05-9-2008, 12:42 AM | #1 |
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I missed the virginity-thread train
because I am a busy person and I'd like to have the last word on the subject being the resident sexpert, re: http://www.flashflashrevolution.com/...ad.php?t=91943 posted a couple weeks ago.
That was a stupid thread, but I feel compelled to reply since so many people had different definitions of what virginity is. I hope that the thread was closed due to being in Critical Thinking improperly, and not entirely closed to the subject. I'd say "If I'm out of line, oh well, close this thread" except that sounds bossy and I am not a moderator so I will just say sorry in advance. Just about every person who posted in that thread had a different opinion of what it means to be a "virgin". And that is probably how it should be. The best definition of a virgin that I've ever heard or come up with: a person who considers themselves a virgin. It means that virginity is not dependent upon intercourse, or finding a magical "line" that you must cross and suddenly you are not a virgin. The traditional definition of "virgin" (lack of penetration of a vagina by a penis) is extremely troublesome, and is simply too rigid and wrong for a few reasons: 1) doesn't account for homosexuality. It's not prudent to define sexually active lesbians who have never had heterosexual intercourse as "virgins" 2) It can be helpful for many women who have been raped to consider themselves to be virgins. They didn't participate in a sexual act. Why should their status change because someone was violent toward them? 3) If you try to extend the definition to things like oral sex, petting, touching... the boundaries become very fuzzy. The only way to eliminate fuzzy boundaries is to recursively define "a virgin" as one who considers themselves a virgin based on all the definitions that they find relevant. Anything else is simply inflexible, difficult to define, rude, or insensitive. Of course, this brings in the problem of "What is a virgin in the first place?" or "What would cause someone to consider themselves to be a virgin?" That is a little deeper and is probably good fodder for a Critical Thinking thread if anyone cares about the subject. (And if you do, please PM me and tell me about the thread, since I'd love to read it and possibly comment.) Well, that's sex ed for today. Any questions?
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05-9-2008, 09:58 AM | #3 |
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I don't understand why the concept of virginity is even around. If you're going to act that way about your first time having sex, why aren't you being sentimental and hesitant about your first time buying a lava lamp? Your first time playing Risk? They're just simple activities of life. I don't see why we need a noun to describe an abstract concept that doesn't even tie to anything except maybe the ego boost or loss some people get from not having sex. There's even less point trying to give it a solid definition when it doesn't even adhere to anything solid.
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Wow...What a Topic for FFR...Don't you think you could just like relax and just do it. Think about that one song by Frankie Goes to Hollywood: Relax dont do it when you wonna come....thats all I got to say. I don't know, id rather perfer a specialist in sex ed... Why should we even need a sex ed fourm, This isnt a sexual internet site, It's a game. There are little kids that play this game and if they see this fourm they will go "Alright! lets do it!". Then they will go off and have sex and get a girl pregnant...It's not a good idea in my opinion....Besides I don't think that your cooler if you lose your virginity, I think you should just lose it with who you think is a great person for you and you might possiably spend your whole life with.
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I guess these days making love and sex are two different things, I believe they aren't meant to be.
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05-9-2008, 11:17 AM | #6 | |
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they really aren't that different
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05-9-2008, 11:25 AM | #7 |
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Of course the definition of virginity is context-sensitive, but in the vast majority of cases people aren't going to define the term before it's used, and as such the common, "troublelsome" definition is to be assumed just because there's a 99% chance that's what the questioner means.
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05-9-2008, 11:41 AM | #8 |
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Love isn't physical it's mental. Having sex with somebody you don't love is purely physical, it feels good and that's about it. Having sex with somebody you love is expressing your mental love in a physical way therefore IMO making it more enjoyable and meaningful.
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05-9-2008, 12:08 PM | #9 |
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The first time I got laid she sucked in bed, so I don't count that time as losing my virginity.
for serious.
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Before I say anything, my definition of sex is that of the wikipedia one, I can't link it though, as it's NSFW.
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So to wrap up here. I believe if you've had sex. You're not a Virgin. If you were raped, you were robed of your virginity. I bet you did as well hahaha.
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05-9-2008, 12:52 PM | #11 |
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Lmao LD. If that's true for you, then it should be true for me too.
Chrissi is a Goddess when it comes to this type of stuff... So I think she might have better explained what I wanted to say. It's hard to put a definition on virginity... but hers is the best so far. Also: rzr needs to stop trolling |
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05-9-2008, 01:05 PM | #13 | |
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05-9-2008, 01:55 PM | #15 |
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This is yet another reason why the use of the term is subjective, and why Chrissi is right to say that the best benchmark for being a virgin is "That you feel you are a virgin based on how you personally define virginity"
I always find it fascinating how the religious view of sex doesn't see anything contradictory in insisting that it is somehow BOTH the deepest expression of ones love for their spouse and ALSO ONLY for procreation. I'm only allowed to engage in the deepest expression of my love for my spouse when I have the explicit intention of having a baby? So if we aren't financially in a position to have a child, say, we are expressely forbidden from the deepest expression of our love...that seem fair to you? The classical Greek/Roman view of sexuality held that by and large, it was simply an appetite no different from hunger, thirst, tiredness etc. If you were hungry you ate something, if you were horny you had sex. There was a clear and obvious distinction to most people then between what we'd call today ****ing, having sex, and making love. And the distinction was generally accepted and understood by most people. What you did out with your buddies when you decided to go to a brothel was a completely different -kind of thing- from what you did on your anniversary in your bedroom with your spouse, and comparing them wasn't even something that made a lot of sense. *gasp* isn't it a novel concept that -motive- actually matters in what you're doing? I see nothing -wrong- with the idea of casual sex between friends, even if one or both of those people are in a romantic relationship at the same time. Obviously if one or both of their significant others had problems with the concept, you should probably respect that, but I don't think there's an intrinsic law that says you're only allowed to have sex with one person at a time, or that 'having sex' and 'making love' can't both be going on without overlap. |
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05-9-2008, 02:48 PM | #17 |
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Again, when the "standard" definition of "sex" is penetrative intercourse between a male and female (which is what the standard definition is) then the standard definition of "virgin" being someone who has not had sex (according to the standard definition) doesn't account for homosexual sex.
I hardly think I'm "reaching for problems" when it looks like you've missed the point that was being gotten to in the first place. The existing "standard" definition of virgin doesn't account for some things we think it ought to...how is that tackling something that isn't an issue? You think it does account for these things, but I'm not sure I buy your explanation of how they do. |
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Yes but I told you I had a definition for gay and lesbian sex separate to the definition of hetro sex.
If you have any of the above. You're not a virgin. I didn't miss the point.
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He created all the nerve endings, all the pleasurable sensations, the rush of hormones etc.., for a reason, to be enjoyed.
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Funny how often the church manages to disagree with the bible, considering its usual insistance that the bible is quite complete and factual.
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