Love and frienship: the fine line

[ayanepuck]

How does one tell the difference between a strong friendship and loving feelings?

I am a woman of many male friends, and they are all close to me in a way. I made the mistake of dating one of them, but that seemed to work out okay....the feelings between us are gone, but truthfully, he and I are actually closer friends now than we were before; it is great.

As previously mentioned, I have many male friends....and I am seen as the "good friend" the "close friend" the "best friend" and (a lot more now than ever before) that person you can talk to about "anything." Which is true, I pride myself on being a close friend and being there for my friends when they need me...not because I am necessarily a nice person, (I would like to think so, however...) but because I would want someone to be there for me through times that suck. The drawback of having male friends, though....and doing male things (i.e. video games, wrestlling...the occasional porn flick...) makes the dating thing a lot harder than if you are a giggling sorority chick. (nothing against sororities..but I am from Waco...and Baylor sorority chicks slay me.)

I cannot help but think about where the line is crossed between a close friendship and a loving relationship. On most wedding invitations I have seen, there is a quote that starts "Today I will marry my best friend..." (My sister had it EVERYWHERE...oh man, did THAT get annoying.) And I cannot help but wonder if that is what we are supposed to do, get together with a good friend. I disagree to an extent, because the last time that happened, it ended rather.....oddly. Not bad, just odd. Even uncomforable at times.

Anyway, I am done....lemme know what y'all think.