I want to be something I am not.

[UberMario]

Originally Posted by flipsta_lombax

Well, let's hope common-sense is present within you; you will know what is the right thing to do with her.

Common sense is very far from me, that's why I made this thread.

Like I said, I spat, slouched, looked at the ground when I walk. It never occurred to me that I should be doing something better than that until she stated it as something unusual that she hates seeing me do.

[flipsta_lombax]

High-metabolism people makes me lawl. I just don't know what to say to them but trying to excercise till they get a toned body to their preference, though I am not even sure if that is possible.

You know, if you start worrying about what good things you do with her, it might get noticable to her and might get obvious. She'll probably notice. Don't take this change into evasive action, but give it a gradual change. It'll be easier on you and it'll help her think you are changing for the better, but not in a overly drastic way.

Slouching is what a guy do =P. I am practically slouching right now. Just try adjusting when she is nearby; clearly, nobody is perfect.

EDIT:After reading your recent reply, I would think many girls get used to things differently. It may probably be her pet-peeve and she is trying to change you. Well, it's a good thing she opened your eyes however. It was a giant step to your new you. =P

[Chrissi]

I don't know about you guys, but I love small, cute things.

Small cute guys are cuuuuuuuuuute.

[lord_carbo]

Originally Posted by Chrissi

I don't know about you guys, but I love small, cute things.

Small cute guys are cuuuuuuuuuute.

Mine is small =/

[UberMario]

Originally Posted by Chrissi

I don't know about you guys, but I love small, cute things.

Small cute guys are cuuuuuuuuuute.

I prefer small girls.

Shox, I'm 5'5 and fit only kid's 16 pants (About 26/28). I have a toned body already, it's just.. small in general. I've no chest, but my arms are huge (for never working out) because my dad was an arm wrestler back in the day.

Chrissi, what do you want in a man that would wow you?

[DrugstoreCowboy]

This book was helpful to me. A little bit of comedy, but it got down to the facts of being a man.

The things that have made my relationship flourish was just basically, listening to EVERY word she said. Its helpful to remember things she says because weeks later, you could always surprise her with a gift of something she mentioned.

Example: My girlfriend says (while we were talking about food) "I love apples, expecially when they taste like they were just picked off of the tree."
2 weeks later, I tell her I have a surprise for her. We get in the car and I drive her to an apple orchard. +5 points for remembering what she said, and + 5 points for being cute/romantic.

Opening the car door, Hanging up coat/jacket, holding her hand and many other things like that are nice to do.

One other thing that I did that made her just fall in love with me was..(This was before we were dating) Me and my (now current)girlfriend just went to the movies. We got back to her house, I walked her to her door. Said I had a good time with her and wanted to go back out with her again. She said some things and we hugged and i gave her a kiss on the cheek and she went inside. I didnt leave her door, but instead I called her phone and said she forgot something and to come back to the door. She opens the door and sees me with my hands behind my back. She asks what she forgot and I gave her another hug and one more kiss and said "That." and she thought that was the most cutest thing of all time.

I have plenty more cute things that you can do if you want to hear them, but i know this post is superlong.

<3

[Chrissi]

Originally Posted by UberMario

I prefer small girls.

Shox, I'm 5'5 and fit only kid's 16 pants (About 26/28). I have a toned body already, it's just.. small in general. I've no chest, but my arms are huge (for never working out) because my dad was an arm wrestler back in the day.

Chrissi, what do you want in a man that would wow you?

Amazing logic, sincerity, and romantic in a non-misogynist way.

Originally Posted by DrugstoreCowboy

The things that have made my relationship flourish was just basically, listening to EVERY word she said. Its helpful to remember things she says because weeks later, you could always surprise her with a gift of something she mentioned.

Like that.

Originally Posted by DrugstoreCowboy

Opening the car door, Hanging up coat/jacket

And not like that.

[UberMario]

Originally Posted by DrugstoreCowboy

<3

<3.


Chrissi, non-misogynist way as in not chivalry ("women can do it on their own")?

Pff, I'm still going to do that.

Hmmm. How was my valentine's gift for her (The blue yukata with red lining and bow) from a scale of 1-10?

[DrugstoreCowboy]

i didnt hear about this gift..?

did you make a thread about it that i missed?

[Chrissi]

Originally Posted by UberMario

<3.


Chrissi, non-misogynist way as in not chivalry ("women can do it on their own")?

Pff, I'm still going to do that.

Hmmm. How was my valentine's gift for her (The blue yukata with red lining and bow) from a scale of 1-10?

Depends on her interests. To me, it would be 1000% yes. So like, 100 on a scale of 1 to 10.

[UberMario]

Yeah, she said that was the only yukata she would actually like, but she REALLY wants it and then she forgot about it, etc. I'm thinking of getting her a shamisen, they aren't that expensive. One with cat skin is like... 300$? I forget. Not bad at all since it has real cat skin.

DrugstoreCowboy, it was in a different thread.

[msbrunnettemickey]

I go for open-minded guys who have a great sense of humor =) I am also a sucker for sensitive and caring guys.

You really seem like a great guy and I know that change could be hard but it's great to see you try and you care to make someone happy. Be open about your feelings to her if you can and make sure you understand things that go through her life if they are good or bad but also give her space.

I bet you're going to be great =D

[Chrissi]

Cat... skin....?

1000% no. I don't know if she's anything like me, but I would go into a fit of rage and break up with a guy who gave me something made of cats.

[Chrissi]

Originally Posted by djshox

Yeah but I don't want to be just a "small, cute guy." I just find it unsettling if I ever would date a girl taller than me. Being taller just seems to give the impression of leadership, and being short sucks. Period.

So that means it's okay for men to lead, but not for women?

[pntballa18]

Men are 'supposed' to be the leaders. It doesn't matter if it's true or not, but if a man is not built like a leader, it might make him feel less masculine.

[Chrissi]

Originally Posted by pntballa18

Men are 'supposed' to be the leaders. It doesn't matter if it's true or not, but if a man is not built like a leader, it might make him feel less masculine.

I see what you were trying to say, but the problem is you're a blithering idiot and managed to sound like a misogynist fuck. Good work.

[Wlfwnd91]

I personally think that what works best is simply confidence in who you are as long as you're not a total douche at the wrong times. Like, for my girlfriend I'll pay for everything, open the door for her, and just do the basic courtesies. But, when we're just hanging out or talking online and not really doing anything, we can have the cruelest most disfunctional relationship you've ever seen if you're not in it. I make smart-ass remarks, I call her every insult in the book, and she does the same to me. And I'm not saying that's what you should do, but there's a balance and a time for everything, and once you find it you'll be much happier with yourself. And the time and place thing comes in with people in general as well.

I'm not really someone who's very polite, and I have my own reasons for that. But, if that's who you want to be, then I say kudos and good luck. However, just keep in mind, that there's a time and a place. Remember that girls like bad boys (as much as some may deny it) and they want someone who's a smartass sometimes. And with the whole security when walking with you through town thing...confidence man. A girl can smell confidence from a mile away. Good luck man! And despite what happens....EQ USED to own...Not anymore though =( (IMO)

[DrugstoreCowboy]

Originally Posted by Chrissi

I see what you were trying to say, but the problem is you're a blithering idiot and managed to sound like a misogynist fuck. Good work.

Ill attempt to help with what he meant.

Many different things show that the man "is in charge". Not saying that a woman cannot be in charge, but just looking at history.

If you are religious, you can find this in the bible. "A man will be judged on his household". Basically, teach your wife and kids the right way to live according to god. If you're not religious, you probably dont care about that as much.

Past History; Men provided for their wives. They were unable to have jobs, thus resulting in the men being in charge of the home. The wives usually looked over the children which held a great deal of responsibilty, but nowhere as near the amount of responsibility of paying property tax (back in those days)


I understand that times are changing, but I think (but i dont want to put words in his mouth) what shox is trying to say is that A man feels that he should be able to protect his wife/girlfriend. We want to be bigger and stronger and better off financially to show that we can handle any problems. I could be wrong, but i think thats where he was going with that.

[DrugstoreCowboy]

No problem

I guess I dont have to worry about this, because I stand at an average 5'11", weighing a little less than 200lbs, while my girlfriend is a nice 5'5" and 130lbs.

But my ex was 6'3". I was scared of her

[UberMario]

Yeah, and my lady would rather me be the tall guy that looks confident and sharp instead of the small cute guy. I am the small cute guy. I used to be perfectly fine with that, it's a whole different lifestyle, but I think I should change that. I'd like to be the guy in charge. It's never about men being overpowering women. It's men overpowering other men. Being the better guy for her, more protective for her. And another thing I'd like to point out about being a mature, gallant gentleman is old fashioned. Old fashioned is the man that goes to work to come back to the housewife that has supper ready for him and the kids. It's just how it is.