I'm gonna get so much grief for writing this.....

[roopert]

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In an ideal world, everyone would have no more than 3 partners in their lives, preferably only two or one. But the world is a big place, and people get in with the wrong people, or they're just stupid and do whatever they want. But hey, ruin your life - it's only yours.

In an ideal world, there would be no STDs to worry about. Thus, it wouldn't matter how many partners you were with.

You might be referring to the fact that multiple partners can "cheapen" the act of sex and make it less special, but by saying "ruin your life" I assume you are implying contracting a STD such as HIV.

[whorlichan]

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You might be referring to the fact that multiple partners can "cheapen" the act of sex and make it less special

I don't think that simply having had multiple partners "cheapens" sex. If they were all one-night stands or random girls/guys picked up at bars specifically for sex, okay. But people can have more than one serious relationship in their lifetime, and most serious relationships involve sex.

Besides, sex with more than one person allows you to a) learn new techniques or try out things that previous lovers didn't want/know/etc. and b) compare them evilly in your head. Or, on a serious note, make the sex you have in your current/last/NOW meaningful relationship that much more special, because you do have that other experience to build on.

[Schrammbledeggs]

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I find that the other aspects of a sexual relationship besides intercourse are more fun since so many people are jaded by intercourse. Like if you're a kinky person I bet you gain WAY more satisfaction from doin' other stuff besides intercourse.

[FoJaR]

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I find that the other aspects of a sexual relationship besides intercourse are more fun since so many people are jaded by intercourse. Like if you're a kinky person I bet you gain WAY more satisfaction from doin' other stuff besides intercourse.

so i'm not trying to be rude or anything, but is this all speculation?

[Schrammbledeggs]

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No it isn't. I'm talking from experience. It'd be pretty stupid for me to talk about this stuff when I haven't actually experienced it. The only reason I said "I bet" in my previous entry was because I didn't wanna speculate for others.

[FoJaR]

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lol

[roopert]

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You might be referring to the fact that multiple partners can "cheapen" the act of sex and make it less special

I don't think that simply having had multiple partners "cheapens" sex. If they were all one-night stands or random girls/guys picked up at bars specifically for sex, okay. But people can have more than one serious relationship in their lifetime, and most serious relationships involve sex.

Besides, sex with more than one person allows you to a) learn new techniques or try out things that previous lovers didn't want/know/etc. and b) compare them evilly in your head. Or, on a serious note, make the sex you have in your current/last/NOW meaningful relationship that much more special, because you do have that other experience to build on.

I wasn't saying I believe that it can "cheapen" it, and I don't. I was merely stating that Rediah could have been referring to it, seeing as how that would go along with her "3 partners" is ideal.

[Rediahs]

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I was talking about diseases, not cheapening.

3 was just a number I made up. 1 or 2 are definitely too low. 4 is okay. 3 is ideal. I just made it up. You can make up your own number, it's just what I consider to be an okay number....

btw I've nly ever had one partner so... um... I'm not like, uh, being dumb here.

[Lightknight924]

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I really can't find anything in this discussion to argue about except for Mal's quote "If you can't do something smart, do something right." I'm not sure how much that will relate to this though.


*As long as someone doesn't break out with the: girls are better than boys and boys are so stupid. That gets me ticked because it's so sexist.

[whorlichan]

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I really can't find anything in this discussion to argue about except for Mal's quote "If you can't do something smart, do something right." I'm not sure how much that will relate to this though.

I like that quote. I take it to mean, if you're going to be dumb enough to screw around (with or without protection, but I mean just being a slut) then you should at least get good at it.

[Lightknight924]

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Sure, you could put it that way. Although I was pointing more towards do the right thing and don't cheat. If you have interest in someone else then break it off with the other one. If you have interest in both then follow the quote the best you can. That's all I can say.

[whorlichan]

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Ah. Right, I completely forgot what this topic was originally about.

In that case, Mal's quote is once again very helpful. If you can't be smart--as in realizing that you're already in a relationship and owe something to your partner, even if it's just a "goodbye"--then at least do something right and DON'T CHEAT.

That doesn't make as much sense as it did in my head. What I mean is this: DON'T CHEAT GODDAMMIT. HAVE THE DECENCY TO BREAK UP WITH YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU SCREW UP.

[FoJaR]

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Sure, you could put it that way. Although I was pointing more towards do the right thing and don't cheat. If you have interest in someone else then break it off with the other one. If you have interest in both then follow the quote the best you can. That's all I can say.

you're right, little buddy.

[Tokzic]

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Mal, you're the only guy I know who can contribute to a CT discussion simply by having your signature present in it.

[Lightknight924]

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Yeah, his quotes are very usefull in these cases.