I need some good advice...

TACODUDE · 07-28-2004, 09:14 PM

Well, here's where the problem starts...

There's a girl...and we're the best of friends. We are very close and I've been hiding my feelings for her. It seems like she likes me too, but she got a boyfriend recently. So, I asked her if she would get with me. She replied, "I think it would be strange having my best friend as a boyfriend." So, of course I was heartbroken. But since that, we haven't really been the same. She doesn't notice me at the mall, she tries to avoid me, she doesn't answer my calls, so this question I ask you people at FFR:

What kind of a sammich do I make?

Varia · 07-28-2004, 09:25 PM

Sub sandwich.

Extra mustard and pepperocinis.

And sprinkle a little your partner in a relationship should be your best friend because if you aren't on the same level with your partner as you are with your best friend then why the hell is your partner your partner on just for some extra ZING!

Verruckter · 07-28-2004, 09:27 PM

ugh same thing happened to me... except that i didnt ask her out and all that... All i can say is that you're in the heck of a bad situation.

Afrobean · 07-28-2004, 09:36 PM

Go with the corn beef. You can never go wrong with a nice reuben.

OK seriously, I don't think I should be giving you advice because I'm in a similar situation except that I haven't confessed my feelings to her. That aside, I'd say if she doesn't feel the same as you, you should just move on.

Kenzya · 07-28-2004, 09:36 PM

Eh.. You can be her "best friend" (which seemed to be something she said to let you down easily at this point) until she becomes available.. or just screw her.. (not literally)

Atrius · 07-29-2004, 12:23 AM

tell her that you wont pressure her anymore, and that you can just forget about the whole thing, when she gets dumped, she'll come to you, then you'll have your chance...

evilbutterfly · 07-29-2004, 01:13 AM

"Look, I'm sorry I told you how I feel. I should have known better, but I'm just dumb and I don't think these things through. Just forget that I said anything, okay? I still want to be your friend, because you're a great person. Maybe you've just been busy or something, but it seems like you've been avoiding me. I don't want my feelings to mess with our friendship. Please, just act like that never happened, okay?"
"Oh, alright."

Then you talk to her and be her best friend and she'll complain to you about her bf, and you give her nice advice and slip in little compliments like "He sure is lucky to have somebody as great as you!" Nothing too serious, though, just friendly compliments. Keep this up until that asshole (and yes, he is an asshole. they're all assholes) dumps her and she'll be all said and you tell her how stupid the guy is for letting her go, because she's the greatest girl in the world and anybody with any sense would love her. She'll say you're sweet and you'll comfort her and she'll remember all the times you were awesome and she'll come around eventually.

Just remember, you gotta take it slow. Baby steps, man, baby steps.

jewpinthethird · 07-29-2004, 01:23 AM

Lesson #1: Never tell a girl how you feel about them.

Lesson #2: Start treating her like you dont care about her.

Anyway, that is what I learned from Freaks and Geeks (the tv show). Girls (for the most part) are stupid throughout High School. Guys too. And when it comes to High School relationships, you better be prepared for an ass load of Made for TV drama-bull shit.

Your sandwich should contain at least Beef Jerky, and Tabasco Sauce, the rest you can come up with.

**Freak83** · 07-29-2004, 10:19 AM

Saying that would make the situation awkword (sp?) no doubt. What I would do is make sure she can't ignore me. Just talk to her a lot more than often or things are definatly not going to get better.

Anticrombie0909 · 07-29-2004, 11:18 AM

All I can say is:

Smooooooooth.

First of all, why would you tell her that when she's got a boyfriend? Relationships never last long at our age, you should have just waited it out. Within 6 months she'll be single again, at the most. Secondly, you don't try to go out with close friends. It's not a good idea. Have you ever seen "When Harry Met Sally"? Rent it if you haven't, because it's a hilariously funny movie, but the guy in there does the exact same thing you do (well, similar).

What I would do is what EB suggested. Sit her down, get it out in the open. Otherwise you're going to have all this wierd tension in the air whenever you see her, you'll drift apart, and a year from now you won't remember each other's names.

TACODUDE · 07-29-2004, 07:26 PM

Thanks for the advice, but I asked for sammich ideas! I've been starving for over 24 hours!

emccky · 07-29-2004, 07:58 PM

pickle and mayonnaise sandwich for you.

staroceanfreakx · 07-29-2004, 08:02 PM

Sorry can't help you about the girl thing... I did the same exact thing except that it turns out she likes me too and now we are going out. So, um, this was pretty pointless. I can help on the "sammich" as you call it: make a hame cheese and mustard "sammich". Good stuff.

Afrobean · 07-29-2004, 08:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by staroceanfreakx

I did the same exact thing except that it turns out she likes me too and now we are going out.

Lucky bastard...

about this:

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr. TacoDude

Thanks for the advice, but I asked for sammich ideas! I've been starving for over 24 hours!

check this out:

Quote:

Originally Posted by me

Go with the corn beef. You can never go wrong with a nice reuben.

CypherToorima · 07-29-2004, 08:18 PM

Just go for the simple sammich. Cheese and some sandwhich meat with some mustard.

Eh, just be her friend. Nothin wrong with that. She might come around.

Simple sandwhiches, man.

guitar_dude15 · 07-29-2004, 08:40 PM

pb n j always is a gewd alternative besides where would we be in life wit out pb n j

TACODUDE · 07-29-2004, 09:11 PM

Thanks for all the sammich suggestions (Especially Afrobean, because I neglected him. [sorry!] ). Now I will combine them all to make the sickest think I've ever eaten!

**FishFishRevolution** · 07-29-2004, 11:52 PM

I love how half the people answered the sandwich question, and the other half addressed the chick problem. PBJ. Chicks dig jewlery and compliments.

freezypop · 08-1-2004, 07:50 PM

I don't know if the love advising is over, but I'll add this anyhow...

I am 19 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. We were best friends for a year of so before we started going out. So that proves that it is possible to date a good friend. But basically your biggest mistake was telling her straight out that you were interested, especially seeing that she has a boyfriend. If you still want to have any kind of relationship with her, just focus on getting to be friends again. From there you can work up to something more. Don't rush it and make sure that you don't try to discuss it again for a while, because she clearly is shy and doesn't want to talk about it.

Afrobean · 08-1-2004, 09:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by FishFishRevolution

I love how half the people answered the sandwich question, and the other half addressed the chick problem. PBJ. Chicks dig jewlery and compliments.

hehe... I covered myself by addressing both problems.

07-28-2004, 09:27 PM	#3
Verruckter FFR Player Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Canada, with the cool people! Posts: 2,707	ugh same thing happened to me... except that i didnt ask her out and all that... All i can say is that you're in the heck of a bad situation. __________________ Truth lies in loneliness, When hope is long gone by -Blind Guardian, The Soulforged Image removed for size violation.

07-28-2004, 09:36 PM	#4
Afrobean Admiral in the Red Army Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: the moon Age: 36 Posts: 13,262	Go with the corn beef. You can never go wrong with a nice reuben. OK seriously, I don't think I should be giving you advice because I'm in a similar situation except that I haven't confessed my feelings to her. That aside, I'd say if she doesn't feel the same as you, you should just move on. __________________

07-28-2004, 09:36 PM	#5
Kenzya FFR Player Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Illicorn Posts: 3,411	Eh.. You can be her "best friend" (which seemed to be something she said to let you down easily at this point) until she becomes available.. or just screw her.. (not literally) __________________ One Time I Sucked Six in a Row (Locust Toybox Remix) Write to me Stick Stickly p.o. box 963 New York City New York State 10108 I'm Still Alive

07-29-2004, 12:23 AM	#6
Atrius FFR Player Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 24	tell her that you wont pressure her anymore, and that you can just forget about the whole thing, when she gets dumped, she'll come to you, then you'll have your chance... __________________ Trigun, Bebop, Family Guy, and Futurama Rock! Holy Grail rocks too... Please help to stop Microsoft, soon they will have \"Microsoft For Nuclear Weapons\". Then the world will be doomed!

07-29-2004, 01:13 AM	#7
evilbutterfly FFR Player Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Small town, TN Age: 37 Posts: 5,784	"Look, I'm sorry I told you how I feel. I should have known better, but I'm just dumb and I don't think these things through. Just forget that I said anything, okay? I still want to be your friend, because you're a great person. Maybe you've just been busy or something, but it seems like you've been avoiding me. I don't want my feelings to mess with our friendship. Please, just act like that never happened, okay?" "Oh, alright." Then you talk to her and be her best friend and she'll complain to you about her bf, and you give her nice advice and slip in little compliments like "He sure is lucky to have somebody as great as you!" Nothing too serious, though, just friendly compliments. Keep this up until that asshole (and yes, he is an asshole. they're all assholes) dumps her and she'll be all said and you tell her how stupid the guy is for letting her go, because she's the greatest girl in the world and anybody with any sense would love her. She'll say you're sweet and you'll comfort her and she'll remember all the times you were awesome and she'll come around eventually. Just remember, you gotta take it slow. Baby steps, man, baby steps. __________________ So I've gone completely slack-ass and haven't done any work on creating games. =( In less-depressing news, I got a job for an online business (which sells non-electronic games, of all things!) which has taught me a lot about marketing online and all that jazz. So now I'm on Twitter @NoahWright. And I write the blog for their website. Plus I do cool programming in-house that you'll never see. =O

07-28-2004, 09:14 PM	#1
TACODUDE FFR Player Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: The Moon Posts: 394	I need some good advice... Well, here's where the problem starts... There's a girl...and we're the best of friends. We are very close and I've been hiding my feelings for her. It seems like she likes me too, but she got a boyfriend recently. So, I asked her if she would get with me. She replied, "I think it would be strange having my best friend as a boyfriend." So, of course I was heartbroken. But since that, we haven't really been the same. She doesn't notice me at the mall, she tries to avoid me, she doesn't answer my calls, so this question I ask you people at FFR: What kind of a sammich do I make? __________________ ZOMG I\'M BAK GUYZ LOL I LOVE POKEMON! LOL

07-28-2004, 09:25 PM	#2
Varia FFR Player Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: San Diego, bitches Age: 37 Posts: 1,713	Sub sandwich. Extra mustard and pepperocinis. And sprinkle a little your partner in a relationship should be your best friend because if you aren't on the same level with your partner as you are with your best friend then why the hell is your partner your partner on just for some extra ZING! __________________ GB CHALLENGE IS HOMOSEXUAL ARE YOU HOMOSEXUAL? I THINK SO

07-29-2004, 01:23 AM	#8
jewpinthethird (The Fat's Sabobah) Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Palm Springs, California Posts: 11,711	Lesson #1: Never tell a girl how you feel about them. Lesson #2: Start treating her like you dont care about her. Anyway, that is what I learned from Freaks and Geeks (the tv show). Girls (for the most part) are stupid throughout High School. Guys too. And when it comes to High School relationships, you better be prepared for an ass load of Made for TV drama-bull shit. Your sandwich should contain at least Beef Jerky, and Tabasco Sauce, the rest you can come up with.

07-29-2004, 10:19 AM	#9
Freak83 FFR Simfile Author Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Toronto Posts: 3,281	Saying that would make the situation awkword (sp?) no doubt. What I would do is make sure she can't ignore me. Just talk to her a lot more than often or things are definatly not going to get better.

07-29-2004, 11:18 AM	#10
Anticrombie0909 FFR Player Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 4,683	All I can say is: Smooooooooth. First of all, why would you tell her that when she's got a boyfriend? Relationships never last long at our age, you should have just waited it out. Within 6 months she'll be single again, at the most. Secondly, you don't try to go out with close friends. It's not a good idea. Have you ever seen "When Harry Met Sally"? Rent it if you haven't, because it's a hilariously funny movie, but the guy in there does the exact same thing you do (well, similar). What I would do is what EB suggested. Sit her down, get it out in the open. Otherwise you're going to have all this wierd tension in the air whenever you see her, you'll drift apart, and a year from now you won't remember each other's names.

07-29-2004, 07:26 PM	#11
TACODUDE FFR Player Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: The Moon Posts: 394	Thanks for the advice, but I asked for sammich ideas! I've been starving for over 24 hours! __________________ ZOMG I\'M BAK GUYZ LOL I LOVE POKEMON! LOL

07-29-2004, 07:58 PM	#12
emccky Banned Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: word Posts: 4,811	pickle and mayonnaise sandwich for you.

07-29-2004, 08:18 PM	#15
CypherToorima Boss of all bosses Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Phone Home! Age: 35 Posts: 2,452	Just go for the simple sammich. Cheese and some sandwhich meat with some mustard. Eh, just be her friend. Nothin wrong with that. She might come around. Simple sandwhiches, man. __________________ I'm a figantic gaggot

07-29-2004, 08:40 PM	#16
guitar_dude15 FFR Player Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 4	pb n j always is a gewd alternative besides where would we be in life wit out pb n j

07-29-2004, 09:11 PM	#17
TACODUDE FFR Player Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: The Moon Posts: 394	Thanks for all the sammich suggestions (Especially Afrobean, because I neglected him. [sorry!] ). Now I will combine them all to make the sickest think I've ever eaten! __________________ ZOMG I\'M BAK GUYZ LOL I LOVE POKEMON! LOL

07-29-2004, 11:52 PM	#18
FishFishRevolution GotR Creator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Vi sitter här i venten Current Band: The National Age: 36 Posts: 7,251	I love how half the people answered the sandwich question, and the other half addressed the chick problem. PBJ. Chicks dig jewlery and compliments. __________________

08-1-2004, 07:50 PM	#19
freezypop FFR Player Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Rhode Posts: 11	I don't know if the love advising is over, but I'll add this anyhow... I am 19 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. We were best friends for a year of so before we started going out. So that proves that it is possible to date a good friend. But basically your biggest mistake was telling her straight out that you were interested, especially seeing that she has a boyfriend. If you still want to have any kind of relationship with her, just focus on getting to be friends again. From there you can work up to something more. Don't rush it and make sure that you don't try to discuss it again for a while, because she clearly is shy and doesn't want to talk about it.

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