what is your opinion of teenage/children dating

[Necros140606]

in contrast with this thread's shared opinion, i would like to point out that there's an extremely high chance of dating being just a social implication of the istinct of reproduction. i glanced through this without finding some good argument over the matter so i might as well do it myself (i'm not as fluent as other people in here though).

let's start from the beginning.



childhood.

due to the extremely high confomism and selfishness of small children, a relationship in these years is not possibile. dating would barely mean a desire of playing with the other from both parts, and, in rare occasions, the curiosity of discovering the diverse. it is widely known that in the late childhood childrens may experience the first unintended sexual approachs, in realizing the difference between male and female, and possibly exchange impressions and even showing each other their genitals. that's about it for childhood. -note that this is in important step, and the children who have been kept away from the other sex because of puritan views will be less mature than the average early teen (wich is still very immature) and more likely to develop sexist views and behaviours.



the early teens:

puberty plays a huge role in this step. due to the development of secondary sexual charachters, such as facial hair, voice change, or breasts, kids in this age will start to get interested in each other. we could say that, from a purely biological standpoint, this means both parts are ready to reproduce. it is obviously not possible from a social perspective, but istincts will not listen to such restrictions. hormones will start to flow in the kids' bodies, and the neural message they carry is short and simple: reproduction.

now let me say that in the early teens we're still having the transition from the "girls suck" behaviour to the interest in the opposite sex. therefore, the ones who had shared childhood sexual experiences will be more open for what's to come.

as you all know, the period going from 11 to 14, more or less, is the base for building a relationship. as almost anyone else said, it's practice. but not only that. it's a way to feel apreciated, therefore relationships will grow your self esteem. it's a way to deal with the different, and this has the upside of opening your mind, keeping you from developing antisocial and xenophobe/sexist positions (note that they could be developed from many other situations, so consider the relationship a part of the many influences). and do not forget that the primary reason why people this age date is sex. most people don't do it the first time in this phase just because the adolescence stimuli are filtered by our culture, education, and personal history. it's generally considered bad for kids to have sex, because we say it's immature, they are not ready and so on. keep in mind that they actually ARE ready to the act itself, but they are not to all the social constructs we have posed alongside sex. defining them as good or bad is not my business.




the late teens.

many of us have had (or will have) their first complete sexual intercourse during this phase. i personally had my first at 15. unfortunately, there are still ones who missed both childhood and early teens chances to practice and understand the love relathionship, for various reasons. these perople will be in a position of disadvantage and will have to make up for the time they've lost. most of the (unwanted) pregnancy cases are in this phase, most likely because of lack of education but also experience. there isn't much to say about the late teens actually, so i'll make it short. considering the whole progress from childhood to the adult age, it is advised you proceeed through all steps in order to gain a better understanding of the others, of yourself, of the relationships and about your personal concept of love. not only: it is very important that you are supported by family, and secondarily by friends. sexuality and relationships in general have their rules, which can be taught like anything else. learning tem yourself is also effective, but much more difficult and much more risky.

in conclusion, to the ones who don't support the dating (and, i deduce, the contact between opposite sexes till a certain age): think through the consequences of your standopints before making such bold statements. the cure might be worse than the injury.



ps: i just checked the dates, oh well