what is your opinion of teenage/children dating

[DN_Catastrophic]

Originally Posted by Relambrien

You make the assumption that all 12 and 13 year olds are too immature to date.

As devonin would say, "All generalizations are false."

I meant 12 and younger not just that one age...

[devonin]

I was 13 when I started dating, I was 14 when I first had sex. In both of these situations (while in retrospect I was not nearly as mature as I am now) even with a highly critical view of my own childhood, I believe I was mature enough at those ages to make reasoned decisions about those things. I give the credit for that maturity to my family treating me with respect and answering my questions about any aspect of life frankly, openly and with an eye towards educating me well to make the correct decisions in life.

[kylehaas]

Originally Posted by greekanilater

what is your opinion of teenage/children dating? my opinion is yet to be properly formed so i am asking to inform my self on the thing i have yet to think of... but nonetheless i think it is stupid for teenagers and children to be dating, some of my friends are dating just for sex... well they used to be my friends... my other friends are dating for some unknown reason but it's obviously not going to be permanent. dating with out future obligations is pointless... plus we are not mature enough to realize that we should be waiting for our lives to be set up a little more before we take a chance to become apart of someone elses.

Wow. That's awesome.
You are very right, kids nowadays don't know anything about being mature.
Maturity sure as heck isn't based on how many girlfriends or boyfriends you have,
I'm sorry to break it so suddenly to some of you.

Oh well. I don't need to worry about my love life anyway.
Unlike EVERYONE ELSE, I'm just fine with waiting until I find someone REALLY special.
I just hope that person is smart enough to wait for me... =(

Keep in mind, ALL OF YOU, that if you ever plan on getting married, then your future spouse is somewhere out there... Would you like them to "wait" for you? Would it make you mad if you knew that your future spouse with someone else?

[devonin]

Would you like them to "wait" for you? Would it make you mad if you knew that your future spouse with someone else?

Well...I guess incredibly hubristic selfishness is also a good way to go.

[Darkmonkey]

Well, Ive been going out with my girlfriend for longer then a year now. And every once in a while have mature discussions about the future of our relationship. We talk about whether or not its just a "high school fling", or if its something more serious. We also openly tell eachother our feelings in a mature way so that neither of us are getting hurt. We both know what we want out of this relationship, and one day i'll be able to say that i married my high school sweetheart.

[Chrissi]

Originally Posted by Darkmonkey

Well, Ive been going out with my girlfriend for longer then a year now. And every once in a while have mature discussions about the future of our relationship. We talk about whether or not its just a "high school fling", or if its something more serious. We also openly tell eachother our feelings in a mature way so that neither of us are getting hurt. We both know what we want out of this relationship, and one day i'll be able to say that i married my high school sweetheart.

How old are you? You know, I was in that situation. It lasted 3 and a half years. We were very open and we felt that we'd be together forever. However, things came up.

It happens. You might want to not be so sure of it yet. Age is a factor. Some people can manage to marry their high school dates, but even when they do last awhile, sometimes they just sort of.... peter out.

[RB_IcePh0enix]

Originally Posted by Zageron

I didn't bother reading the whole thing. But...

I think dating in the ages of 8 - 13 is fine. It's just kids copying older kids, so they can get used to it in life.

Um...what? I'm 13 and I actually like girls. I don't just go out with them because I'm copying off older teens.

Back on subject, unless you're dating somebody you know you're going to be with for the rest of your life dating is really just a learning experience and a chance to have fun. Sure, you can have fun sometimes with your same sex friends when you're a teenager but a lot of times you just wish you were with a girl you can hang out with. I've been friends with a girl for over a year now and I finally pulled up the courage to ask her out. We're going to the movies next week and I'm sure I'm going to have a fun time. I'm not going to get laid or fall in love but I'm going to have a fun time. Teen dating is absolutely ok in my opinion.

Oh and Kyle, most teens don't go out with eachother to seem more "mature". They basically either go out to have fun or get laid.

[DarkVampiress21]

Huhhh.. I don't know. I'm 15, & I've been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months (he's 17) and he's my first boyfriend too.. We haven't done anything (sex, if you didn't get that) but we're absolutely in love with each other. And we talk everything out too. We've only been mad at each other maybe, twice. If we never dated each other, we'd definitely still be best friends.

That's my reason for being with him, because we get along so great.

[kylehaas]

Originally Posted by devonin

Well...I guess incredibly hubristic selfishness is also a good way to go.

Oh, yeah. I'm selfish.
But,
I do have enough good sense to care about others.

[kylehaas]

Originally Posted by RB_IcePh0enix

Oh and Kyle, most teens don't go out with eachother to seem more "mature". They basically either go out to have fun or get laid.

Sorry for the double post, but I didn't see this and don't know how to change my posts...
Anyhow- THAT! RIGHT THERE! That's what I'm talking about!
You DON'T go out to seem mature, but you must BE mature!
And, personally, I would never go out for "fun" or to "get laid."

That ruins the word love, in all of it's magical entirety. XD

[DarkVampiress21]

I don't think he mentioned the word love.

[Cavernio]

If I found out a kid of mine were having sex at 14, I'd be upset, mature or not. You're not looking after yourself, and hence any hurt you cause yourself is immediately a burden put on your parents. Safe sex or no, possibilities for diseases, children, and broken hearts still exist.

[Nezeru]

Originally Posted by greekanilater

what is your opinion of teenage/children dating? my opinion is yet to be properly formed so i am asking to inform my self on the thing i have yet to think of... but nonetheless i think it is stupid for teenagers and children to be dating, some of my friends are dating just for sex... well they used to be my friends... my other friends are dating for some unknown reason but it's obviously not going to be permanent. dating with out future obligations is pointless... plus we are not mature enough to realize that we should be waiting for our lives to be set up a little more before we take a chance to become apart of someone elses.

'My opinion is yet to be properly formed so I am asking to inform myself on ...'

Why do you state this and then try to contradict everything everyone else says?

Now on to the topic: I started dating at 15. My first forays were somewhat immature, but for the most part I think people are fully capable of dating from around 13. Different people have different mindsets. Honestly, I think some people should never date at all because some people should never grow up.

Many people seem to equate dating with sex. This is simply not the case. While in the majority of adult relationships, sex is involved, this isn't true of younger teens and children. I'd say many people 16 or older are mature enough to make their own decisions regarding sex and dating, but of course this isn't true for all, and maybe isn't even true for most.

[aroruA]

Under fourteen years of age, children shouldn't be dating, at that age children are quite simply too immature. While a teenager, there are much more important things then just being focused on dating people. I mean, sure it's okay to have a girlfriend or a boyfriend, but if you get too wrapped up in the whole dating thing then it isn't exactly beneficial.

I don't see dating between teenagers generally as a bad thing, however if it turns to a sexual aspect then that is a different story. Safe-sex is one thing, however there are still risks of disease and pregnancy.

[Lillum]

I agree, I mean dating when your young can be very benificail to future social skills.

I know people who dated in primary school and they are more confident in themselves and are generally are more social, whereas people who wait for that 'one' person tend to be more shy and have a low confidence level. Granted there are some exeptions to this - there always is.

But again theres the risk of under-age sex and pregnancy but while teen pregnancies are one the rise (in some parts of the world) it's still a very minute possibility in the grand scheme of things.

Relationships when your young aren't long term (usually) or serious, mainly it's to brag to your friends and other people and overall it helps children grow into themselves, and about being 'mature' enough I don't think most adults are mature enough either.

[Cavernio]

Originally Posted by Lillum

I know people who dated in primary school and they are more confident in themselves and are generally are more social, whereas people who wait for that 'one' person tend to be more shy and have a low confidence level.

That they're confident and not shy probably allowed them the opportunity to date.

[Lillum]

I said more confident and more shy.

I didn't mean that their confidence/shyness is wholy based on whether they dated in primary school

[Paperleaf]

Well, I don't see anything wrong with teenagers simply dating- it's expected, really. But, definately not just for having sex. I think sex is something only for mature people who know and trust each other to consider.

[devonin]

You ought to consider changing your font size to be the same as the rest of the forum users, the smaller size makes it really hard to read what you're saying, and I shudder at what it would be like if you made a long post.

I tried simply forum messaging you about this, but since you have all forms of being contacted disabled, I have to make do.

[FallenXxRaven]

I think that just dating is ok for teenagers. Children dating doesnt even really exsist because until your about 10 your "girlfriend" is just any girl you are friends with, and they probably still have "cooties".
Teenagers around puberty, however, start to get truly interested and thats where hugging and kissing come in. But it is still ok to just hug and kiss but as for sex it sould wait until you know youll be with someone for a long time, but thats for the premarital sex thread.
But yeah, its fine as long as you dont go screw like jackrabbits every 5 minutes you are alone.