Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

[QueenAshy]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

You being confrontational about this isn't good for my anxiety, you're putting my well being at risk.

I give no shits about your anxiety if you give no shits about gendering me correctly.

[SKG_Scintill]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

[...] and that I always preferred the company of women?

...*snort* yeah that proves it

[QueenAshy]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

...*snort* yeah that proves it

Maybe because I’m a lesbian 🤔. And I’ve never liked being in male social groups as compared to female ones…? You hear this in almost any given transition story, it’s not too far fetched to think that there’s a correlation in my case.

[SKG_Scintill]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

I also prefer the company of women
because I'm straight
as are you

[QueenAshy]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

I also prefer the company of women
because I'm straight
as are you

1. I’m still a lesbian

2. I didn’t mean it like that 😂

[SKG_Scintill]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

awww why'd you respond so normally
now it's no fun anymore

[Wh1teh]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

Seriously tho, if someone accidentally referring to you with male pronoun or using terms that have the word man it is a big problem for you, I think your life is probably going pretty good.

[WTFBrandon]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

Exactly. So that means that she should be more sympathetic about me being misgendered, and she should know exactly how it feels.

I genuinely laughed out loud because of this. It shows how far gone some people have taken this "misgender" stuff.
To what I said prior is people say things without knowing. People misspell the word "your" when meaning to spell "you're" all the time.
THEN YOU GET THE PEOPLE THAt COME OUT OF NOWHERE AND ARE LIKE "IT'S YOU'RE" WAH WAH WAH. This is the same situation. If someone is unaware of something and you're aggressively correcting someone, it makes you look like a douchebag imo. There is a nice way to do things and a not so nice way. I can promise you nobody purposely attempts to misgender people, it happens because people are unaware which i'm going to assume is what happened when I made my comment. For perfect example QueenAshy! I had no idea you were trans until you openly talked about it on the forum. That being said I could have VERY EASILY misgendered you, which then you would have gotten all upset at me for not knowing something we had never talked about. Seems fair, right?

90% of the time when people misgender it's not meant to be a threat it's because people are unaware of said persons gender. So the be mad at someone for that is just plain silly and selfish. You honestly sit there and believe people genuinely want to say hurtful things to people they don't know?
This is a huge problem that's been coming up in the past few years or people being upset or offended at people for not understanding their emotions or their beliefs, but at the same time they aren't willing to understand others emotions or beliefs. Sometimes you need to learn to agree to disagree and understand not everybody will agree or accept your personal life choices. This doesn't mean the person is quote on quote "trying to attack me by not accepting who I am". Why cause more hate when we can learn to accept each other the way we are? I'm sure if people were less aggressive and more open minded about their beliefs in ANYTHING, everybody will be a lot more open to listening rather than it quickly turning into arguments. This can fit into anything like religion, gender, do you put ketchup on your mac and cheese, pineapples on pizza, etc.

This is something i'd love to figure out, but I don't think will ever find the answer to sadly.

[Jousway]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

misgendering on the internet is stupid anyways like how do you know someone is a girl or a boy from reading text :joy:

[QueenAshy]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

Seriously tho, if someone accidentally referring to you with male pronoun or using terms that have the word man it is a big problem for you, I think your life is probably going pretty good.

It’s not accidentally if they continue to intentionally do it after I tell them to stop.

Also, misgendering is so hurtful cause it not only reminds me that the world sees me as nothing but a crossdressing man, but also because it invalidates my struggle to even medically transition. I didn’t get HRT a month after I came out, I had to wait 2 years through dysphoria that got me hospitalized 3 times, and made me attempt suicide nearly twice as many times. Even with all the therapy and meds in the world, I still felt like shit. It was only after I fought like hell and went to many doctors (ended up wasting hundreds for it, and having to sell many items I had sentimental attachements to), then I finally got to actually feel somewhat happy and comfortable in my body. It was not fun at all.

When you refer to me as “he”, it invalidates that entire struggle that I went through and shows that you don’t have any sort of empathy for what others may go through.

[QueenAshy]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

I genuinely laughed out loud because of this. It shows how far gone some people have taken this "misgender" stuff.
To what I said prior is people say things without knowing. People misspell the word "your" when meaning to spell "you're" all the time.
THEN YOU GET THE PEOPLE THAt COME OUT OF NOWHERE AND ARE LIKE "IT'S YOU'RE" WAH WAH WAH. This is the same situation. If someone is unaware of something and you're aggressively correcting someone, it makes you look like a douchebag imo. There is a nice way to do things and a not so nice way. I can promise you nobody purposely attempts to misgender people, it happens because people are unaware which i'm going to assume is what happened when I made my comment. For perfect example QueenAshy! I had no idea you were trans until you openly talked about it on the forum. That being said I could have VERY EASILY misgendered you, which then you would have gotten all upset at me for not knowing something we had never talked about. Seems fair, right?

90% of the time when people misgender it's not meant to be a threat it's because people are unaware of said persons gender. So the be mad at someone for that is just plain silly and selfish. You honestly sit there and believe people genuinely want to say hurtful things to people they don't know?
This is a huge problem that's been coming up in the past few years or people being upset or offended at people for not understanding their emotions or their beliefs, but at the same time they aren't willing to understand others emotions or beliefs. Sometimes you need to learn to agree to disagree and understand not everybody will agree or accept your personal life choices. This doesn't mean the person is quote on quote "trying to attack me by not accepting who I am". Why cause more hate when we can learn to accept each other the way we are? I'm sure if people were less aggressive and more open minded about their beliefs in ANYTHING, everybody will be a lot more open to listening rather than it quickly turning into arguments. This can fit into anything like religion, gender, do you put ketchup on your mac and cheese, pineapples on pizza, etc.

This is something i'd love to figure out, but I don't think will ever find the answer to sadly.

Except it’s different because I’ve said that I was trans to these people, and kindly ask them to use she/her pronouns, and they refused. If they simply were like “ok”, after I told them my pronouns, I would’ve had no problem with it.

And yes, staiain knows that I’m trans. She knows, and I’ve talked to her in her own discord and on twitch. That’s how this whole thing started

[Jousway]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

kek


also if you get insulted, welcome to the internet, wanna know how to solve it, turn of your pc and go outside kek

[QueenAshy]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

misgendering on the internet is stupid anyways like how do you know someone is a girl or a boy from reading text :joy:

My username literally has Queen in it, not to mention that I’ve expressed my pronouns multiple times. I feel like I need to put it in my sig or something so people have no excuse not to know. But I don’t want to do that, cause I feel it’ll insult people’s intelligence.

[V-Ormix]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

I get mistaken for a girl all the time because of my slender physique and long hair when people approach me from the back

ayyy id hit that or uh wait hmmm im sorry miss i mean dood mayb in an alternate reality we can both be weirdos and do weird shit

[Jousway]

Re: Sillyfangirl is a god wtf!?

My username literally has Queen in it, not to mention that I’ve expressed my pronouns multiple times. I feel like I need to put it in my sig or something so people have no excuse not to know. But I don’t want to do that, cause I feel it’ll insult people’s intelligence.

so people use girly anime names all the time, but here on the internet people automaticly asume the person behind the screen is a guy, and use male terms, when a person does this to a female does she go all over the top going ACTUALLY I IDENTIFY AS BABYKIN, they do not.