I’m 18 biologically, but I feel like I’m about 14 mentally…

[SKG_Scintill]

Re: I’m 18 biologically, but I feel like I’m about 14 mentally…

there are some people here that actually like me, and it isn’t too small a minority either.

r/woooosh

[Spenner]

Re: I’m 18 biologically, but I feel like I’m about 14 mentally…

because everyone generally has to conform to societal norms in some way that it makes it appear that something is different about you. Deep down I see a person like anyone else, and I believe it’s just that you’re slowly figuring out how exactly to fit in the society we’ve been presented with. Ideally in a way that doesn’t really change who you are for the worse, but only for the better. With practice and repetition, we can change some of our behaviours so that we can benefit from them. Therapists can help you work on that, just so you can survive a bit easier, and not fall into pitfalls as often.

It’s also something you can work on by yourself. I haven’t found my ideal therapist yet, so it’s just me and whatever I can pull together. I try to take in a lot of inspiration, and it slowly manifests through me— even if it’s as simple as, pretending I’m in the mindset of a professional smash player or something. Daydreaming about that level of focus, and mental composure, when I know I need some of that. The more you work on your mind being flexible, the easier it is to navigate through the pegs of life.

[mellonxcollie]

Re: I’m 18 biologically, but I feel like I’m about 14 mentally…

Nothing about what you've described have anything to do with your actual age or maturity. Reaching age milestones doesn't make your life change in any significant way overnight, these changes happen gradually over a long time. Some stuff might stick with you a long time even after you think you should have "grown out of it"

Being outwardly emotional or liking flowery dresses are not even associated with young people in my mind, they're simply associated with women of all ages.

Doing crazy things and feeling promiscuous I would associate with teens and young adults; you're acting just your age on that one

Thinking critically is a skill all people over the age of maybe, 6 or 7, should be developing. I remember specifically having "Critical Thinking" portions at the end of nearly every test I took in school which usually involved applying the same concepts from the test in a way we hadn't seen before.

Even loving teddy bears and pillow forts means jack shit. I started my anime and plushie collection at age 14, it's still going and I've never gotten rid of a single thing. That means that I still like the exact same characters and the merch that I got at age 14. All this means is that my general interests and tastes have stayed the same. I've matured and grown in a million other ways in that time.

[devonin]

Re: I’m 18 biologically, but I feel like I’m about 14 mentally…

if you're going to post personal things in public fora instead of on your profile, you have to be prepared for the fact that not all reactions are going to be in agreement with you.

People suggesting courses of action for you when you've basically asked them to tell you courses of action is a thing that will happen.

Consider that people's advice is coming from a place of wanting to help you and consider that if you aren't actually interested in taking contrary opinions to heart, that you should stop soliciting them.