Guys: Could you marry someone who couldn't give you kids?

Collapse
X
Collapse
 
  • Page of 4
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts
Previous 1 2 3 4 template Next
  • ayanepuck
    FFR Player
    • May 2004
    • 110
    #1

    Guys: Could you marry someone who couldn't give you kids?

    The only reason I decided to start this in here and not in the general forum is because I would like honest answers, and answers that are thought-out rather than wise cracks.
    I have recently been inormed that a girl I know has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer, so naturally, they want to remove her ovaries. This means no children of her own, ever. This girl comes from a very strong religious backround, and apparently, her mother hit the roof when she found out. The young woman is devistated, as I would be if this ever happened to me, and I was wondering what thoughts any of y'all had on the issue. I know that most women would be devistated. I know there is always adoption, but not having a child of my own would kill me. This also brought up the question of who will marry a person who can't bear children? I mean, I know most guys would not care, maybe even rejoice in the fact that they can have unprotected sex to their heart's content, but when it comes down to it, how many of you men would marry a woman who could not give you children of your own?
    \"All the world is the birthday cake, so take a piece, but not too much.\"

    \"The Beatles saved the world from boredom.\"
    --George Harrison
    Tags: None
    • LEGO
      Banned
      • Apr 2003
      • 994
      #2
      I would marry the person if we were actually in love, and assuming she would want children too, we would adopt.

      Simple :P

        Comment

        • lightdarkness
          Summer!!
          • Jul 2003
          • 11308
          #3
          What lego said, it's all about the love.

          If two people truly love each other, the guy should put that aside just to be with them.

          Same goes for the other way around, if the guy doesn't have a high sperm count or something.

            Comment

            • Omeganitros
              auauauau
              • Jun 2003
              • 8897
              #4
              Yup.

                Comment

                • Verruckter
                  FFR Player
                  • Apr 2004
                  • 2707
                  #5
                  Marry for the money!!

                  No I'm joking. Yeah marry for love.
                  Truth lies in loneliness, When hope is long gone by -Blind Guardian, The Soulforged
                  Image removed for size violation.

                    Comment

                    • xObserveRx
                      FFR Simfile Author
                      FFR Simfile Author
                      • Aug 2003
                      • 1148
                      #6
                      Honestly, yeah, i would marry some girl who couldn't have babies. Yes you're right, i'd love the thought of enless unprotected sex anytime, but the fact that i wouldn't be able to be a father would be hard. Sure we could adopt, but its still really not your kid. That being said, If i was in love with this girl, i would be able to overlook all those things.
                      Come Play The Werewolf Game!

                        Comment

                        • tristia
                          FFR Player
                          • Sep 2003
                          • 419
                          #7
                          I cant have kids myself :/ You would be surprised how many guys get a bit freaked out when you mention that you can't have kids. Even being as young as I am, I've had guys shy away from me because of it. Your right though, most guys will look over it. Especially if its a well developed and loving relationship.
                          Yay MySpace

                            Comment

                            • TaquitoPrincess
                              FFR Player
                              • Jul 2004
                              • 1
                              #8
                              I was born with only one ovary and I am currently engaged to a guy who has always wanted kids, I just told him recently about it, but he stil wants to get married.

                                Comment

                                • GuidoHunter
                                  is against custom titles
                                  • Oct 2003
                                  • 7371
                                  #9
                                  If I were really in love with her, yes, I would, because adopted children can be just as much yours as if you had them. However, I do agree with Observer that it'd suck to not have any children of your own.

                                  You mentioned the religious background. It's not a sin to get married even if you physically can't have children, but to get married with the intent of never having any is.

                                  --Guido

                                  http://andy.mikee385.com

                                  Originally posted by Grandiagod
                                  Originally posted by Grandiagod
                                  She has an asshole, in other pics you can see a diaper taped to her dead twin's back.
                                  Sentences I thought I never would have to type.

                                    Comment

                                    • CalibreneGuru
                                      FFR Player
                                      • Aug 2003
                                      • 108
                                      #10
                                      Call me a sinner then. But anyway, I don't know if I would want children in the first place, so I would be fine with marrying a girl like that. At the moment, I would much rather adopt. Some kids in other countries and even here in this one, are bound to lead shitty lives if they continue down the path they are on. I would want to help them.

                                        Comment

                                        • jewpinthethird
                                          (The Fat's Sabobah)
                                          FFR Music Producer
                                          • Nov 2002
                                          • 11711
                                          #11
                                          Originally posted by CalibreneGuru
                                          Call me a sinner then. But anyway, I don't know if I would want children in the first place, so I would be fine with marrying a girl like that. At the moment, I would much rather adopt. Some kids in other countries and even here in this one, are bound to lead shitty lives if they continue down the path they are on. I would want to help them.
                                          Yeah, if you do that you are a sinner and god will hate you forever.

                                          </sarcasm>

                                          I would like to have children of my own...but a relationship is about love, not reproducing.

                                            Comment

                                            • xObserveRx
                                              FFR Simfile Author
                                              FFR Simfile Author
                                              • Aug 2003
                                              • 1148
                                              #12
                                              How can you not want to have kids? Honestly, i think saying you don't want kids is just a phase. It seems to me that everyone will eventually have a natural instinct to want to be a father or mother, and that's what should happen. I remember not wanting kids, that phase lasted for about a year or so, but eventually it went away. I would be very dissapointed to die without being a father.
                                              Come Play The Werewolf Game!

                                                Comment

                                                • LEGO
                                                  Banned
                                                  • Apr 2003
                                                  • 994
                                                  #13
                                                  Originally posted by xObserveRx
                                                  How can you not want to have kids? Honestly, i think saying you don't want kids is just a phase. It seems to me that everyone will eventually have a natural instinct to want to be a father or mother, and that's what should happen. I remember not wanting kids, that phase lasted for about a year or so, but eventually it went away. I would be very dissapointed to die without being a father.
                                                  *Disappointed

                                                  <Deleted expletives regarding Canada's educational system>

                                                    Comment

                                                    • Moogy
                                                      嗚呼
                                                      FFR Simfile Author
                                                      • Aug 2003
                                                      • 10303
                                                      #14
                                                      Children are nothing but annoyances.
                                                      Plz visit my blog

                                                      ^^^ vintage signature from like 2006 preserved

                                                        Comment

                                                        • Chrissi
                                                          FFR Player
                                                          • Mar 2004
                                                          • 3019
                                                          #15
                                                          I wouldn't care at all. I don't desire to have kids, ever. If I had to have my ovaries removed, I'd really not care about not being able to have kids. All I'd care about is the nasty side effects.

                                                          Okay okay, I'm not a guy... but I think my opinion is valid too.

                                                          And about it being a sin, HUH? I didn't know that, and I thought I knew enough about religion. Well. To me, this just gives me extra evidence for why those particular religions suck. To me. Not bashing any religious people.

                                                          I hope I don't get over not wanting kids, because I'm in it for a different reason. Overpopulation. I know, I know, developed countries are NOT overpopulated. But I think the WORLD is overpopulated. Even one human is an overpopulation of humans. I don't want to help us breed.

                                                          At the same time, I don't just want everyone to DIE... I would probably want to adopt when that urge for having children comes.
                                                          C is for Charisma, it's why people think I'm great! I make my friends all laugh and smile and never want to hate!

                                                            Comment

                                                            Previous 1 2 3 4 template Next
                                                            Working...