Renard Queenston is a sex offender

[rayword45]

http://nishimikan.tumblr.com/post/73650195082

there’s a post going around that i want to address—i’m the author of the text file in the post in question (and thus the one who took the file down cause i really did NEED to make this post!)
[sexual assault warning in readmore]
i stand by what i said, absolutely. i am upset that a post of this nature was made without first consulting me explicitly—things on tumblr tend to explode and in this case, the person who would experience fallout is me.
as background:
ren and i were in a fairly sexual relationship, not a romantic one. we had our boundaries, but our most prominent one was “ask before any touching is done”. i have post-traumatic stress disorder, relating to a lot of sexual trauma, and when i am touched unprovoked, i am “dead in the water”. this boundary was placed in december of 2012 because ren experienced it first-hand with an event i can’t talk about now.
with this background, here is what i want you all to know:
ren has a self-admitted problem with groping people when they think they’re sleeping. they acknowledge that what they did to me was wrong but mention going to therapy for it, something that i, as the victim, am not comfortable with.
they also mention it being something they do in their sleep, but i find that bogus because of finer details during the actual groping state to me that ren was awake the entire time. i do not trust them in this situation, because they have betrayed my trust regarding being up front with things with me before (see below)
during the times when ren would visit, this so-called “sleep-groping” problem would happen a multitude of times—my PTSD makes it hard for me to remember specific numbers, but a ballpark estimate of how many times it’s happened to me is 10-15 (in two visits).
now, ren has admitted that they were aware of the problem when it occurred, but they did not elect to speak to me, their (at the time) sexual partner and (at the time) friend. this is troubling at its base level, but becomes a little more troubling when you remember that they are aware that my PTSD renders me immobile.
ren had one year to tell me that cuddling with them might be unwise because of their self-admitted “sleep-groping” habits, but did not do so and did not make any move to do so during the time i knew them. during that one year, i did not receive any communication regarding their “sleep problem”, despite the faith i put into them when another event happened, one i’m not comfortable reiterating now.
ren says that they’re seeking therapy for the events in question and for their “sleep problem”, but they told me the same thing when they did something to me the first time. i trust that they’re trying, but for the sake of your safety and my peace of mind, i’ve made this post so people are aware of the situation.
in short:
ren queenston has a tendency to touch people sexually in their sleep. be aware of this.
this is troubling, to say the absolute least. but that’s why i’m making this post, to raise awareness. they need to learn, and leaving them alone for a year for them to “get treatment” did not help the first time, and i doubt it will help now.
they need to be held accountable for their actions.
for the sake of my own safety:
i’m planning on receiving treatment for my own sexual trauma, and for any other issues that may have arisen during my time knowing ren. i cannot answer every question that comes my way, and though i appreciate the sentiments, i do not want to be bombarded with kind words either.
i am a very private person, and will deal with this issue in my own way, and for me privacy is extremely valuable here, so while i understand you have questions, i cannot answer them because i am under an inordinate amount of stress from confronting them about this issue myself.
please respect a victim’s privacy, meaning: ask them about posts before you make them, even if they say it’s okay to post. i would have loved to know about that post before it went out, but i did not, and i doubt anyone else in my situation would have appreciated it.
i understand that many of you are ren’s fans, but what they did to me was absolutely inexcusable and unforgivable. i make this post for the sake of your awareness.
anyway i’m quite wordy so i’m ending this here. take care.

On his Twitter he admits to this but also says that he's sorry for his actions and says he is going to therapy. https://twitter.com/renqueenston

This changes my opinion of his music absolutely zero. I didn't like it before either.

[Pseudo Enigma]

welp

[Dynam0]

the copious usage of 'them' and 'their' to represent renard is more disgusting imo

also lol

[Fission]

Originally Posted by Dynam0

lol

^^

[AlexDest]

can't say i'm surprised

this guy has always been off the charts in terms of weird

[rayword45]

Originally Posted by AlexDest

can't say i'm surprised

this guy is off the charts in terms of weird

[AlexDest]

[xXOpkillerXx]

Originally Posted by Dynam0

the copious usage of 'them' and 'their' to represent renard is more disgusting imo

also lol

Holy shit it hurts man, had to stop reading, seriously.

[popsicle_3000]

Originally Posted by Dynam0

the copious usage of 'them' and 'their' to represent renard is disgusting imo

I was wondering who 'they' were...

Originally Posted by Silvuh

Wish people could just forget about the sex I was born with.

why's that?

transgender, gender confusion, whatever you want to call it, doesn't change the sex you were born with. Apart from a tiny minority who have some genetic sexual differentiation disorder w/ varying/messed-up sex chromosomes, everyone else has DNA that says you were born a guy or girl.

[devonin]

Originally Posted by popsicle_3000

transgender, gender confusion, whatever you want to call it, doesn't change the sex you were born with. Apart from a tiny minority who have some genetic sexual differentiation disorder w/ varying/messed-up sex chromosomes, everyone else has DNA that says you were born a guy or girl.

Sure, and say the sex which they were born doesn't match up to their gender, and having people tell them things like "I don't care if you are transgendered, you were born an X and so you are an X" is pretty insensitive and ignorant.

Say you were born in some circumstance that has caused you nothing but pain and grief for your entire life. Say you have spent years doing everything you can to struggle with and overcome that circumstance. Say you are now living away from that circumstance and are actually happy and comfortable with your life.

Now say someone comes along and says "Nope, you were born in that circumstance, so you are stuck with that circumstance forever."

[rayword45]

I will never understand why renard thinks having multiple aliases = being referred to as them/they're

I mean Prince is also The Artist Formerly Known as Prince//Purple One/Jamie Foxx/whatever but I only see him referred to under the pronouns of "him" or "shut up you stupid fucking midget"

[Gforce20]

First post in years because I don't give half a care about FFR anymore lmao

Ren goes by "they" because they're agender; it has nothing to do with their aliases. If it's hard to read, that's your problem, not Ren's.

That said, what Ren did was absolutely disgusting and I'd encourage everyone to at least not buy anything from LapFox anymore, and perhaps even stop listening to it (although that's more of a personal decision).

[xXOpkillerXx]

Originally Posted by Gforce20

First post in years because I don't give half a care about FFR anymore lmao

Ren goes by "they" because they're agender; it has nothing to do with their aliases. If it's hard to read, that's your problem, not Ren's.

That said, what Ren did was absolutely disgusting and I'd encourage everyone to at least not buy anything from LapFox anymore, and perhaps even stop listening to it (although that's more of a personal decision).

Lmao sorry, born a dude, forever a dude. And what if I like his music hm~

[rayword45]

Originally Posted by xXOpkillerXx

Lmao sorry, born a dude, forever a dude.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_change

[xXOpkillerXx]

Originally Posted by rayword45

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_change

As if that would make me refer to you as "she" if you had one

[JurseyRider734]

Originally Posted by xXOpkillerXx

As if that would make me refer to you as "she" if you had one

classy

[Crazyjayde]

I was probably more shocked of Against Me's frontman sex change than this.
It was more, say, atypical of his personality.

Still, I don't refer to him as "they". What a weird world.

[Izzy]

Originally Posted by Gforce20

First post in years because I don't give half a care about FFR anymore lmao

Ren goes by "they" because they're agender; it has nothing to do with their aliases. If it's hard to read, that's your problem, not Ren's.

What does gender have to do with referring to someone as a plural. That makes no sense.

Either way, I've never heard of this person.

[rayword45]

Originally Posted by Izzy

What does gender have to do with referring to someone as a plural. That makes no sense.

There's also the whole "I have 423 aliases" thing he has going on.

Though the word "it" would work just fine.

[Dynam0]

Originally Posted by MrPopadopalis25

No decent substitution in English. It sounds dehumanizing and attempts to create new pronouns don't usually catch on so people who don't fit under he or she in terms of gender are stuck using plural ones that don't always work grammatically.

No idea Renard considered themself (?) asexual so my chirping of plural usage wasn't to demean him, only that it makes for difficult reading just so everyone knows lol. So they're like Ditto or something in pokemon! Hard to assign pronouns to that :/