Transgender AMA

[Moria]

Originally Posted by drizzleRomanceGirl

i don't think it's a good idea to ask someone because a lot of people who are transgender haven't told anyone yet and it might hurt to have to tell someone you're not the gender you are inside; also even in a transgender setting, if you ask someone that might imply you're not sure which gender they look like which also might hurt, and when someone is transitioning it probably won't be helpful for people to ask them which pronoun to use because they're trying to pass as the sex they are inside, and having to be asked which pronoun to use isn't satisfying and doesn't help them know whether they pass or not

huh, thats a nice way to look at it.

[probably dont waste your time reading this, thank] i feel like if someones in the process of transitioning they're kinda in a grey area until they find themselves satisfactory. reshaping isnt yet complete. would be rude to address the idea unless they address it first; asking someone or anyone who wasnt happy enough with their given sex that they were determined enough to seek change what they would prefer to identify as while they've still yet to achieve that preference is just kinda stupid really. given some self-consciousness and a little introspection on transitioning parties behalf and that question of their present being could easily seed anxious conflicts on who and what they are, are not, were, will become, feel they truly are, know they observably are and everything inbetween. asking for a perspective on the destination from someone whose still undertaking the journey. potentials for discomfort are too damn high. actually same.. too damn high.. then again i don't think.. and in that scenario: people probably wouldn't have the time to think much either. more likely reflexively respond with their ideal without much self-awareness. so you've just wasted time reading another one of my homemade tangential hypothetical reflections. blindly brought to you by someone who doesn't have any experience on the subject and just wanted to take a moment to leisurely shitpost. :^)
sorry for spamming your ama driz; my bad~

also extra sorry if i managed to fuck with anyones head there. the intention wasn't to harm, don't worry a little existentialism is good for you