What defines you?

[tha Guardians]

Re: What defines you?

If this thread is going in the direction of "what are you really inside", then I think I understand it.

People speak and communicate with you and you see this and make presumptions. Is this, however, how they really want to speak to you?

If you ever meet me in person, I come off as an outgoing, extroverted guy that likes to laugh and find enjoyment while not taking many things seriously.

When I go home, however, I am EXTREMELY introverted. I deeply involve myself in thinking. One of my -hopeful- studies that I will take in college will be Philosophy. The one thing that absolutely fascinates me is the thinking process of people and how they solved a problem that was given to them. With everything that I do, I always find a way to see it in another person's view point. I see it and understand it. But what now? I feel that by doing this, I gain a high level of understanding from not just how people tick, but from life itself.

I have no idea what I just tried to contribute to this thread but w/e. Now you all know more a little about hoochan, I guess.

It makes sense.
Both the part of you that you show to others, and the part of you you keep to yourself define you.

[hoochan]

Re: What defines you?

If this thread is going in the direction of "what are you really inside", then I think I understand it.

People speak and communicate with you and you see this and make presumptions. Is this, however, how they really want to speak to you?

If you ever meet me in person, I come off as an outgoing, extroverted guy that likes to laugh and find enjoyment while not taking many things seriously.

When I go home, however, I am EXTREMELY introverted. I deeply involve myself in thinking. One of my -hopeful- studies that I will take in college will be Philosophy. The one thing that absolutely fascinates me is the thinking process of people and how they solved a problem that was given to them. With everything that I do, I always find a way to see it in another person's view point. I see it and understand it. But what now? I feel that by doing this, I gain a high level of understanding from not just how people tick, but from life itself.

I have no idea what I just tried to contribute to this thread but w/e. Now you all know more a little about hoochan, I guess.

[ledwix]

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I think my thoughts define me more than my actions do. This is because it's tough for me to translate some of my most profound thoughts into acts, so I kind of hide inside myself due to a lack of confidence. I get extremely paranoid in some social situations. Basically, I think more than I talk. Of course, the only way to gauge who someone else is is to evaluate their actions. So the way to define someone outside of our own being may be to observe their actions, since this is the only way to do it. But for ourselves, we can feel our thoughts and see our own character in an even greater light; we have that primary-source type of connection with our own conscience. We actually know when we're thinking perverted thoughts and fantasizing, and everything else. It's interesting how this isn't the case with others.

My job will only define who I am in the future if it follows the lines of my career interests: the fields of philosophy or physics/astronomy. If I end up becoming a physics major who drops out of college and flips burgers, it won't define who I am; just the method I use to put food on the table. If I end up in an observatory, that will match my personality. I'd conclude that jobs don't necessarily correlate with character or a person's most obvious qualities.

[Corbin Wells]

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I believe my actions define me more than my thoughts. Although I do feel that thoughts are extremely important because it is part of our consciousness and is what is used in making decisions, I believe that the actions I make speak much more strongly than the taboo thoughts that sometimes would be made or created out of my minds complete randomness. Like when we dream, we have strange dreams, the mind filters out a whole bunch of random things in sleep.

[Xx{Midday}xX]

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Oh I see.

Meh, I was taking this in a more shintoistic direction I guess.

[monkeybomb45]

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"Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth."
--Alan Watts

[Xx{Midnight}xX]

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Clothes don't decide who you are. What. Since when did your taste in clothes decide who you are.

Out here cloths and who you hang with is the deciding factor of almost everything. Personally it sucks. When one person wears one thing and the "Popular" kids dislike not many people will talk to them.

What should define a person is how they act, think and their personality. But even with this it has its problems. Just because some one acts a bit stupid doesn't always mean they are. A person's ability to think and act upon their thinking can also be taken badly because some people don't agree with that line of thinking. (Like the people who still believe in God and those who don't.) On top of all that a person's personality is almost always determined by a few factors, such as how you were raised and what you're told by people.

Basically what I think is that people just shouldn't be judged period, if that were to stop the world might actually be worth going into.

[tha Guardians]

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Ok, so I truly am asking a question with this, however, I do wish to discuss the issue with a critical mind, so I'm posting it here. I'm also going to get the ball rolling.

I've talked to someone who's said that what they do for their job doesn't define who they are, and they generalize this to everyone. I partially disagree with this, because how can something which takes up 40 hrs a week (talking about full-time here), not have some sort of part in defining who you are?

If work doesn't define you, what does? Do thoughts define us, or do our actions? Or something else?

I know that I exist outside how I affect other people, but to me, none of that matters if I don't affect other people in some way. There seems to be a fundamental human quality in myself that makes me want to affect other people, and in a way which makes them think highly of me. But, as the title suggests, it's more than just wanting attention; it's necessary for defining myself. If I don't affect anyone, I might as well not matter. My thoughts matter only if they're shared. Is this how you think too?

Getting back to the work issue, upon knowing my stand on this, if I spend a majority of the time working, then it's impossible for this to not define part of who I am, seeing as work in a capitalist society is defined by someone paying you for it, and ergo at a minimum, you affect the person who's paying you.

Your job is only a way to spend the time and make your life easier.

What I believe defines a person is, well, their personality.
Their beliefs, their outlook.. things of that nature.

Additionally, what defines a person can also be what's important to them.
Music defines me because without it, I would be a much different person.

It's really nobody's place to say what defines someone else.

Clothes don't decide who you are. What. Since when did your taste in clothes decide who you are.

It shows how you like to present yourself to others, and also what style you like.

Every single thing a person does, thinks, or says defines that person a little.
A person is truly defined by who they are, which includes every single thing about them and every single thing included in their life. However, a person can make a statement on how they would like to be viewed, or "defined".

[rzr]

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Work defining who I am? Ha. I work at McDonald's. It says nothing about who I am. I'm going for a job at Hot Topic, that would show who I am. Anything else?

[1961casey]

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Good question!

The main problem is that there are just about as many ways to define oneself as there are people in the world. Some people define themselves by how much money they earn, others by the amount of authority they have over others, others by how well they may perform a certain task ie. athletics. Others use more abstract standards such as how they can help others, the amount of cheer and good will the extend every day, some can be as pathetic as needing a person to smile at them to assuage their self-worth. Some define themselves by their relationship to someone important. Some people are just content being who they are and accepting that.

Your friend said that her job doesn't define her and based on how you have described her she may be right. It sounds like she has a genuine concern for people which she can express through her job. She could probably do well in another occupation if it also involved some personal interaction. Therefore, her job is not what defines her but the pride she has in someone else's achievements. Maybe you should ask her about what she does outside her job and what brings her satisfaction. I'm betting that her relationships are important to her and the fact that she would want to help others achieve whatever goals they may have.

[Cavernio]

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I think my wording in 'defining' oneself was poor in what I was trying to address. Perhaps I meant more 'what makes you happy'. My existence needs to be defined in order for me to be happy.

Midday: You didn't answer my question, personally, beyond that it'd suck not being able to 'get anything done'. You see, I wouldn't be happy with no one else around, because there'd be no reason to get anything done.

Tupacodaman: You do raise an interesting point, in that she just believes it because she's unhappy with her job. I don't think she's unhappy with it though, she teaches piano, and takes much pride and concern in her students. It is, however, possible that she thought it only because there's been so much other **** going on in her life that her job pales in comparison to it. I doubt that she was just throwing the statemnet around.
She does, however, have an opinion on anything and everything, but they're always founded so that it makes sense with at least one given fact.
This leads me to another question though. How do you resolve things to yourself if you believe that work does define you, yet for some reason you're doing work that's, well, not meaningful enough to be happy in how it's defining you? Are the only options getting a new job or changing what you decide defines you?

[Xx{Midday}xX]

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Clothes don't decide who you are. What. Since when did your taste in clothes decide who you are.

[Mans0n]

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People Define them selves in some sort of way everyday.
I mean everybody (Most people) choose their clothes everymorning when they get up to work right? Well that right there is in a way defining yourself because ''you'' pick'ed out your clothes.
^^ also Midday is pretty right, other people influence are actions everyday.
Example: My girlfriend does'nt like that guy over there. She say's he's a pervert.
Im gonna go beat the **** outta him.
That example right their shows how manipulated men (humans) are.
I mean think about it, that girl (girlfriend) could have made that up. To get her boyfriend to beat up the guy.
So yeah.

[Xx{Midday}xX]

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Midday: So, if you are who you define yourself to be, and you matter only to yourself, you would be alright if you were the last living person on earth?

You could define yourself as someone who needs to have others in your midst, and I also said that your own decisions are influenced by other people.

Moreover, I don't think humans can accomplish anything by themselves.

[Chrissi]

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Maybe this sounds like a cop-out and irrelevant to the discussion to you, but I feel like trying to find out what "defines" someone is completely.... how do you say it... semantics? Like, it doesn't matter how you're "defined" because that's just what somebody is SAYING about you. It doesn't change anything. It doesn't make you different. You can call yourself whatever and it won't mean anything.