06-26-2018, 11:48 AM | #61 |
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06-26-2018, 11:58 AM | #62 | |
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i've never attended a LGBTQA+ pride rally but they do have different meanings; i think it's fine to celebrate both in the same rally and to celebrate them separately as long as people understand both terms and celebrate everyone; also i think wikipedia probably defines human sexuality better: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_sexuality
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06-26-2018, 12:06 PM | #63 |
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Here's my question for Drizz (sorry if it's a hard question):
Is there anything you would do differently if you were able to start your transition completely over? As in, is there anything that didn't go as well as you had hoped or that you wish you hadn't done? If you were giving someone else advice, what would you tell to avoid doing? |
06-26-2018, 12:15 PM | #64 | |
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or The point of the thread is to establish that common ground in the first place by asking questions. |
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06-26-2018, 12:59 PM | #65 | |
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i would transition much earlier before i actually went through male puberty and i would tell all my family and friends and everyone in my classes in school including all my teachers because some friends i have still don't know i'm transgender since i haven't seen them in like 10 years and i want everyone i know personally to know i'm transgender i didn't tell my dad and brother i'm transgender until 10th grade in 2009 or 2010 and even though i kept telling my mom i felt closer to girls she thought it was just a phase and didn't really believe me until after i started transitioning when college started i just think things could have been different if i told my family earlier because my mom still mourns "the old me" because before i transitioned i used to be a lot more passive and antisocial and reserved on the outside except with my best friend and now i'm a lot more opinionated and expressive and i share my emotions more often so i'm a completely different person according to her and she said she had to accept me as a new person my brother accepted me right away but he didn't want me to go near his friends or school after i started transitioning because he was worried they wouldn't want to be his friend anymore if they knew i was his sister and i still looked like a man back then and i was wearing feminine clothes; after a few years though he didn't care as much what other people would think and he let me go near his friends and school again my dad thinks the hormones made my thought-process cloudy and i'm less logical and less able to understand what people are saying because apparently i used to understand him a lot more and was able to have intelligent conversations with him; maybe if i took hormones a lot earlier he wouldn't think that also when i visited my high school after i started transitioning in college i told almost all of my teachers a teacher from high school said something like "you can be whatever you want to be" and some other teachers thought i was weird and a student from marching band and drumline made fun of me i would also see an endocrinologist instead of a urologist because my urologist prescribes hormones and checks my levels but he's not a hormone specialist and he's a well-known doctor so i can only see him once every six months or even later i would also be able to express myself and i wouldn't have to hide how i felt for so long
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06-26-2018, 01:09 PM | #66 | ||
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for op as best as i can tell the thread operates a mechanism by which she can force herself to deal with still unresolved inconsistencies in her subconscious Quote:
the process of inviting questions from others is a substitute for questions she doesn't want to ask herself or doesn't know how to ask herself and the rationalized answers will serve to reinforce strong positions and correct internal conflicts or equivocations either through rationalization or emotional reaction towards one extreme or another im not here to look smart- that would require that on some level i ascribe any value to the opinions of others, i'm here to reaffirm my own belief that you're all stupid and i do that by telling you what i think and why i think it and gauging your responses whatever else the rest of you do or don't take away from that is up to you Last edited by MinaciousGrace; 06-26-2018 at 01:10 PM.. |
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06-26-2018, 01:36 PM | #67 | ||
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does this mean that, when surgery is all said and done, you are given a functional womb and could give birth?
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06-26-2018, 01:42 PM | #68 |
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Personally I think people just get bored and justify their struggles by sharing them with others because if we don't share our goals and accomplishmentments they're meaningless but they're meaningless anyways, I doubt there's some ulterior motive to this thread, maybe they're just bored.
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06-26-2018, 01:44 PM | #69 | |
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they're just things i feel sad and left out about and don't accept so that's why i included not having periods and not being able to become pregnant as part of my internal struggle
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06-26-2018, 01:55 PM | #70 | |
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well that is what we expected, thankfully we're not grossly behind with the times.
it was still a point of discussion here to think how we would/could/should react *when* science gets to that point. I see that most of my confusion and perhaps even disapproval of the notion of transgenderism still revolves around sexual reproduction, but I suppose that's only a matter of time for science to improve to that point, which may well be in our lifetimes. so for my own acceptance, better start early?
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06-26-2018, 02:06 PM | #71 | |
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06-26-2018, 02:24 PM | #72 | |
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06-26-2018, 02:50 PM | #73 | ||
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so at least from her perspective it doesn't look like a wonderful thing :P
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06-26-2018, 03:34 PM | #74 | |
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2) Technology obsoletes the need for biological differentiation because it shifts the onus for survival to factors external to human physiology 3) It would be illogical to assume that gender roles based on biological differentiation would be efficient appropriate or healthy when the underlying factors that determined them no longer apply 4) Since gender is a social construct we are free to evaluate it at any time and determine how and if it can be adapted to best function within whatever current social framework we have 5) We should be able to do that which leads me to a) we can't do that if you refuse premise 1 because the functional justification for change is now obviated. You're back to we must change for the sake of change versus we must not change for the sake of not changing which goes nowhere. b) we can't do if people revert to the "gender is whatever your mind says it is" argument because that premise denies the purpose of gender in the first place as well as any discussion of it, which is more or less the same argument as "because the bible said so" which again leads you nowhere c) we can't do it if people skip steps 1-4 and jump right into what gender should or shouldn't be because it's illogical to construct a framework for something without understanding what it is or what it should do which you would think would raise a few red flags except it just leads to d) everyone ends up with a nebulous, individualized rationales for what they want or what they want to see happen which results in personalized definitions of terms and then personalized constructions of concepts based on those terms and then more personalized terms based on those concepts, then they extend those concepts, terms, definitions, and ultimately their perspective to everyone around them without considering how other perspectives might be different resulting in e) a distribution of thoughts and definitions that collapses into groups with the most commonality and sequesters dissenting thought into other similarly homogeneous spheres which means f) the major shifts in the distribution occur not from members of each sphere being convinced to move, but by differential population growth within each sphere until one reaches a critical mass and can impose its ideology on the others; basically the dumbest possible way to effect any change in society which brings me back to g) we need a formal, consistent, agreed upon set of definitions and rhetoric and be able to tie our viewpoints and perspectives to a rational justification that extends beyond the existing barriers which we can't do if h) we don't have any rational justifications and our perspective is based on tautological semantics which anyone can poke an infinite amount of holes into that you refuse to acknowledge im not going to sit here and link mit articles on how social change is most efficient bottom up instead of top down because that should be inherently obvious it doesn't matter what the purpose of the thread is or whomever's perspective coming into it is but if the rest of you can't discuss the topic in a way that someone like scintill who is open to persuasion but can't find the thread of logic to be not only convinced, but capable of convincing others like himself then you're complicit in effecting circumstance f) by refusing to entertain g) by holding onto h). In other words you're placing individual feel-good emotional expeditiousness and affirmation in front of societies affirmation of people like you, which stymies the progress of the latter, which drags out discrimination and bigotry against the former, which reinforces the barriers that everyone puts up which disproportionately damages the population seeking affirmation which ultimately ends up damaging you. Which is stupid. Last edited by MinaciousGrace; 06-26-2018 at 03:50 PM.. |
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06-26-2018, 03:35 PM | #75 |
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06-26-2018, 03:55 PM | #76 |
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well i want a period because most girls have them and because it's healthy and cleans out your system (except for girls who have serious health problems with their periods)
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06-26-2018, 04:10 PM | #77 |
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chicken or beef? if meats not yo thing; soup or salad?
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06-26-2018, 04:15 PM | #78 |
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what do you think about pronouns?
would you date another transgender? |
06-26-2018, 04:16 PM | #79 | |
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i don't like meat that much in general but i like chicken and i don't really like beef
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and i would but only ftm transgender individuals since i only like boys (and by the way, it's rude to say transgender by itself; you probably wouldn't say "would you date another black?" so please say transgender person or transgender individual) you could also say person/people who is/are transgender or individual(s) who is/are transgender as another way to be respectful
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06-26-2018, 06:33 PM | #80 |
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I know that there's been a push to the normalization of asking people about their pronouns when you first meet them (or telling them yours when you first meet them to encourage them to tell you theirs. An example being like "Hi, my name is Ben and I go by He/Him/His. And you?"
What do you think of this idea? I know for some people in the LGBTQ+ community, this seems like a good idea since it allows us to avoid misgendering someone. However, I've also seen that some members of the trans community don't like being asked for their pronouns since the act of asking might indicate that they've been clocked. |
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