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[Andromena_M31]

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Quick questions

1. Can I say that im both non-binary and bigender at the same time?

2. Is it weird how I want to be called a girl but want a relationship between me and a guy still be considered gay?

[xXOpkillerXx]

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Quick questions

1. Can I say that im both non-binary and bigender at the same time?

2. Is it weird how I want to be called a girl but want a relationship between me and a guy still be considered gay?

I don't think anybody's an authority on such questions, although while you're most likely free to say you're this and that, just be aware that if that (probably rare) topic comes up, most people may be confused naturally. If the emotional gain you get from it outweighs the potential confusing moments, I don't see why you couldn't say those things.

[Neigdoig]

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Quick questions

1. Can I say that im both non-binary and bigender at the same time?

2. Is it weird how I want to be called a girl but want a relationship between me and a guy still be considered gay?

I've never heard of someone being both NB and bigender. If this is the case, I'd say that would be genderfluid.

[Andromena_M31]

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I don't think anybody's an authority on such questions, although while you're most likely free to say you're this and that, just be aware that if that (probably rare) topic comes up, most people may be confused naturally. If the emotional gain you get from it outweighs the potential confusing moments, I don't see why you couldn't say those things.

Yeah your right. It is a bit confusing even to me. I keep on thinking im genderfluid but that never sat right with me. It's good to say that im both just because it makes me the most comfortable. Thank you very much, hope you have a good and lovely day!

[Lights]

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Quick questions

1. Can I say that im both non-binary and bigender at the same time?

2. Is it weird how I want to be called a girl but want a relationship between me and a guy still be considered gay?

you can present yourself however you'd like. the categorizations of gender and sexuality exist as an attempt at helping people convey certain ideas about their identity to others, not as a rule of what one can and cannot be. if you exist slightly outside of established lines, so be it.

[mellonxcollie]

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Quick questions

1. Can I say that im both non-binary and bigender at the same time?

These two terms kind of contradict each other. If you are non-binary then you believe that your identity exists outside of the gender binary. To be bi-gender would mean that you identify with two genders. Those two genders would fall within the gender binary.

I think gender fluid might make more sense for how you are meaning the word? Or just non-binary

But that's just my personal take on the subject and it's totally up to you how you want to identify for yourself

[Andromena_M31]

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Never thought I would be message in this thread again. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

So for the last month I would say I have stopped going to my place of worship because I told my mom that I needed a break and that I was not happy. And words could not express how good it felt not going to the meetings. I was So GOD DAMN TIRED of hearing the message over and over again. But I still haven't experienced to my mom anything. And I think now she is trying to get me to get back in. Today is Tuesday, meetings start at 7:00 pm and my mom told me I was joining on zoom. She said it in a way that made it clear it wasn't up for debate. And I just kinda died though it and after. After it I spent the rest of the day doom scrolling and slightly eating my feelings away. my mom is not in the wrong because she thinks it's what I want to do but I'm just taking a break. But I can't tell her that I want to leave because literally everyone in my family other then 2 people are in the same religion (and my family is Mexican so it's a big family) so if I tell my family that I don't believe in it and kick me out or rude to me, I would literally have no where to go or talk to. Not to mention the drama that would happen in the family would be horrible.

But I genuinely don't think I could go back without becoming the worst version of myself. I've seen today that if I do go then the stress before, during, and after will consume me whole. But I really don't know how to tell my family. this is not so much about the lgbtq but more just wanting to leave.

I'm mainly just messaging out of pain. Thankfully after like 8 months Im starting to have therapy, thank the gods. It's been a good day and a horrible night. Im just really tired, thanks for reading if your reading this. Have a good night

[carterlukh]

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That sounds really tough, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. One thing that might help is creating small, private affirmations—whether it’s journaling, listening to music that resonates with you, or even mentally reminding yourself of who you are. If you can, find an online community where you feel safe and validated. You don’t have to prove anything to the people around you—your identity is yours, and it’s valid no matter what they say. Stay strong, and take care of yourself. 💙