How deal with the Death of a parent.

jono2007 · 05-28-2008, 09:59 PM

help me somebody.

**sumzup** · 05-28-2008, 10:03 PM

Time will heal everything.

Edit: Whoa, I thought I was in Chit Chat for some reason. Okay, more forum appropriate post necessary.

While I personally haven't had to deal with one of my parents dying, recently my maternal grandfather died, and while I was obviously shocked, it affected my mother much more. All I can say is that she talked with her siblings and my grandmother a lot and didn't really bottle it up too much. That's probably a good thing, as letting out one's emotions earlier is better than letting them explode at some later date. And ultimately, it really is time that helps the most. There's only so much talking with other people can do. Slowly, one's pain will be dulled and it'll be easier to deal with such an unexpected and painful event.

bluguerrilla · 05-28-2008, 10:24 PM

Talk to your family and friends about it. Don't hold stuff in.

The pain may never go away but neither will your happy memories.

I'm sorry for your loss.

omgitznpv · 05-28-2008, 10:25 PM

So this has been the reason, huh?

As blu said, talk to others. Try to get some help or counseling; it may seriously do some good for you. If you just sit there and feel bad about it, nothing positive will come out of it easily.

**x After Dawn x** · 05-28-2008, 11:47 PM

A school counselor is your best bet for counseling. Don't feel shy to let ago your feelings; if you don't, then problems cannot be healed. Just as others have said, talk to your family and friends; let all of your feelings go. I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

Zamiax · 05-29-2008, 07:11 AM

At this point you would want to here something like, You know your parent loved you and they would want you to move on and only remember the parts of life that you enjoyed with them. Im sorry for your loss, but itll get better

**Mans0n** · 05-29-2008, 09:08 AM

Aww dude that sucks.
i wish there was someway that someone could make you feel better.
but i wud say a theraoist maybe?
thats their job, and they keep secrets.

**phe0nixblade** · 05-29-2008, 09:21 AM

Wait what I'm obviously missing something. o.O
If his parent died, then I am really sorry man, as everyone said get people to talk to and just try and go on with life, it will be hard but you can't fix it.

**reuben_tate** · 05-29-2008, 01:13 PM

I am very sorry for your loss. Just try to remember the good times you had with your parent and it is a good idea that you talk about your feelings to someone that you know will understand, trust me this will make you feel a whole lot better. Tip

on't feel ashamed to cry, its a natrual thing, frick all those sexist bastardsthat say men can't cry.

**Megmo** · 05-29-2008, 02:26 PM

I'm sorry for your loss as well. My father passed away when I was very young, sixteen months actually. I have no memory of him at all and I have known nothing except a life in a single parent family. Honestly, you have to remember the good times you had and appreciate the fact that you actually had time to spend with them, but you cannot dwell on it obsessively either. I also know several people who have lost parents as well from suicide and cancer, and no matter how bad the situation was, they all came back to being themselves as time passed with the comfort of friends and family. They help, and you also have to realize that your parent would want you to be happy and you should never feel it would be an insult to their memory to try and proceed on to a happy life again.

thunderstrike687 · 05-29-2008, 02:29 PM

Im really sorry to hear that man. A friend of mine's dad was killed about a month ago. I can remember how messed up he was. Its really hard to lose someone so close to you. I really dont know what to say, not having dealt with it myself, but I do know he started going to group therapy sessions for people who have had a death in the family. I would recommend you seek some kind of outlet to express how you feel.

Sorry to hear about your loss. I really hope you find some way of dealing and coping with the situation.

**-paexaea-** · 05-29-2008, 02:51 PM

As mean as it sounds, it is true. Asking what to do with that serious of a question on a DDR simulator website isn't exactly the brighest choice.

Just talk it out with your peers and go to therapy. Don't hold **** like that in. That's the only advice I can give you.

**jaz_pup** · 05-29-2008, 03:38 PM

Wow that sucks man. it can be hard when that happens. i lost my mom when i was 16. as long as you don't like think about it constantly, the pain goes away eventually. course you'll always miss them tho and wish they could see everything good that's goin on, but still, it'll be ok with time like everyone says.
don't expect to ever forget about it tho, never wanna forget a lost parent
hope things get better
also might wanna try things fun to distract you...i actually joined ffr right around the time my mom died
just relax and try to enjoy things

moches · 05-29-2008, 05:00 PM

First of all, very sorry to hear about your loss.
But don't deny it. The further you hold it off, the worse it will be when you finally face it.
Talk to a trusted friend. Remember the happy times. Try to know that your parent is up there, watching for you. **** happens, but you don't need to take it alone.

megmeg06 · 05-29-2008, 05:36 PM

well first of all despite what some are syaing time won't heal everything. If you really loved them/her/him then you'll always notice their absence and feel something, but it'll get easier and it'll be a dulled pain. More than likely sorrow will fill your life for a couple of weeks, but thne you have to move on, take baby steps to feeling better and don't just push down all of your feelings. Even if you're not ready to talk yet you should still write them down and burn them or tell them to a pet of the empty air when no one's around. And sometimes when people try to help you don't shut them down because some of them know what they're talking about and it helps.

jono2007 · 05-29-2008, 06:38 PM

Thank you everybody, I'm just trying to enjoy every bit of time I'm with friends, because I used to take life for granted, and now I don't because I saw how easy it ends.

I guess it's just that I've never lost anyone so it feels really weird, like a sense of forgetfulness you have trying to recall a lost memory.

Mookage · 05-29-2008, 06:44 PM

My friends mom died a few months ago. He took about a month off school and took therepy. He's obviously still upset and missing her but he isn't a nervous wreck (but that could be because she was sick for like 5 years).

Very sorry for your loss.

P.S. RIP Angie

sameoldbloodrush! · 05-29-2008, 06:49 PM

I know how it is to lose a parent. My father died when I was in 5th grade I believe it was, which was a long time ago. It wasn't exactly.. of good reason either. It hurts extremely bad, but the thing that pulled me through is knowing that they're still with you, and you still do have people that love you. You can always gain comfort from your friends and family. But, I found that counselours/etc.. don't help a bit. You'll continuously hear "Are you blaming yourself for the death of your parent?" "No, I'm not. Screw off."
Just pull through, and if you ever need someone to talk to (though I don't know you) you can talk to me.

I'm so very sorry for your loss, knowing what it's like.

05-28-2008, 09:59 PM	#1
jono2007 FFR Player Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: NJ Age: 30 Posts: 516	How deal with the Death of a parent. help me somebody.

05-28-2008, 10:03 PM	#2
sumzup (+ (- (/ (* 1 2) 3) 4) 5) Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Seattle Age: 33 Posts: 1,398	Time will heal everything. Edit: Whoa, I thought I was in Chit Chat for some reason. Okay, more forum appropriate post necessary. While I personally haven't had to deal with one of my parents dying, recently my maternal grandfather died, and while I was obviously shocked, it affected my mother much more. All I can say is that she talked with her siblings and my grandmother a lot and didn't really bottle it up too much. That's probably a good thing, as letting out one's emotions earlier is better than letting them explode at some later date. And ultimately, it really is time that helps the most. There's only so much talking with other people can do. Slowly, one's pain will be dulled and it'll be easier to deal with such an unexpected and painful event. Last edited by sumzup; 05-28-2008 at 10:44 PM..

05-28-2008, 10:24 PM	#3
bluguerrilla FFR Player Join Date: Apr 2006 Age: 41 Posts: 3,966	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. Talk to your family and friends about it. Don't hold stuff in. The pain may never go away but neither will your happy memories. I'm sorry for your loss. __________________

05-29-2008, 07:11 AM	#6
Zamiax FFR Player Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: New Jersey Age: 31 Posts: 231	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. At this point you would want to here something like, You know your parent loved you and they would want you to move on and only remember the parts of life that you enjoyed with them. Im sorry for your loss, but itll get better

05-29-2008, 09:08 AM	#7
Mans0n Sun and Stars Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Californ.i.a. Age: 29 Posts: 2,907	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. Aww dude that sucks. i wish there was someway that someone could make you feel better. but i wud say a theraoist maybe? thats their job, and they keep secrets. __________________ http://www.facebook.com/?ref=logo#!/Br0wnbread Check out my band profile and give it a like! :P

05-29-2008, 09:21 AM	#8
phe0nixblade Praise the sun mofo Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Lordran Age: 32 Posts: 4,281	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. Wait what I'm obviously missing something. o.O If his parent died, then I am really sorry man, as everyone said get people to talk to and just try and go on with life, it will be hard but you can't fix it. __________________

05-29-2008, 02:26 PM	#10
Megmo FFR Veteran Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 250	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. I'm sorry for your loss as well. My father passed away when I was very young, sixteen months actually. I have no memory of him at all and I have known nothing except a life in a single parent family. Honestly, you have to remember the good times you had and appreciate the fact that you actually had time to spend with them, but you cannot dwell on it obsessively either. I also know several people who have lost parents as well from suicide and cancer, and no matter how bad the situation was, they all came back to being themselves as time passed with the comfort of friends and family. They help, and you also have to realize that your parent would want you to be happy and you should never feel it would be an insult to their memory to try and proceed on to a happy life again. __________________

05-29-2008, 02:51 PM	#12
-paexaea- ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: skjandlurkelandia² Age: 33 Posts: 4,605	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. As mean as it sounds, it is true. Asking what to do with that serious of a question on a DDR simulator website isn't exactly the brighest choice. Just talk it out with your peers and go to therapy. Don't hold **** like that in. That's the only advice I can give you. __________________ See you, Space Cowboy.

05-29-2008, 03:38 PM	#13
jaz_pup FFR Veteran Join Date: Jan 2005 Age: 36 Posts: 139	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. Wow that sucks man. it can be hard when that happens. i lost my mom when i was 16. as long as you don't like think about it constantly, the pain goes away eventually. course you'll always miss them tho and wish they could see everything good that's goin on, but still, it'll be ok with time like everyone says. don't expect to ever forget about it tho, never wanna forget a lost parent hope things get better also might wanna try things fun to distract you...i actually joined ffr right around the time my mom died just relax and try to enjoy things

05-29-2008, 05:00 PM	#14
moches FFR Player Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 28 Posts: 3,996	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. First of all, very sorry to hear about your loss. But don't deny it. The further you hold it off, the worse it will be when you finally face it. Talk to a trusted friend. Remember the happy times. Try to know that your parent is up there, watching for you. **** happens, but you don't need to take it alone.

05-29-2008, 05:36 PM	#15
megmeg06 FFR Player Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Virginia Posts: 29	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. well first of all despite what some are syaing time won't heal everything. If you really loved them/her/him then you'll always notice their absence and feel something, but it'll get easier and it'll be a dulled pain. More than likely sorrow will fill your life for a couple of weeks, but thne you have to move on, take baby steps to feeling better and don't just push down all of your feelings. Even if you're not ready to talk yet you should still write them down and burn them or tell them to a pet of the empty air when no one's around. And sometimes when people try to help you don't shut them down because some of them know what they're talking about and it helps. __________________ "Is all that we see or seem but a dream within a dream?" ~Edgar Allan Poe~ ♥Megan♥

05-29-2008, 06:38 PM	#16
jono2007 FFR Player Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: NJ Age: 30 Posts: 516	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. Thank you everybody, I'm just trying to enjoy every bit of time I'm with friends, because I used to take life for granted, and now I don't because I saw how easy it ends. I guess it's just that I've never lost anyone so it feels really weird, like a sense of forgetfulness you have trying to recall a lost memory.

05-29-2008, 06:44 PM	#17
Mookage FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Winnipeg, Manitoba Age: 30 Posts: 227	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. My friends mom died a few months ago. He took about a month off school and took therepy. He's obviously still upset and missing her but he isn't a nervous wreck (but that could be because she was sick for like 5 years). Very sorry for your loss. P.S. RIP Angie

05-29-2008, 06:49 PM	#18
sameoldbloodrush! FFR Player Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Delaware Posts: 205	Re: How deal with the Death of a parent. I know how it is to lose a parent. My father died when I was in 5th grade I believe it was, which was a long time ago. It wasn't exactly.. of good reason either. It hurts extremely bad, but the thing that pulled me through is knowing that they're still with you, and you still do have people that love you. You can always gain comfort from your friends and family. But, I found that counselours/etc.. don't help a bit. You'll continuously hear "Are you blaming yourself for the death of your parent?" "No, I'm not. Screw off." Just pull through, and if you ever need someone to talk to (though I don't know you) you can talk to me. I'm so very sorry for your loss, knowing what it's like.

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