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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
we had a candlelight vigil and hundreds of people came out, it was wonderful. lots of great stories were told, loads of laughter. we had a moment of silence, a prayer, and two big ass posters filled with pictures.
I almost broke down. his best friend, a guy our family has known for well over 10 years now, showed up and looking into his eyes reminded me of the people I knew in the military who had lost their close friends in combat. just even writing about it is hard. but I talked to him about it. I told him that he can't let this destroy him, that he needs to focus. it's what drake would have wanted. he's looking to be a father soon, so he needs to stay strong for his family.
also got to see a friend I hung out with quite a lot in 2012-2013 and we're gonna be hanging out again soon too, which is super nice.
the family is going to go with cremation. we're waiting to hear when the service is, it could either be in 2 weeks or 4 weeks.
I'm staying strong, our whole family is.Comment
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
You and your folks are strong people choof, and that circle of support surrounding this is good to hear. Outreach for those not doing as well coping have a means of benefit. I hope that and your donation drive helps you all out enough to lessen the load of stress resting on this.
It's good to hear you're reconnecting with people too, even if the circumstances of coming together had to be this, but that's life being life. Keep with that network of peeps, I'm sure you and them both strongly value understanding things close to the same; even if it's largely unspoken, there's a level of comfort there which is good for the soul.
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
i'm glad you enjoyed the ceremony
hi
my discord username is drizzleRomanceGirl0706 in case anyone wants to message me
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
lemme tell you a short storyOriginally posted by Mourningfall
so last night, we had the vigil. hundreds of his friends and family came out to share stories and mourn together. my step-sisters came out, and they were under no obligation to come, since they haven't seen this side of the family in... fuck, 10 years?
so, I've been making my rounds, sharing stories with a bunch of people, meeting up with some people I haven't seen in years, comforting my younger cousin. my older step-sister pulls me aside. I'm thinking that she sees how upset I am and is trying to say something for comfort.
but.
it basically went like this.
her: "hey, do we know what happened?"
me: "yeah, he was in a motorcycle accident."
her: "yeah, but... what actually happened?"
me: "what do you mean? he was speeding and lost control. he received life-threating injuries and they were unable to save him."
her: "no I get that, but... was he drunk? was he high? what he hanging out with the wrong people or trying to show off to some ho?"
me: "does it matter? ultimately, my cousin, one of best friends, is dead. I will never hear his voice or embrace him ever again."
her: "no, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you, I was just cur-"
me: "yeah."
I'm not sure if you ever had someone close to you die. I know that you're simply going to respond to this with some kinda edgelord response like "yeah dude my mother died and I didn't care lol I thought it was actually hilarious lmao"
my cousin's life was torn away from the family and we're in pain. does the circumstances of his death change anything? if we know later on that he was driving drunk, does the family collectively go from immense sorrow to, "well shit, he was drunk when it happened so he deserved it! ha!" I don't think anything changes. my cousin is dead. it doesn't matter if he was driving under the influence. my cousin is dead. it doesn't matter if was showing off to some girls on the side of the road. my cousin is dead. my cousin is dead. my cousin is fucking dead.
I will never hear his voice again. I will never hold him in my arms again. every time he called my mother, he would start the phone call off with "hey auntie tweesah!" he's done this for as long as I can fucking remember and she will never get that phone call again. my brother, his closest friend, will never see him again. his mother and father, they will never see their oldest son, their "baby" ever again. his younger brothers lost a role model. they lost their best friend. my grandmother lost a grandchild. I remember going to grandma's house every year for christmas when we were kids, and the entire living room would just be fucking FILLED with presents. all five of us, just fucking tearing wrapping paper off of the presents in a joy-fueled frenzy. we grew up together dude, I could talk to this dude about literally anything and no matter what time it was, I could call him up. I'd be at his place, or we'd be at my brother's place within an hour, beer and cig in hand, ready to stay up all night just talking about life. he was a brother to me. fuck being a cousin. we were so unbelievably close, you don't understand. and I will never see him again.
in one breath I hope you never have to experience this emptiness dude. because it hurts. I never cry, but right now, there are tears.
but in the other, I hope you do experience it. perhaps then, you will understand how it feels. how it feels to have a friend to lean on just simply... disappear.Last edited by choof; 09-25-2016, 05:15 PM.Comment
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
ok. I can see you obviously cared about him, I envy that.
I'm sorry. You've my condolences.
I've lost enough to be numb to the sensation. parentals, siblings, friends have all died.
I guess I stopped caring a long time ago, but just because I don't give a fuck what happens to me or those around me anymore doesn't mean I should disrespect you.
Sorry man, I'm out of line.Comment
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
can someone please close this thread or something 'cause jesus christ
br2pac
play this ^Comment
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
I request Mourningfall get perma'd
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
Oh and hey drizzle, poor choice of words.
That's like when people on Facebook "like" a sad or hurt-filled status. You don't ENJOY shit like that because it's not a joyful occasion.
Its pain hurt and sorrow.Comment
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Originally posted by Ghost_Medley
This man is three months too early.
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
Triple post. Ban me for it.
Edit, ninja Marcus in the house
Choof my man I wanna give you a hug. You're being very strong through all this and im proud to be within the community in which you can express such grief.Last edited by top; 09-24-2016, 10:07 PM.Comment
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
i get what you're trying to do top, but i don't really need it
i understand where drizz is coming from and i did actually enjoy the vigil. it was really nice seeing people who i haven't seen in a while, some since before i joined the military too.Comment
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Re: just got the news that my cousin died last night
Well that's good.Comment
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