Critical Thinking: Can you love someone...

[Powerless]

So, lets establish that not everyone lives in a perfect world.

Its highly unlikely that "Love" will develop while you still have obligations that dont pay. School, chores, etc. People will throw around the word love without knowing what true love feels like. Everyone says that they "Love" their boyfriend or girlfriend and then proceeds to break up with them 7 months later beacuse they're bored of their relationship.

So it can happen, but is unlikely.

[GuidoHunter]

I agree with Aleco in that it really doesn't matter, but for the sake of discussion...

Yes, but I think sixteen is about the youngest that that's gonna happen. I think it has a lot to do with how soon that person starts to understand the concept of and undertake some responsibility. I'm finding it really hard to explain exactly why those ideas are tied to each other, but I think it has something to do with maturity. When you become mature enough to take responsibility for yourself, mature thoughts come next, one of which is love.

I don't think you can find such feelings with thirteen and fourteen year olds, but moreso with the older ages. I still stand by the fact that I was in love when I was sixteen. I'm nineteen now, and can barely comprehend how much I wanted to be with her, much less how there could possibly be a greater feeling out there if I actually weren't in love.

--Guido

http://andy.mikee385.com

[jewpinthethird]

If I met the right girl...but probably not...all I want is sex really. All teenage boys want sex. THAT IS ALL. I use to think I was more sofisiticated than that...but really, I just wanted sex. Though I would like to have sex with a girl who shares common interests.

I thought I was in love once. When I woke up, I thought about her *not in a sexual way* and when I went to bed I thought about her *not in a sexual way...well, occasionally, I'm only human.* At school, she was always on my mind. I even wrote her a song...well, technically 6 songs...including "Water Like Pudding." But it was all a lie. I just wanted sex. I still want sex...just give me bang bang bang and shut up.

[lightdarkness]

ahhh..

[ayanepuck]

Possibly.

I think that it is possible to fall in love at an early age, but unlikely. I know this sounds odd, but people out age are still in high school and college and our lives are still unfolding in front of our eyes. True love is something that would get in the way of my life at the moment. Sounds selfish, I know, but that is how I see things. I will elaborate more when my thoughts are actually on this subject. I don't normally think about this subject too often.

[LEGO]

If I met the right girl...but probably not...all I want is sex really. All teenage boys want sex. THAT IS ALL. I use to think I was more sofisiticated than that...but really, I just wanted sex. Though I would like to have sex with a girl who shares common interests.

I thought I was in love once. When I woke up, I thought about her *not in a sexual way* and when I went to bed I thought about her *not in a sexual way...well, occasionally, I'm only human.* At school, she was always on my mind. I even wrote her a song...well, technically 6 songs...including "Water Like Pudding." But it was all a lie. I just wanted sex. I still want sex...just give me bang bang bang and shut up.

I can't tell if you're being serious or if you're trying to be funny...

[CypherToorima]

What's the difference? Why does it matter?

If you don't care for this thread, don't post in it.

[aleco]

That was not what I meant.

[FishFishRevolution]

I have, many times, though i was in love, but i wasn't. I have yet to find it, but i don't believe there is a certain age requirement to do so.

[kaykyukid]

I believe that somebody might be mature enough to love somebody else as long as the other is just as serious about the relationship as they are.

[CypherToorima]

That was not what I meant.

...


then explain what you mean.

[evilbutterfly]

I used to think young love wasn't possible. Then I got in a relationship and thought I loved the girl. Then we broke up. After a month or two, I looked back, and I saw that she was a terrible terrible person and now I hate her. I didn't really love her, I just wanted to love somebody. Since then, I was very wary of loving anybody, and I refused to tell that to people.

Then I went out with somebody else. We dated for quite a while, and I didn't want to say I loved her, even though I did. I didn't trust myself to feel that way about her, but I eventually told her. I proposed after 6 months (I dunno what I was thinking, but I was/am serious about it. I would marry her right now if given the chance). We broke up after 10 months together.

That was in *thinks back* early January, 2004. After more than half a year, I still love her. I want to marry her, be the father of her children, die with her by my side, find her in heaven, spend eternity with her, everything. I understand what that means. Since breaking up, I've flirted with quite a few girls (just ask Jamie, haha) but to no avail. I am still girlfriendless Me and her rarely talk now, and usually when we do she ends up getting mad at me. Neither one of us wants to love each other, but I for one can't help it. That pisses me off sometimes. I've gotten now to where I'm not suffering without her, but there are times like now when I'm reminded of her and I want to cry because I may never be with her again.

The odd thing about this is that she is NOT the kind of person I would think I'd want to be with for the rest of my life. She doesn't like hardly anything I like, she doesn't match the build of a girl that I would want, her personality clashes with mine in extreme ways, and just nothing works out like it should. Despite this, I'm willing to change so I'm better for her. I tolerate her listening to country music. Hell, I even try to like it. She may not have what I thought was the best looking body in the past, but dammit to me she's drop dead gorgeous. She ought to piss me off to no end, but even when she yells at me I'm so happy just to be able to hear her voice or to be within 5 feet of her. It makes NO sense whatsoever, and I can't make it stop, which proves (to me) that it's for real.

Honestly, I wish I didn't love her. I wish she didn't love me. That would make things so much easier. I hate that I can't control it, especially since it probably won't work out between me and her, even if we do get back together. We will probably clash again and she will end it. Just saying that makes me shiver with fear (seriously, I just shivered). I'm sure glad my low eyelids are loose and make it hard to cry, or else my cheeks would be annoyingly damp right now. I better stop writing about her before I feel any worse...

BTW, I'm 17 no. She's 16 (1 year, 1 month, and 1 week younger than me :P).

[Kano523]

Love is an extremely complex emotion, I myself though I was in love when I was around fourteen or fifteen. Perhaps I was, looking back on it I still can't be sure. Of course no one would think it was love, seeing as it was an internet relationship that lasted about three years. I guess in retrospect I was in love with the idea of being in love. I remember feeling like I loved everything about this person, even the things that annoyed me at first I began to think it was cute. However, I guess I really didn't know enough about her to call it love. It was something, but not true love. So I will have to say no, people that young probably wont experience true love. They simply aren't mature enough to handle it, I know I wasn't.

[Kano523]

Love is an extremely complex emotion, I myself though I was in love when I was around fourteen or fifteen. Perhaps I was, looking back on it I still can't be sure. Of course no one would think it was love, seeing as it was an internet relationship that lasted about three years. I guess in retrospect I was in love with the idea of being in love. I remember feeling like I loved everything about this person, even the things that annoyed me at first I began to think it was cute. However, I guess I really didn't know enough about her to call it love. It was something, but not true love. So I will have to say no, people that young probably wont experience true love. They simply aren't mature enough to handle it, I know I wasn't.

[Kano523]

Well that made me think

Love is an extremely complex emotion, I myself though I was in love when I was around fourteen or fifteen. Perhaps I was, looking back on it I still can't be sure. Of course no one would think it was love, seeing as it was an internet relationship that lasted about three years. I guess in retrospect I was in love with the idea of being in love. I remember feeling like I loved everything about this person, even the things that annoyed me at first I began to think it was cute. However, I guess I really didn't know enough about her to call it love. It was something, but not true love. So I will have to say no, people that young probably wont experience true love. They simply aren't mature enough to handle it, I know I wasn't.