So I finally came clean to my parents. - Page 2

**reuben_tate** · 03-28-2012, 01:38 AM

Kudos to you Flipsta for having the guts to tell them, it must have taken a lot of courage. Sorry to hear about your parents' reactions though. :/ Hopefully they'll learn to accept you for who you are and things will work out in the long run.

**flipsta_lombax** · 03-28-2012, 01:39 AM

You know though, I'm glad they reacted the way they did. They were honest and I respect that.

**Jerry DB** · 03-28-2012, 01:46 AM

our parents grew up being spoon fed wrong ideas. When they were kids prejudice was force fed with a belt(half the time)

that is actually a pretty normal reaction I feel from their generation. I'm sorry it couldn't work out better but you don't need to make your parents happy, as long as your happy. You already know everything I'm saying but it's good to say it anyways haha

Jousway · 03-28-2012, 01:47 AM

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Originally Posted by flipsta_lombax

"ken, you're an adult now. This is your personal life and we are not in control of that. But you know that's wrong, right?"

y u dad so mean!

**Emo_Saur_** · 03-28-2012, 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by flipsta_lombax

. He touches me, he gets Kung Fu Furry into the next millennium.

asdl;'

Siggied

Also, congrats, I'm sure that was the toughest thing you've ever done.

**bmah** · 03-28-2012, 01:59 AM

Ken, I knew it was only a matter of time before you had to say it, and so you did. Good job on that.

**UserNameGoesHere** · 03-28-2012, 02:08 AM

Why people can't just leave other people to their own lives I have no idea.

A short checklist:
Is it hurting anybody?
Is it any of your business?
Is there a very good reason to intervene?

If the answers are "no" then leave them be!

People just REALLY need to learn to mind their own business sometimes, and just let others live in peace.

And yeah it could have been worse, but this judgmental stuff really needs to stop. My view is who cares if you are gay/straight/bi/alien/robot/zombie? Likewise who cares what your gender is, what your age is, etc... ? I mean really unless someone wanted to get intimately involved with you, why should any of that matter .. at all?

Xx{Midnight}xX · 03-28-2012, 02:12 AM

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Originally Posted by flipsta_lombax

EDIT: And oh just to throw this in the bag, my dad is CONVINCED that I can change my sexuality. Anyone want to share a cup of LOL with me? Please I have plllllllenty.

Yes I would like to share a cup of the epic Lulz

**flipsta_lombax** · 03-28-2012, 02:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Xx{Midnight}xX

Yes I would like to share a cup of the epic Lulz

**iironiic** · 03-28-2012, 02:22 AM

Hey Ken, good job! I hate it when parents think it's wrong to be gay, but what can you do about it? Again, congrats and I wish the best luck to you in life

**nois-or-e** · 03-28-2012, 02:23 AM

credit to you mate, that took some balls~

**Brilliant Dynamite Neon** · 03-28-2012, 02:32 AM

Oh hi again Kenny after about 3 billion years. x_x

Sorry to hear about your parents reactions, but at least you're in control of your life and have your shit together; I made the mistake of coming out (well, revealing I was involved with another guy; I doubt they could even comprehend me "coming out" in the traditional sense) after a long period of emotional turmoil and trouble with them, and I knew they'd be opposed to it, but I decided they deserved to know the truth. Boy was I wrong. I wouldn't be in the piece of shit situation I am now had I not done that, and would have probably been with my beloved a lot more. It's bad enough only the close family knows about it...the rest of my family is even worse, and if the news breaks, I'll have absolutely no support, something my father has been holding over my head. My mother is the only support I really have, but she can't really do anything for me, because the family is in a tough situation now and is relying on each other, so that's kind of put her in the corner, and even she's getting sick of my shit now, because of problems with school and everything...I don't think she really understands how all this is affecting me. I hope I can get out of this soon...anyway, enough of my bitching.

I'm glad you got that over with and that things are going much better than with me, ahah. Just keep on truckin' and all.

~WM

**DarknessXoXLight** · 03-28-2012, 02:36 AM

Could have gone worse, I applaud your courage. Congrats~

**flipsta_lombax** · 03-28-2012, 02:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Brilliant Dynamite Neon

[message]~WM

I'm sorry to hear that yours didn't turn out well.. just hang in there until you got your grip at independence. As far as family members hearing about me, my dad mentioned somewhere along the lines of "disappointment" coming from both sides of family, if they ever find out. How every fuccen body in the family has a mission statement on how my happy ass is going to live my life, yeah right.

In due time man. When you can, take charge of your life and do what makes you happy. Even if it has to part with family.

**Brilliant Dynamite Neon** · 03-28-2012, 03:02 AM

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Originally Posted by flipsta_lombax

I'm sorry to hear that yours didn't turn out well.. just hang in there until you got your grip at independence. As far as family members hearing about me, my dad mentioned somewhere along the lines of "disappointment" coming from both sides of family, if they ever find out. How every fuccen body in the family has a mission statement on how my happy ass is going to live my life, yeah right.

In due time man. When you can, take charge of your life and do what makes you happy. Even if it has to part with family.

Yeah, it'd be much easier to deal with if these people still didn't have so much control over my life. I've had a stroke of luck recently, though, and if parting with the family and going out on my own is what's going to have to happen, I'm just gonna go through with it. Me and my love need each other and I can't let anything get in the way of our freedom and happiness, so I'm making a game plan of sorts. I have people outside who know about it and are there to support me, and hopefully with their help I can move beyond this and take my life into my own hands. Thanks for listening and supporting, Ken. We definitely need to talk more...but for now I'm going to sleep.

00Razor00 · 03-28-2012, 03:02 AM

Props on coming out!

Hope everything goes swell for ya.

**hi19hi19** · 03-28-2012, 03:27 AM

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Originally Posted by flipsta_lombax

oh my god...

It's a cup of pure lulz
I MUST TRY THIS BEFORE I DIE

Xx{Midnight}xX · 03-28-2012, 03:58 AM

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Originally Posted by flipsta_lombax

**Hateandhatred** · 03-28-2012, 03:59 AM

Hey that's awesome beer bro! =D

Just give your parents time to adapt. The reaction may have been pretty ass, but it's still a shock to people with these morals.

After like, a week, things should be just fine! =D It's not like they had time to prepare for this. Not that it's bad, but their minds processed very very quickly the question "how the **** am I supposed to react????"

It's all gonna be cool bro! =)

Pouring a Carlsberg down right now to your achievement! =D

**Reincarnate** · 03-28-2012, 07:53 AM

*Massive* props to you, flipsta -- it always takes guts to do something like that, especially in front of parents who are obviously religiously-rooted.

There may be disappointment, but honestly, you have to live your life for yourself. It sounds like the sudden surge of self-sufficiency helped you work up the courage to keep in line with that notion. Your family, at the very least, will still love you even if they may vehemently disagree with your lifestyle.

Congrats!

03-28-2012, 01:39 AM	#22
flipsta_lombax Lombax Connoisseur Join Date: May 2006 Location: Virginia Age: 34 Posts: 2,556	Re: So I finally came clean to my parents. You know though, I'm glad they reacted the way they did. They were honest and I respect that. __________________ Best FGO: Time To Eye{3-0-0-0} Best SCORE: Husigi Usagi Milk Tei {16-1-2-8}

03-28-2012, 01:46 AM	#23
Jerry DB FFR, lift, repeat Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: oregon Age: 32 Posts: 2,071	Re: So I finally came clean to my parents. our parents grew up being spoon fed wrong ideas. When they were kids prejudice was force fed with a belt(half the time) that is actually a pretty normal reaction I feel from their generation. I'm sorry it couldn't work out better but you don't need to make your parents happy, as long as your happy. You already know everything I'm saying but it's good to say it anyways haha

03-28-2012, 01:59 AM	#26
bmah shots FIRED Global Moderator, User Support, Judge Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Edmonton, AB Age: 36 Posts: 8,448	Re: So I finally came clean to my parents. Ken, I knew it was only a matter of time before you had to say it, and so you did. Good job on that.

03-28-2012, 02:22 AM	#30
iironiic D6 FFR Legacy Player Join Date: Jan 2009 Age: 33 Posts: 4,342	Re: So I finally came clean to my parents. Hey Ken, good job! I hate it when parents think it's wrong to be gay, but what can you do about it? Again, congrats and I wish the best luck to you in life

03-28-2012, 02:23 AM	#31
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03-28-2012, 02:32 AM	#32
Brilliant Dynamite Neon nobody fiffers anymore. Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: 6-arrow land Age: 31 Posts: 2,440	Re: So I finally came clean to my parents. Oh hi again Kenny after about 3 billion years. x_x Sorry to hear about your parents reactions, but at least you're in control of your life and have your shit together; I made the mistake of coming out (well, revealing I was involved with another guy; I doubt they could even comprehend me "coming out" in the traditional sense) after a long period of emotional turmoil and trouble with them, and I knew they'd be opposed to it, but I decided they deserved to know the truth. Boy was I wrong. I wouldn't be in the piece of shit situation I am now had I not done that, and would have probably been with my beloved a lot more. It's bad enough only the close family knows about it...the rest of my family is even worse, and if the news breaks, I'll have absolutely no support, something my father has been holding over my head. My mother is the only support I really have, but she can't really do anything for me, because the family is in a tough situation now and is relying on each other, so that's kind of put her in the corner, and even she's getting sick of my shit now, because of problems with school and everything...I don't think she really understands how all this is affecting me. I hope I can get out of this soon...anyway, enough of my bitching. I'm glad you got that over with and that things are going much better than with me, ahah. Just keep on truckin' and all. ~WM __________________ ~ OFFICIALLY RETIRED FROM FFR THE GAME AND FFR TWG ~ Thanks for the memories, folks. u da bes

03-28-2012, 02:36 AM	#33
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03-28-2012, 03:59 AM	#39
Hateandhatred "The Quebec Steparatist." Join Date: Feb 2011 Age: 33 Posts: 1,954	Re: So I finally came clean to my parents. Hey that's awesome beer bro! =D Just give your parents time to adapt. The reaction may have been pretty ass, but it's still a shock to people with these morals. After like, a week, things should be just fine! =D It's not like they had time to prepare for this. Not that it's bad, but their minds processed very very quickly the question "how the **** am I supposed to react????" It's all gonna be cool bro! =) Pouring a Carlsberg down right now to your achievement! =D __________________

03-28-2012, 07:53 AM	#40
Reincarnate x'); DROP TABLE FFR;-- Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 6,332	Re: So I finally came clean to my parents. Massive props to you, flipsta -- it always takes guts to do something like that, especially in front of parents who are obviously religiously-rooted. There may be disappointment, but honestly, you have to live your life for yourself. It sounds like the sudden surge of self-sufficiency helped you work up the courage to keep in line with that notion. Your family, at the very least, will still love you even if they may vehemently disagree with your lifestyle. Congrats!

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