized, but that's getting more into religious beliefs... --Guido http://andy.mikee385.com |
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08-20-2007, 08:38 PM | #209 | |
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2. It doesn't matter if you buy the idea or not - most women are unable to achieve orgasm through intercourse. It's a simple matter of physiology. The clitoris is not directly stimulated through intercourse. The clitoris is the major factor in orgasm; after all, it is analogous to the penis in terms of pleasure centres. Imagine having an orgasm without having your penis touched. Well, maybe I'm asking the wrong guy... 3. Biological sense or not, it still doesn't happen to most women. They need other stimulation to achieve orgasm. It doesn't mean that they don't enjoy sex. Speaking personally, I greatly enjoy sex but find it impossible to orgasm through intercourse alone. I require extra stimulation, usually administered by myself. Lots of women are like this.
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Ok, I just found these points raised by Chardish earlier, and I'd like to address each of them.
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Another point though, is that you could easily replace sex with virtually anything else symbolic to you, and let that person know what that means. That could be marriage, that could be the words "I love you", or anything else you choose to do only with or for that special person. Why do you feel the need to stop yourself from experiencing sexual pleasure? Quote:
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About knowing couples who weren't upset they waited...You're only asking couples. What about those people who aren't married yet? There's no guarantee you'll find the right person. Also, you're neglecting abstaining couples who have broken up since either. Obviously, if you ask happily married couples about regret, they're likely to not have many because they're happily married! Last edited by Cavernio; 08-21-2007 at 10:17 AM.. |
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08-27-2007, 04:38 AM | #212 |
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I don't think waiting until you're married necessarily means a whole lot (though I think it's good for practicing self dicipline and control), but if people do consider such a personal and risky act, they should do it on their own terms (I mean, not feel pressured by the other person) and be fully aware of the consiquences, and they should know the person that they plan on doing it with well and trust them.
That's why I would never even consider it... I have no desire, the cons out weigh the pros, and I don't trust anyone. :B Last edited by GuidoHunter; 08-27-2007 at 12:20 PM.. |
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