Rebirth of the other topic...

[Tokzic]

You can't really call it a "relationship" when you don't even talk.

Fish is right. She's one of those insecure people that can't stand not being in a relationship, or they feel alone. It doesn't sound like she has any interest in you personally, but in having a boyfriend, period.

Get rid of her.

[masterhickle]

I almost agree with those who say she is in a relationship just to be in one or feels alone otherwise...

She doesn't talk...she whines at me when I don't say anything...I catch hell if I ask her why she won't say anything when she's the one that "wants to be loud" (yes I have reminded her of her saying that)...

But at the same time...there are the good moments...she'll show some affection...

But again...we've been going out for at least 7-8 months...she still is afraid to do anything around me...but whenever Im with her and her friends, she'll act like Im not there and be how she normally would

Bleh...why am I like this...

[Grandiagod]

Tap the hoe and run.

[mattc16]

7-8 months and you're having problems talking. Dude, you really need to move on. Hell, most people would split with a girl they had problems talking to after 7-8 days, let alone months. In all fairness, your relationship with her isn't working, one of the fundamental points of a relationship for me is being able to chat to the girl. If we have nothing in common, or nothing we can just chat about, nothing's gonna happen. Move on, find a better girl, someone you have a lot more in common with. You'll thank yourself in the long run. Trust me.

[masterhickle]

Well...there's only one thing actually keeping me from breaking things off with her...(I know that this is gonna make me into a pansy, but it's the truth) I just don't want to put myself through that emotional down period...I mean, I still care a good bit for this girl, but things just are not working out

Im probably beyond able to be helped at this point...I'll still take into consideration any opinions/thoughts (that have some kind of thought put into them mind you)



Edit: Considering that I was told what I did last time was showing "insecurity" ....what does this community think about the "taste of your own medicine" thing? ya know, just keep me fingers off the keyboard or her window minimized unless she IMs me?

[Grandiagod]

If you won't take our suggestions to break it off whats the point?

[masterhickle]

I didn't mean that as I wouldn't take the suggestions....I meant that as it's gonna be a hard thing for me to do

But yeah..any input from here on out is welcomed/accepted/whatever word ya wanna use

[Specforces]

Did you skeet?

[masterhickle]

How's this for taking control of things (mostly toward Zachisevil since he brought up insecurity; this is taken directly from our convo tonight, word for word, her IMs marked with an enter key hit and a - in front of them):

so...is the quiet time gonna carry on like last night, or is there gonna be a little more IM'ing?

-i dunno...you talk than
this is always turned on me >.>
I've tried before...like last night...even asked if there was anything you wanted to say or tell me about

-i don't
and you almost never do -.-

-then i won't get on anymore unless i do....i'm serious i'm not being mean....but i guess i can't be on and just be on...i have to talk the whole time

-so i'm gonna get off now because i have homework and american idol will be on
I never said get off if ya don't have anything to say
I said (last night) that Id prefer there not be 4-5hrs of silence when we have MAYBE 5-6hrs on at the same time

-ok...well i just won't be on because it's kinda hard to keep a conversation going for 6 hours when i have nothing to say
...
LISTEN
where did I say I want a 6hr conversation going?
nowhere
I said
I want "a little more talking"
what's a half hour - hour more conversation gonna do to us?
but since you seem so hell bent on there being limited conversation, maybe you aren't ready to take this relationship to where you think you're ready to
since conversation is one key part of a relationship
so here's whats gonna happen on AOL from here on out
Im saying nothing unless you bring something up
I've tried my share of times to no avail


That is word for word...copy/pasted with the names taken out

[FishFishRevolution]

Emotional down is a fair trade for not having to put up with a b*tch.

Believe me on this one, don't do this to yourself.

[mead1]

Drop it like it's hot

Is that song dead enough for me to say that yet?

[masterhickle]

haha...WOW...that was one helluva heated argument...lemme tell ya, haven't had one of them in a while

here's some of the IMs from it

-but you act silly like around matt....your not funny
-that's definitly not going to make me more outgoing
-i'm gonna act like that
-not*
it's called...not caring about what others around you are gonna think
called...being yourself
-how your friends act isn't how i'm gonna act
guess what...that's how I really am
-ok
-that's fine
5 seconds ago it wasn't

*later*

all I want you to do is
quit being so embarrassed to do or say anything
I've tried to get you to do that by doing it myself
but I haven't seen any improvements
and after you said you'd work on it about 3-4 times

*later*

-you know what whatever...i'm going to bed and you don't have to talk to me if i can't keep a conversation
-i don't care
neither do I
dun expect to hear anything from me for a while
-same here
Im done with this for a while
-same here
not taking anymore of this...got me all flared up....sheesh
-whatvere
-bye bye
-signed off at 10:15:27 PM. (<--- that was 2 seconds after the "bye bye")

[scorpio1690]

You're Charlie Brown, she's Lucy.

[sleeplessdragn]

Good grief...

Sorry I had to say that.

[Snapps]

Gotta get Linus and it's a party.