Wheres the line, promiscuity.

[speeddemon]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

Op: Should you really care? I mean seriously wouldn't it be better to be getting some rather than none at all? Honestly I'm still a virgin and i ****ing hate it. Be glad you have release with something more than your hand.

Other than that, I'm gonna have to agree with Tokzic, but maybe raise the bar a little higher than once a month.

[Necros140606]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

I would form a rebuttal to this, but 'prude' isn't a verb.

Now, you're relating sex to... playing a board game, eating candy, and getting a haircut? So you're a whore *and* boring in bed. No wonder you don't think anything of doing it.

On the contrary. The people who find sex a big deal are those who realize that sex is generally best when meaningful, and when you can truly relate to the person. Besides, when it's with someone you trust and know extremely well, you can even open up to them about all the strange fetishes you have (**** the Internet) for maximum goodness.

let me open a little pharentesis. we make a huge deal of sexuality because it's something that is firestamped in bold letters in our mind since we are children, labeled directly or indirectly as "immoral" or "dirty", "something you don't want others to know/see", "private" etcetera. i'm not saying you're wrong, nay, everything you say is actually right... with this mind setting we receive from our environment.

now, the question isn't whether your beliefs are right or not, but, if after your self-analisys, if you find those beliefs to be correct, logic and meaningful or the product of some mind distortion inherited from hundred years ago. you do your daily self-analisys, right?

the first time is meaningful as long as you make a whole culture about it, having doubts and extremely high expectations, but what should matter it's not how the FirSt TimE goes, but the moment itself of the union of the bodies and minds. being it your first, fifth or thirteenth time doesn't make any difference. the whole story about first time sex just doesn't make sense to me, as chances are high it won't be great, and waiting for years just makes you lose precious time and experience. it's not like you are more "ready" if you're 18 and stil virgin rather than 14.

Being a slut or not, having an active sexual life doesn't hurt anyone. The opposite, since you're following your body instincts, it makes you and the partner feel good (did you know that going against your istincts isn't healty?). The only way it could be defined negative is if you're careless about contraceptives and protection from sexual transmitted diseases. Trying to define boundaries in human behaviour only results in personal interpretations, which are ultimately meaningless.

[Emo_Saur_]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

Well, have sex to have sex and have sex while being commited are two totally different things. Commited, say being 1 months. Sex for sex, lust, say eh 1 day to 2 1/2 weeks.

Being promiscious is doing and flaunting basically.

[korny]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

I have sex at least once a week, I refuse to ever wear a condom (I pull out if I even finish), the girl I **** has a boyfriend and another girl i sometimes hook up with has slept and/or continues to sleep with other guys on a weekly basis as well. and if I meet a girl at a club, party or wherever and the mood is mutual between a girl I find attractive then it's going to go down. This is how I fulfill my sexual needs and I don't think I'm a slut by any means and the same would go for a girl who does what I do. The word slut in general is just too subjective. Promiscuity is fun and natural. There's no line, just go for it if as long as you know what you're doing

[Tokzic]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

I would form a rebuttal to this, but 'prude' isn't a verb.

Do you know what a verb is? I used it as a noun. You know... like it's usually used.

Now, you're relating sex to... playing a board game, eating candy, and getting a haircut? So you're a whore *and* boring in bed. No wonder you don't think anything of doing it.

I'm relating the common misconception that the first time you have sex is fairy dust and unicorns to the first times for other activities. Just like these mundane activities, without having done them yet, people make crazy assumptions about them and blow them up in their minds because they haven't done them yet. Then, once they've done them, they realize that all of their expectations were way overblown, especially when it's worked up in their minds over long periods. Just because it's not a magical rollercoaster doesn't mean it's boring. Not a single activity in the world, including sex, is a magical rollercoaster.

Is this really that difficult for you to comprehend? Or is taking people out of context intentionally your way of trying to look cool on the internet?

also lmfao at "boring in bed", i guess i could be considered boring in bed if orgasming like a semi-automatic sounds dull to you

On the contrary. The people who find sex a big deal are those who realize that sex is generally best when meaningful, and when you can truly relate to the person.

You're a virgin. You have no reliable experience whatsoever to make such ridiculous claims. All you have to go on are romantic comedies and love songs. Don't pretend you have a clue about when "sex is generally best" when you have no points of comparison - no points at all, actually.

[passivegirl]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

My bad about the verb thing. But this forum isn't really about first times anyway. It's about repeatedly doing it with people you don't care about, whether it's right or not, and "where to draw the line". Your comparisons were just silly to me, though. It would make more sense if you related the first time having sex to something with a bit more of an impact than getting a haircut. You don't need to participate in something directly to have a 'certified' opinion on it.

[Necros140606]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

You don't need to participate in something directly to have a 'certified' opinion on it.

you don't have to, but your point isn't as valid as you don't have any fisrt-hand experience. also, the problem residing in the conception of first times is extremely relevant, because it's on the same thought line of considering any promiscuous sexual activity as a negative event.

after everything that has been said, we could conclude that being promiscuous (when considerate about STDs, pregnancy, even each other emotions (it's not like i would go with someone just because she's drunk, or someone that prefers a "stable relationship")) isn't harmful and is actually the most natural way to handle relationships. maybe when you think of someone you know who has such an active sexual life, it may not be your typical good guy/girl, but that's probably because the ones who go through the trouble of breaking social taboos aren't usually your respectful american citizens, in a way or the other.

in the end, the more you know and experiment, the best you can understand these mechanisms. just overthinking them starting from the biased information you receive sounds downright mindless and ultimately leads to huge trouble.

[Squeek]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

passive: If you're suggesting that your first time will be great because it will be with someone you actually enjoy being with and you can share your fetishes with them, then wouldn't it be even better to get practice with other people so you can perform better for that true first time?

I'm not sure why people think sex is the only activity that you can be amazing at your very first time (oh wait i do know), but nothing else in life follows this pattern. Unless you are a savant genius, you will be horrible at something your first time doing it and it will hardly be something you remember as a positive experience. I don't remember the first time I started doing anything in my life, because I was horrible at all of them. I remember the first time I did special things related to those first times, but that's it.

For example, I don't remember when I first got on a bicycle, but I do remember the first time I successfully rode down my hill (I live on top of a super-steep hill) with no hands. People who still play FFR don't remember their first song (or much else about it other than their epic failure), but they'll surely remember the first time they passed Yoshi Bonus Round or something. Hell I barely ever played FFR and haven't played for 4 years and I still remember that day.

[mead1]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

Seriously kids, get the **** over yourselves. Sex isn't a big deal if you do it responsibly, as summed up in tokzic's choose your own adventure wall of text. It's something fun to do that a lot of people take way too seriously.

[Bolth mannn]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

I wholly agree with kommisar[os]'s post.

it all depends on how you look at sex.

i personally, am leaving sex for marriage. not because im religious or anything of the sort (i am christian but that doesnt change how I look at sex). Sex to me, is a sacred thing that should be left for the one you truly love. if you blow it with some random chick, you wont get the same feeling. you will, physically, but emotionally is what matters.

Thats why I call sex, making love. you cant make love if its with some random chick.

if your looking to it as sex only and your doing it for the pleasure, go for it, I won't look down on you. just be prepared for the consequences.

[qqwref]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

...(i am christian but that doesnt change how I look at sex). Sex to me, is a sacred thing...

oh.

[Bolth mannn]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

oh.

I mean that being a christian had no effect on my thinking that sex is a sacred thing. i think it is sacred for reasons i am not going to tell an online community.

[Crashfan3]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

I'm not sure why people think sex is the only activity that you can be amazing at your very first time

First-time sex sucks. D: Didn't have a ****ing clue what I was doing.

Anyway... I don't think I've ever heard a man being called a slut. Maybe they just don't do that here out west or something? The way I've been raised, the more pussy you get, the better.
So, to use darkshark's example, if you bang 142 chicks in a month, then you're like the ultimate pinnacle of manhood or something.
HOWEVER, (why am I explaining this on the internet?) once you get a girlfriend, you don't go around ****ing everything that moves. People like that need to be knocked to the ground and kicked, IMO.

[Bolth mannn]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

First-time sex sucks. D: Didn't have a ****ing clue what I was doing.

I think having no idea what your doing makes it better :P

its all too perfect the next time.

[Izzy]

Re: Wheres the line, promiscuity.

I think having no idea what your doing makes it better :P

its all too perfect the next time.

Agreed, I think it was fun to share the experience with someone who also has no idea. It's not like you can do it completely wrong. You just put the penis in the vagina, and then it doesn't really matter what you do.