Is cybersex cheating?

[RB_Spirit]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

Betraying someones trust is funny hur hur. If they were dumb enough to trust u, than no, cyber sex isn't wrong ^^ keep fappin'

[FontSize72LOL]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

It depends on the level of emotional commitment you have with the person you're doing the cybersex with i suppose. While i don't think its cheating per say, its not something you want to do when you're in a relationship already. I'd put it on the equivalent of going out to a strip joint to see your favorite girl/guy strip.

That's not to say I'd tolerate it at all. While i don't think its cheating, i doubt I'd stay with someone displaying their goods to random strangers on the internet. Its still a trust issue.

[Choofers]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

god gurl I'm slappin my dick all over the monitor how do you like that huh??

[Izzy]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

I sometimes forget this is a critical thinking section.

[Stage:]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

It's the couple's decision and no one else's business. If you agree with your partner on the fact that ''cybersex isn't cheating in THIS relationship'' well it isn't. If they don't agree, it's ''cheating''.

I don't think this can be generalized... it's between two individuals. There is no such thing as ''relationship rules'' so I don't understand where this question is going.

[FontSize72LOL]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

what is sex

Does it have something to do with holding hands and stuff?

[Charu]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

Caught red handed that is.

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I apologize for this really forced statement.

However, on the topic of cybersex being considered cheating. It's really no question, if you're in a relationship, of course it is! But you don't need another person saying that since a lot of you have already stated it.

I also agree with the "What your partner thinks is considered..." argument.

[phe0nixblade]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

madmatt thread

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[Dynam0]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

As long as there is no double standard and both partners agree that it's acceptable for either one to engage in said activities then go for it.

The majority of people would probably have values consistent with saying that cybersex is cheating though, myself included.

On the other hand for example, there's people out there who are perfectly fine with watching their wives get pig roasted. so yeah...I'm sure some people will think it's harmless rofl

[Mourningfall]

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Relationships are a two way street.
If they're cool with you eSlutting, they probably think you feel the same way in return.
I don't see how that's considered a relationship.

'Fuck buddies with a reason to argue' is the only label I could come up with.

[TC_Halogen]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

Yes. Emotional cheating can be just as bad as physical (as both are technically appeals to emotion in the end anyway).

I still stand by my heuristic of what defines cheating: If you wouldn't do it in front of your SO, it's probably cheating.

I literally can't explain it any better than this.

If you are in a relationship and feel the need to hide contact with someone else you have feelings for, that is cheating. It doesn't matter if it's a close-distance relationship where you can actually visit the person, or a long-distance relationship where you have to talk with them through some other medium (in this case, computers + internet); if there is a level of secrecy that -needs- to be maintained to avoid conflict, it's probably wrong.

[Ohaider]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

madmatt thread

dilapidated saying as of 2009, thank you 0

[Raining Nails]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

Depends on the situation. It isn't cheating if you have an open relationship or your partner is ok with it. "Cheating" is really just doing something outside the boundaries you and your partner have set.

Then again, I'm not the possessive type. I've been with my GF for over 4 years.

Second question - what if you had one cyber-encounter and didn't tell your partner. What if this encounter in fact made your relationship better? What if it "spiced things up"?

Devils advocate.

[TC_Halogen]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

I still would personally call it cheating. It's the fact that you gave in to the temptation of adulterous behavior.

By implying that the partner is "alright" with it, you're already nullifying any possibility of it being cheating, because it's either serious enough for the SO to leave you, or it's not serious enough and you/your SO have no reason to argue about it because it's a trivial situation. If the previously noted trivial situation turns out to be a lie and ends up being an affair, then it leads right back to cheating. On a personal level, it seems like there's no middle ground -- either you're cheating, or you're not.

Part of me was wondering about cheating in polygamist relationships, but I can't quite wrap my head about how I would discuss something like that, haha.

[benguino]

Re: Is cybersex cheating?

Define the boolean function c(p1, p2, A) as the result of the truthfulness of the proposition: "The action A is considered cheating in the relationship between p1 and p2."

If p1=p2, say both equal person X, then we can define c(X, X, A) as "In X's personal opinion, A is considered cheating."

define C(p1, p2) = {all A | c(p1, p2, A) = true}

Now, there are two extremes we can have. Either both people in the couple are lenient and allow their partner to do whatever where only the mutually agreed upon activities are deemed as cheating. In the other case, both people in the couple could be strict and abide by not only their own opinions of what is cheating but also by their partner's. Thus we can bound the set of activities that are deemed as cheating between a couple as follows:

(C(p1,p1) ∩ C(p2, p2)) ⊆ C(p1, p2) ⊆ (C(p1,p1) ∪ C(p2, p2))

Is it up to the couple themselves through proper communication to more precisely define the elements in C(p1, p2) (the things considered cheating between said couple.) Also, until you talk to your significant other, you have no clue what C(p2, p2) is (assuming you are p1) so it's best to talk to your partner about it so both of you can first have an understanding of each other's personal opinions and then after that, you can have a logical discussion to find a happy medium that satisfies both people in the couple.