Friendship

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Let me ask you guys what you do in these situations...

A friend needs help. They are in love, but can't be with this person because of things they can't control like distance and the other person liking someone they can see everyday. No matter what, if they keep sticking through this, the path and result will not be pretty.

The path will continue to be hell. Constant ups and downs. When they are together and/or talking, everything is perfect. When they aren't, your friend is in constant pain: crying, imagining, wondering, missing. This causes everyone that cares about this person to suffer, knowing they need to get out of this situation, knowing the end result, and knowing that their friendship with them is suffering.

The end result comes abrupty to your friend. The other person has finally ended it, hopefully it's for good this time, and not like the many other times before in which they continued to still give your friend even the tiniest bit of hope, to which they hung on to so desperately. Now, you have a broken friend that learned their lesson the hard way. Not only did your friend suffer, but they most likely lost the person they were in love with for good; not even a friendship remaining.

What do you do before this happens? Do you tell them the cold, hard truth and stick by what you say? Do you give them their demands of a friend to stick by and be there for them? Do you let them go freely to find out the hard way by themselves?

-The first risks your friendship. You could easily lose your friend in this situation.

-The second keeps your friend, but you're really not a friend for accepting something like this.

-The third gives up your friendship that you had until it ends. You generally talk here and there, but nothing really personal. Your friendship may not be the same.


What do you do?

The third is something a friend did with me. The first is something I just did for a friend now...