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It sucks that East is now aware of the situation and therefore has to handle the guilt of knowing, but at least he can talk to Suzie and try to persuade her to make her own decisions from a less selfish perspective. That's the best he can do, and it's what a good friend should do, in my opinion.
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All things that I've considered and that have gone through my mind about this situation. I have considered sending an anonymous message as well, but in the group of girls that knew the secret, it would be obvious who managed to divulge the information. Quote:
The thing is, they were discussing her pregnancy after a wedding we were all a part of, and I knew she was pregnant and everything, they just brought up the other two guys she was with and started discussing the time frame. I was kinda just sitting there like wHaAaAaT o_o, they were talking about it almost as if they forgot I was sitting with them and didn't know, after which they told me not to say anything, ESPECIALLY not to Suzie. SO, talking to Suzie, while it may be one of the better decisions, would get the rest of the girls pissed off at me, as I'm technically not supposed to know anything about it at all. Although, Quote:
Consequences lie everywhere except in not saying anything, in which case, morality and guilt will then plague me. Welcome to life! haha
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![]() Tell her she needs to let him know or you will. He might love the kid even if it isn't his, but he deserves the chance to make that choice. If she traps him in a relationship because of a pregnancy he didn't cause, it will not end well for her.
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![]() I don't get it. She deserves to be on Springer because she had sex with two different guys while she was single but he's the one that is being portrayed as a victim even though he has cheated on her numerous times? I mean, both of them seem like pretty amoral individuals so let's not keep pushing that double standard.
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![]() Again, good reason to not get involved. When it comes to the problems of people that make those kind of decisions, you want to steer clear.
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It absolutely is.
The reasoning being that if the child is NOT his he's still on the hook for paying for that kid, even should he leave and the wrong man is out of money because this girl is to bloody ignorantly stupid to take a blood test. Tell her to tell him or you will. It's not correct morally, but honestly this could wreck or make his life based off if the kid is his. Just you BEST be sure you over heard ALL of it properly. Edit: Also she cheated on him. Idiot. She asked for this to happen. Last edited by Xx{Midnight}xX; 11-14-2010 at 10:45 PM.. |
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A lot of women seriously milk the hormones thing. I'm 25 weeks pregnant and while yes I'll get emotional from time to time it's not nearly what people make it out to be. I think it's just a bs excuse people use but anyways. This is a really tough spot you're in because you heard a secret that you weren't supposed to hear and now it will be on your mind if you do nothing about it. Technically you didn't hear from Suzi herself with her telling you not to say anything. Really her friends were the irresponsible ones for letting it out around other people, plus god only knows how many people they've told. Personally I don't think I'd be able to sit back and just let her act like there's no possibility of it not being his. It's ****ed up that she's even being that way. I mean have you ever seen some of the maury episodes where guys that actually want to be the father or have been acting as a father to a child for a long time find out that the kid isn't theirs? It kills them and it's just not fair because some chick decided to whore it up. I mean 3 guys total in the time of possible conception and all without condom? Because if there's two others that it could be then she must not be using protection which can also bring a possibility of STD's she could pass on to him or her baby. Really you need to do what you feel is right. You can ask for the advice here but you're going to hear all different things from different people and really what it comes down to is you. Will you be able to live with yourself if you don't say anything? Will you be able to live with the consequences if you do say something? She may very well hate you for it but at the same time you'd kinda be doing the right thing in a sense since she doesn't want to take responsibility. But hey maybe it is his kid and everything will work out okay. Who knows. Edit: I was thinking about this a little more outside for a few and honestly I'm the type of person that if someone tells me something and they don't want me to say anything I wont. But the problem is the situation, in a situation like this I don't know if I would be able to because this is affecting other peoples lives. This is going to affect his and the baby's because what if he notices the kid looks nothing like him years down the road and demands a test finally to find out it's not his. Not only is it going to hurt him it's going to mess the kid up too.
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![]() IMHO I would think that telling John would be the best option to go with. The consequences behind not telling him are far greater. Imagine yourself in those shoes... Possibly finding out when your son is in high school that he isn't your kid. How would that make you feel? The woman will get over it in time and move on, there are plenty of single mothers out there.
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And honestly two guys in two weeks? Why is that such a bad thing? The Jersey Shore guys have a different girl in their beds every single night and they are making millions of dollars for being "awesome". Say the girl went out every weekend she was single and met a guy each time. What the hell is so slutty about that? Honestly. Has anyone heard of rebound sex? You hear your significant other has been banging a lot of chicks and then climbing into bed with you. I think I would be pretty pissed and I would probably have some revenge sex, too. Edit: Just to expand on how pissed off this post is making me. Pregnancies happen. To women. Not men. And they are freaking scary especially when you don't have someone to help you. This girl is probably scared ****less. She made a mistake after she found out her boyfriend is the biggest douche on the planet. Now she is possibly pregnant with this douche bags baby or the other two Joe Schmo's she had sex with to get back at him. She might be scared out of her mind. She A: stays with douche bag who might actually be a decent father even if he continues to cheat on her, or B: is a single mother with no money, no job, and no experience being a mother. Obviously, not getting a blood test is a selfish move, but you really need to consider the fact that the girl is scared before you judge her. Before you start ruining people's lives because you are too busy worrying about everyone else's feelings, why don't you consider the baby here. Even if the kid ends up being his, once he finds out his girlfriend is a "slut" he might kick her out anyway. Just having people mentioning that your girlfriend is a slut is enough to make most guys fly the coop.
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I don't even have to meddle and lives are potentially being "ruined". EDIT: I don't know how I missed this.... Quote:
All that is assuming that the child is not John's, of course. I'm not defending cheating in any relationship, but what she's doing is a lot worse than that. ------ I talked to one of Suzie's friends about it, one who was there when I originally found out. It seems the consensus between the friends is to kind of turn the other cheek about the potential of the child not being Johns. As it stands now, John and Suzie are happy, John wants to take care of the child, and the kid will grow up with loving parents. I won't say they all think there's "nothing" wrong with that, but to them, it really doesn't seem to be a bad situation for the child, and I can agree with that for the most part. "Ignorance is bliss, isn't it?" was my response though. Maybe it is.
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Oh btw there's tons of assistance programs for pregnant women/ women with children. You can get free insurance which pays for EVERYTHING for the pregnancy and delivery. People give away free baby stuff everywhere. There's wic for food and stuff you need and there's housing assistance. There's no excuse and the guy has the right to know if the kid isn't his. Quote:
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But I mean, does he really need to? If he did a little back tracking with how long she's been pregnant, he might notice a question mark in the time frame. The notion that that may not have even crossed his mind further led me to believe that he's a dip****, although he is determined to raise the child as of right now. |
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![]() I'm trying to figure out how everyone knows 100% sure that she had uprotected sex with these two random guys. A lot of this seems like rumor/gossip.
And psychoangel, while I agree with you that it is not a terminal illness and there ARE options, those options run out eventually. It is very difficult for a single mother to continue an education and to rise past the poverty line unless she comes from an already wealthy family that is willing to help her. While I have never been pregnant myself I have grown up with a single mother who struggled her entire life to give me a decent one. And plenty of people have gossiped about her since I can remember that was based on little to no fact. There is a lot of stigma against single women with children, especially when they don't have the resources to raise them on their own. This girl seems very young, very naive, and very selfish. She isn't considering the options there are out there and she probably does not even know about them. I am not condoning what she is doing, but it's easy to see why she wouldn't want to do this by herself.
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It's sick how many Males are unknowingly(sp?) bringing up a child that isn't theres. And it could end up being a **** situation for the child in years to come if "John" ends up not being it's Dad and just walks away etc. She got herself into this mess. |
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John's convinced now but wait till that baby actually comes out. He probably doesn't question it because they were only on a 2 week break and with pregnancy you can't really determine the exact conception date. What they do is go by the 1st day of your last period and go 40 weeks for a due date. It's a tough situation it really is if there were no child involved I'd say no he doesn't need to know that she slept around but the fact is there is a child involved and that child's life can be affected terribly by this. Quote:
It's not even about "options" such as abortion because frankly I'm against it. There is always adoption though that doesn't disappear but still that's beside the point. It WAS difficult being a single mother in the past yes, but now there's so much help out there it's insane. The excuse of not being able to finish school is bull****. If she's still in high school there's online high schools now. If she's going to go to college you can do that online too. I'm going to school online and I can do it any time of day I want. My stepmother's daughter has 5 kids she was 16 when she had her 1st. She finished school online and is a college professor now. The assistance programs out there for pregnant women is insane. You can even get a free nurse that comes to your home and helps you with the baby for the first few months and no I'm not kidding I have paperwork here. Point being there's no excuses anymore the resources are there, she just needs to look. But it seems to me like she just wants to trap this guy because he has a steady income and she doesn't want to take on the responsibility. Being a mother does take a lot and it takes a lot on your own but it's more than doable and there's no excuse. Sorry but yes I am a bit bitter when it comes to people that get themselves into situations like these then can't even do what's right. You know what if you can't handle the possible consequences don't have sex at all. Or at least don't be retarded and get on birth control (which you can get free) and use a friggin condom. |
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![]() Abort suzie's child with an ancient chinese herbal concoction.
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![]() Urh brings up a good point. The real moral dilemma here's not in the reciprocated scumbaggery between Suzie and John; it's that a person will be generated due to related events and be raised in an inhospitable environment. Having gained this knowledge, eastsideman, will you take it upon yourself to forcefully abort the infant?
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