a few years back i was partying pretty regularly, had a large group of close friends, was having sex and dating constantly
lately, my group of close friends has dwindled drastically, i don't see the ones i've kept nearly as often, and i haven't even kissed a chick since my last girlfriend (which was almost a year ago)
important question: is this something you think you would want to change?
Of course I do, I'm just not sure how to go about it.
Originally posted by Vendetta21
Even if you have completely acclimated to it, that's got to be effecting your mood on some small level. I know what it's like to spend a lot of time by yourself in your house. Good to get out with others from time to time, like sunshine or jogging.
Yeah, I've been becoming more timid lately because of not being out of the house. If I had a driver's license/permit then my situation would be the complete opposite.
Of course I do, I'm just not sure how to go about it.
gotcha. I asked because (I think) some people prefer to spend most of their time by themselves.
could you ask friends for rides? I got my driver's license late and did this all the time, and there was no problem aside from my own insecurity over it.
stuff like friday night magic, book clubs, board game nights, and drawing clubs ain't bad it really depends on what's available in your area but like you may have to do quite a bit of google searching and stuff to figure out what is cool. the one thing about structured stuff like that is that usually those events draw people who don't hang out otherwise so people can sometimes be in tune with social anxiety and similar things that hold you back from socializing.
or just finding a friend in your area to do one shared interest.
gotcha. I asked because (I think) some people prefer to spend most of their time by themselves.
could you ask friends for rides? I got my driver's license late and did this all the time, and there was no problem aside from my own insecurity over it.
Yeah, I could. I'm unsure at whether they'll have the time since they're in college, and not to mention part-time jobs and relationships.
I've been studying for the written test so I can get my permit though, so this is a start.
I honestly don't have too expansive a social life. I have a small group of friends at school that I'm able to talk to, as well as a few very kind people here on FFR. However, outside those boundaries, I'm withdrawn and rarely have anything to talk about, besides something assigned to me.
I love gathering with my friends, however, the times that this can happen are so infrequent that I rarely get to enjoy this luxury as much as I wish I could.
When I was in high school I had a regular group of friends, I was very social, and really just enjoyed talking to people. All of my close friends from high school went away to school and I decided to stay and commute. I have a girlfriend and I spend a good amount of time with her, but I literally have like no friends in college. Being a commuter is very hard on the social life, and it doesn't help that I lost a lot of confidence in my self after having some issues with head pressure and anxiety [that still persist even now]. I am stuck in a weird place where I want to hang out but don't at the same time. I am just hoping I can get some of the medical problems out of the way before start up a social life again.
my only thing is getting laid i dont want a girlfriend but i hang out with a lot of girls all the time. doesnt bother me in the slightest though. if it happens it happens but if not im not frettin about it. would be nice but its bound to happen eventually so im just chillin.
People seem to like me. Can't tell you why, but I guess I'm funny in person. I'm sure after this year is over and the floor moves into houses and different dorms that will change pretty drastically, but for now most of the floor ~26 guys, can tolerate me and that's good enough.
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Originally posted by hi19hi19
Best strat: enjoy the game, play what you feel like when you feel like it. Don't think about what you are doing or why, enjoy the gameplay, the artistry behind the stepfile, and enjoy the music.
When the game isn't fun for you anymore, take a break. It's not a job, nobody here is professional and getting paid to play and force themselves to constantly improve... it's a game.
Originally posted by Shashakiro
Yeah, FFR is addicting...I don't think I'll get bored with this game unless I somehow become the best at it, which won't happen.
I have a few acquaintances who I never talk to anymore, but as far as close friends I don't have any who I see regularly. I talk to my roommate in my dorm, but we barely exchange any words besides greetings. I'm planning on joining the art club, but the only time they responded was to go to a museum. I wanted to know where they meet on campus so I can meet with them regularly, but so far they haven't responded since then. I'm planning on visiting some sort of painting club tomorrow, but I'm not sure whether I'm allowed to paint without showcasing my paintings.
I have a very difficult time making friends because I'm the kind of person who doesn't like to make the first effort to see someone unless it's for a practical reason. I've only had a few close friends in my life, but the only close friend I had in high school is attending a different college than mine. In addition, I haven't spoken with him in over eighteen months. I'm trying to become a lot more social because I sometimes feel very lonely, so hopefully I'll eventually be able to make a friend who I get along with often. I'm extremely picky when it comes to choosing friends, so it may take awhile longer. However, I hope to find a good friend in college soon!
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