as stupid as this sounds,

[AriesMalvis]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

hmm...i kno how it is, well not exactly, since i'm not you...
but i do kno how it can be...for the both of you
your gf doesn't have good self respect
and it's hard to have when ppl have treated you like crap in the past
i mean a person could go thru such a terrible life, and then a person can come along and be the best, sweetest, more caring person...but it's still hard to trust them, even if they've never done anything
i deal with that all the time
it sucks when i make other ppl suffer for the things they didn't do
i've been thru the ultimate betrayal...more than once
i really wish i knew what to say to help...

[DrugstoreCowboy]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

eh, its okay.

i know that shes trying, its just when she gets in these kind of moods, i get scared because i dont want to lose her. But this is just as bad as the time when she broke up with me.

The only good thing about this is that she said she didnt want to break up, but she also didnt want to talk about it.

[AriesMalvis]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

well if she doesn't want to break up, that's definitely a good thing
maybe she just needs time to think
cuz im sure she knows you love her and you mean a lot to her
just giver her her space
and when she does want to talk, she'll go to you
and stay optimistic :]

[DrugstoreCowboy]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

yup, so you think i should wait for her to call me?

[AriesMalvis]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

i would think so
but another thing is...about girls
some things are just a test
and i hate that
like she'll say she doesn't want you to do something
but she really does
and she just wants to check to see if you really kno her
...
it can get difficult
so just use your past experiences with her to judge the current situation

[DrugstoreCowboy]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

ill call her first thing in the morning.

ask if she wants to talk.
if she doesnt, then ill respect that and tell her "okay, whenever you're ready to talk, just call me"

sound good?

[AriesMalvis]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

sounds like a good idea to me
as long as if she says she doesn't want to talk...you don't just seem to rush off the phone. and i said this before, but i kno she knows you care for her...but just make sure you show it when you call...
and good luck with it, im sure it will turn out well :]

[DrugstoreCowboy]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

of course.

i just have to remember she did say she wanted to be with me. So therefore, its not like were broken up and im trying to get back together.

[DrugstoreCowboy]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

Shox, you get +5 e-points for having an awesome girlfriend. Shes special, dont forget that. She really helped me out a lot. <3

[FRANKKK]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

i hope everything goes well for you man.
good luck.

[DrugstoreCowboy]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

i'll find out in an hour or two, im waiting for her to call back.

***EDIT!!!!***

She just called and basically this was the conversation on the phone.

her- hey i just woke up
me- oh, sleep good?
her- i guess, i need to take a shower
me- yeah, i just took one.
her- then i gotta go to work
me- me too
her- so about us talking
me- yeah?
her- i dont think we have enough time to talk about it now
me- okay, understandable.
her- is that okay?
me- yeah, its fine, but i do want to say one thing. this has been killing me all last night and day today. me and you are fine, right? like you dont not want to be with me, correct?
her- i do want to be with you but its just hard to be with you when you always wanna know what im doing, who im with, where im going.
me- i could see how that would be frustrating, but isnt that a good thing, that i care enough to want to know what youre doing?
her- yeah but its stressful knowing that you have to know everything and approve of everything i do.
me- okay, im sorry. would you like to hang out tomorrow morning and talk about this?
her- yes.
me- okay.
her- call me after work?
me- of course, i love you.
her- love you too.


so, now that i know my problem, how many other guys (or girls) have this problem and what do you suggest to fix it?

[DarkVampiress21]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

I think you have to realize that you two are still two different people. Anyway, I don't really see a problem now. It's something that you two can work out. It's not something majorly complicated, in my opinion. It's sort of like a parent-ish thing to do, to ask who they're with and stuff. Yes, you care for her, but try to make it sound casual when you ask her about things, not as if you are intruding into her business. Remember, she will "probaly hurt you way more than once so please dont get close to" her. Maybe she has a problem with people being too attached or something. But remember, if you guys are having problems, then maybe it isn't really love, but that is only my opinion. You can say you're in love, and maybe you are, but you can fall in love many times.

Remember - Communcation is the key. It may sound cliche, but unless you guys are mind readers, you both really should express your thoughts more often to each other. Completely honest and no holding back, but remember, you are not attacking her, so try to say things such as, "I feel.." Bah, I'm starting to sound like Dr. Phil.

[pntballa18]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

Alright, here's my real opinion, not like the one on aim.

She's a whore. You're 19, which means she is around there too. This means you probably took her virginity. If not, that only strengthens my point. If she had sex with you, and now wants to distance herself, she is a whore.

[DrugstoreCowboy]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

you never cease to amaze me pntballa. rofl.
<nonflame>you're 15, which means your balls probably havent dropped. This means you do not understand what exactly is goin on, but you will in time my friend.</nonflame>

haha, seriously though, you might be right pntballa, the thing you said on aim, so i dunno.


And DarkVampiress, thanks. I know what your saying. But wanna hear something that makes her sound like a hypocrite? I called her after work and this is what was said.

me- hey, i just got off of work.
her- oh, thats good. what are you doing?
me- going over to chris's house.
her- for what?
me- to show him how to play FFR (seriously, lol)
her- oh. i guess just call me in the morning.
me- oh, okay, love you.
her- love you too.


did she just do what she told me she hated?
its so frustrating.

[pntballa18]

Re: as stupid as this sounds,

I think the average age for boys hitting puberty is 13. ++ 2 years

PS what I said on AIM was that she was pregnant, for those wondering.